In the gym last week I was getting ready to leave and this older guy, maybe 40 or 45 commented on how I made pullups look so easy. I said to him " Well I am sure when you were my age they were easy for you to" Is that rude to say to him, or not? Im just curious so next time I see him I can apologize if it was.
2007-09-02 17:51:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
NO, it's not rude. I'm 40 years old and if i was to put myself in that guy's shoes, it's not. but, just to make things easy for you, next time you see him, why not tell him, "hey, i hope i have not offended you the last time we saw each other and if i did, i'm sorry. it's just that you look real strong and young for someone your age." what i mean is you compliment him next time you see him again, get it? hope this helps and another thing, i think it's rare for someone to find someone like you who always think of others. i know you are a great guy based on your question and your manner of asking. (oh by the way, MC KRUSTI G, you say you don't like old people? well, i hope you will die young, maybe tomorrow, because it would be a karma to you when a younger one will say that to you, too, if you get older. have a nice day)
2007-09-02 18:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by cannedguds 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm sure you didn't mean it the way it came out. Take it from someone older *smile*, it's easier not to have to hear a comment that reminds me I'm not young anymore.
Unless, when you said it, you noticed a reaction (like, he thought it was rude of you), I wouldn't say anything. But if you did perceive some sort of reaction, it might be nice to say, "you know, I made this comment when you asked me about....etc. etc....and later I thought, man that just didn't come out right!"
It's never the wrong thing to do to make certain you haven't offended another, and I commend you for even thinking about it.
2007-09-02 17:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It probably wasn't the most subtle thing to say. He could well have just been paying you a compliment because he does find it difficult. Perhaps you'd have been better saying something like, yeh it might look easy but its taken me a long time to get to this level. You sound like a descent person so just say I hope you didn't take me the wrong way last time we spoke..................good luck
2007-09-02 17:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...it was kind of rude. You probably said it without thinking. I think I would apologize. The "older guy" was actually paying you a compliment.
2007-09-02 17:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't really rude, but it showed that you may have a prejudice against older people. I would not apologize, but you might just ask how he's doing the next time you see him.
2007-09-02 17:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by rndyh77 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a crime what you said but it was kind of rude. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Instead of apologizing just start a conversation. you obviously have mutual interests, maybe you can give him training tips thereby letting hiim know he's not too old to do what you did. Just my opinion.
2007-09-02 17:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rude of u... he was complimenting u and u jabbed him and u owe him a big apology but keep in mind he has probably mulled over what u said and he might give u a what for especially for the smart aleck comment u made...
2007-09-03 01:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure - that would depend on how he took it. At first reading, I would say no, but then I can see how someone could easily get offended.
When you see him next week, just say "hey, if I offended you last week, I'm want to apologize." That covers all the bases.
2007-09-02 17:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old you are.
You were just stating a fact. Don't bother to say anything to him but if you notice him at the gym next time and say 'hi' and he gives you the cold shoulder, then maybe you could bring it up and apologise if he was offended.
2007-09-03 02:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by sprite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sort of. Back handed compliment is more like it. If I were you Id apologize just so he knows you didnt mean to be rude.
2007-09-02 18:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋