Because I think racism is stupid. My grandmother hates black people and she told me one day. And I told her that there is not difference between us, we are all human beings....and now they wont allow me in their house...
Should I have kept my mouth shut?
Or was it good to stand up for what I believe???
2007-09-02 17:17:40 · 15 answers · asked by Megan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need to stand up for what you believe in, even if it may 'hurt' some of those around you. You need to express the right opinion to your peers and family, especially when they have hurtful and bad opinions themselves.
You were completely correct in your judgment because racism is bad no matter which way you look at it. Your grandmother may 'hate' black people, but, as you said, everyone is the same; and if they she cannot see through to that, she is missing out. She is the one that needs to learn to keep her mouth shut when the expression of her opinions offend the greater majority of the US.
:] Good luck with your grandparents!
2007-09-02 17:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by mjdwan@snet.net 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing.
They could not handle it and now will not let you back in their house. That is their call so do not go trying to retract what you said and do not go begging to be allowed back in.
Make sure your parents, brothers, sisters and other relatives know where you are and what your phone number is, then just stay away from your grandparents. If they decide their love for you is greater than their hatred of blacks, they will get in touch with you.
If not, then you still did the right thing.
2007-09-03 02:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many times when people stand up for beliefs that cause problems or feed into their own negative behavior.
The action of racism causes rift....that was determined long ago when the action of hatred exposed itself via people's choice in behavior - people putting their thoughts into action by saying and doing what clearly results in hatred. That is really too bad if that is how your grandmother really feels but she's still your grandmother and you are her granddaughter.
2007-09-04 08:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should stand up for what you believe. Also if you happen to fall in love with someone other then your race you should not feel bad to bring him home. Your grandma lives in the past still as you can tell. Just explain to her more about how you feel. Good Luck! Also, Maybe you should talk to your mom and dad and tell them that you think your grandma is taking this out of control.
2007-09-03 18:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by tearzofaprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did right for standing up for your beliefs.
You, in my opinion, are better off without a relationship with such hateful people.
Send her a letter, letting her know how refreshing life is, without hearing her bad mouth anyone, that doesn't fit her little minded box.
Tell her how much freer you are and how much clearer your thoughts are, when you are not around bigots.
Let her know that she is small minded and you have overcome that bad family trait, by loving all humankind.
And when she is older and is in a nursing home, you will visit only when the black nurse is on duty.
2007-09-03 01:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by litecandles 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is to old to change, and there is nothing you can say to change her mind, why make matters worse by arguing.
Keep your throughts to yourself and if she brings it up...just say you would rather not talk about it.
If you said something to offend her in anyway, call and say your sorry, dont let this become between you. She probably is hurt, and she loves you. One day you will be a Grandmother and may disagree with your granddaughter.
Be the bigger person and give her a call or write a letter.
2007-09-03 19:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Grogan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dad kept a shotgun by the front door for my friends... How silly. Honestly. He believed what he believed. I left home at 13. Haven't seem him since.
2007-09-03 01:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you are black and your grandparents are not?
It's good to stand up for what you believe.
2007-09-03 03:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand by what you believe. Honestly, why have such a negative person around you for? Sad that it's your granny, but even family doesn't have the right to be so hateful.
2007-09-03 00:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Your granny may have had a bad experience with a man, and now blames it on a race instead of an individual.
2007-09-03 00:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋