Me and ex-gf of 4 yrs. made a solid 1 yr lng freindship b4 any sex. We were in complete love for 3 yrs, planned a future, i cheated once and broke her heart, she forgave me, but after another good year of love things went downhill, she broke up w/ me for another w/o having sex. She throws my mistake at me and i make her feel guilty about what she has done. 30 days later her and the new one dont talk and me and her have a great freindship, everyday talking, but she has slept w/ her ex, and broke it off w/ him. she claims she enjoys her freedom and wont be back w/ me anytime soon but she loves and misses me. then i lie to her and say im gettin back w/ my ex who she hates and she is very jealous, and upset at the my ex, plus now she calls me everyday, I know and she knows we were meant to be but should i ride this out to make her come back, because now its obvious she feels jealousy, i dont understand this, does it sound like well be back together regardless of what happens?
2007-09-02 18:19:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG so much drama! y do u like this relationship? U should just forget it..and move on
2007-09-02 18:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear. lying to her is not a good move. it might make her jealous but it will also make her tough. she won't lower her pride and come begging, she'll try to make you even more jealous and you will be stuck in a stupid cycle of trying to push each other away for the purpose of bringing each other back.
the surest way to do this is also the hardest.one of you has to swallow your pride and make this happen and i think it should be you.
invite her over for coffee, sit her down, look her in the eye and tell her the truth. you hurt each other, it led somewhere you didn't want it to go. but you still love her, you miss her, you are NOT getting back with your ex , you're sick of the big fake show, and you want her back .
or if you're really sure she feels the same way, skip this whole deal and just propose.that will show her you're serious for sure.
try to remind her of the best times in your relatonship whether it's by cooking a certain meal or having a certain flower on the table, or a special song...something to remind her why it's worth trying...good luck and i hope it works out.
2007-09-03 01:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by tweedledee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Lordy, grow up.
You two are playing games and this is not what a good relationship is all about.
You will not last together with the games.
When a couple bond's and marries, they are to become one, IE; they would NEVER do something to the other that hurt them as they would not want that hurt happen to themselves either.
I have never heard of a good relationship being based on jealousy and games, and that is where you are at now.
I suggest you move on, but grow up first..
2007-09-03 01:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say when you both figure out what "complete love" is find sombody to share that with because it sure should not be with each other. People who love each other don't treat each other this way and sure don't play these games. You both have a lot of mautring to do. Relationships are about much more than "sex", they are about respect, communication, selflessness, a common bond. You two seem to share none of these with each other. I would say find yourself then find a girl that you share these qualities with. Good luck to both of you.
2007-09-03 01:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both think that you are really for each other, then forget the past and make a new beginning. There is no point to continue making her jealous. Tell her the truth. But once you are back together, please do not cheat on her anymore.
2007-09-03 01:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt make her feel jealous that could only make things worse. tell her how u feel. and if u really love her u will wait 4 her. she just wants freedom before she gets tied down 4 ever! i think u will get back 2gether! good luck =)
2007-09-03 01:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop playing games sweetie. always be honest in everything that you do especially in your relationships. you never want a female to be with you other than really wanting to be with you. you dont want her to be with you because she does not want sally to have you because after she finds out that sally doesnt want you guess what, she will leave you alone quickly. so if she is not ready to settle down with you right now than so be it. respect her decision and leave it at that. friends. GodBless
2007-09-03 01:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama. You must be kids. Mature people don't play games like that!!
2007-09-03 01:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games!!, People hearts are not a toy, either your down or not, but stop playing games.
2007-09-03 01:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by peaches1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, never make someone you like jealous. That's never a good idea. 2nd, I dunno.
2007-09-03 01:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Skunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋