i think i am depressed and have been cutting, but scared to tell my parents. what do i do?

Question

ok, see, i have been feeling depressed just recently like for a month, i have lost interest in doing a lot of things, and just feel sad all the time and cry probably daily for no reason, and i do cut. i live in sort of strict family, and if i tell them, they would think im just being dramatic and send me to my room. i dont know what to do, and i feel like only one of my friends understands, but encourages me to get help. im really scared, and dont have many reasons to feel this way. i have been having a lot of pressure and drama at school and my brother gets everything and i always get the blame. thats all i could think of but want to get help, but im scared of my parents. im only thirteen, so i guess it would shock them to, im home alone a lot, so i cut on my shoulders and legs. i do it on my legs so when they ask what happened i can say i cut myself shaving because i use arazor to cut, please help me and give me advice- charlo

Answer 1

Honey, you can get help. Go to a school counslor or a minister at your church. You could tell your family doctor too. These people are trained to listen and believe you and get you help.

Being 13 and depressed isn't the end of the world. You have many many years ahead of you that will be enjoyable once you beat the depression.

I had depression a few years ago. I told my doctor and he got me help. I ended up in the hospital but in the long run I got better. You can too, dear.

Tell someone because you can be happy again and life is worth living, especially with all you have to look forward to.



g-day!

Answer 2

yeah, even though I meditate all the time, I still go through some crazy depressions about various things. so one thing to see is that you should see it not as 'your fault' that you're a failure or any other kind of negative mentality. the best thing if you want to be open about this to your parents is maybe just pre-gaming it in a way, just go through your head what you would say, or tap them on the shoulders one evening and show them your cuts. even if they judge you negatively, once they get past the first reaction there should be some positive comforting. a lot of people deal with depression. the people that are on anti-depression and other related mental afflictions has doubled in the past ten years, so you're not alone and suicide is not a good ending, because in reality you are worth so much more than that. the way i usually deal with those bad days where the signs of depression build up from the morning, is to see or witness the signs, like how I would say "oh boy, this one might be one of those days again'' that thought right away prepares the brain with a sort of protection against any negative circumstances. if you can be aware of all the little things that build up your depression, that's ultimately very critical in seeing a way out of depression. breathing as well has helped me. if you get a migraine, stay in your room, listen to some music which may reflect your mood or just turn off the lights and just lie down for a bit. breathing from the stomach rather than the chest will also relax the body and mind quite a bit. i wish you well. peace

Answer 3

You should talk to a teacher you trust, or a school guidance counselor. They will never pass you off as just being dramatic when you go to them for help, and they will involve your parents but will stand there beside you and help explain it to your parents. When they went to school to be counselors or teachers they learned a lot about developmental psychology and will be there to help you through it and help your parents understand.

It sounds like you are really depressed. Cutting has become a cliche of sorts in our culture, but that doesn't make it any less real. You can get though this on your own, but it will be much easier for you with some counseling. You need to talk to an adult you trust.

Answer 4

So you want your parents to know, but you don't want that same old brushed off response....I get it. I had a problem like this too. The best thing you can do is tell a trusted adult- like a school counselor- or someone in your youth group at church- and tell them all of your feeling- just like you did here- you were so expressive, i fell like you were right here, talk to me face to face. ( i had depression/self harm problems too as a young teen. :) ) I wish i could give you a big hug and visit with you. tell the mediator what you wish to be done- you do have control over your future! then, have a meeting with your parents ONLY(you don't need a judgmental sibling around to stir up any trouble,) with the mediator, and hopefully you can get the attention that you are craving. (right?) your parents do love, i'm sure. and being a teen is tough! (these are the best years of our lives? who thought of that dribble? right, people?)

A positive activity that I did when i felt this way- was to day dream what life was going to be like when I got out on my own, where I would live, what i would do, what i would decorate MY place to look like- where i would work. how much respect my parents would give me, because i was making it on MY OWN. that really makes the light at the end of the tunnel so much closer. im me if you want.


I don't know who would rate yous' guy's above me low- every one has there own way of figuring out problems and sharing there experiences. i think you's guys' answers are great. you cared enough to respond at all, and share your veiws. that's awesome to reach out (even if it's anonnymous)

Answer 5

Sorry things are hard at the moment hun!...
I have been in a similar situation for many years now...im only 16 but started cutting at the age of 9 so i also couldnt tell my parents!...
Theres no right way to do this!...You can either gradually begin to stop cutting which will solve the situation or you could brave it and talk to your parents!...
They may not have as bad a reation as you think!...You need to explain to them exactly the way you are feeling and how long its been going on etc!...Hopefully they would take you to your GP who will get you the help you need!...
I understand its hard to tell your parents!...you could try writing it in a letter though!...Leave it for them to find and then its up to them how they approach it!...anything is worth a try right?...
Another thing you could do is talk to a trusted teacher!...they will probably have to inform your parents but they would do it in way to help you!
I wish you all the best hun as i completely understand what your going through!...
Feel free to email me if you would like to talk!...
Take care and stay strong!...
Xox...

Answer 6

Honey you are not alone out there in this big world. One of my daughters when she was 15 felt like there was no one to listen or talk so she was there so she turned to something harmful herself. She did this harmful thing for 4 years thinking that there is no other way to live. Till it got to the point of where her health got bad we almost lost her and no parents want to loose there child. I you to scared to tell someone who can help please take a friend to help you sat what you want to say. I know that you are such a blessing to people even if you don't feel like it. I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 7

I'm currently going through self harm, and am trying to recover. It's not going to be easy, I won't hide that from you, but it can be done. Depending where you are, if your under eighteen you can go and see your doctor confidentially, maybe you could get put on antidepressents, to help you cope with this difficult time in your life.

Please don't give up, things can get better, I promise.
Theres a couple of websites that can help you, one being
www.teenstacklinglife.co.uk, they've helped me a lot.

Take care, of yourself and feel free to email me anytime, it's [e-mail].

Answer 8

You are not alone. But something like this cannot be helped by keeping it to yourself. There are a lot of websites dedicated to this problem. They give you a lot of advice and ideas of how to cope with this. Please, I am talking from the experience of helping someone through this. It can be a long and difficult process. You really need to talk to someone who you can trust and know will be supportive. AND take you seriously. I have a lot of information about this on file. I would be glad to email you all this for you to read through if you want? This problem is unlikely to go away on its own. You can get through it.
Take care

Answer 9

The best place to go is your GP, if you think you can. You don't have to tell your parents you are going, they can see you in confidence.
If not is there a teacher or another adult you can tell?
Obviously cutting is destructive, but the main dangers lie from infection. So please go see someone about this. They will also be able to help you with your feelings and give you different ways to cope with them.
You don't need to feel bad about this, there are people who will listen to you and help you.

Answer 10

I have been through this to, I understand the pain. If you are afraid of your parents reaction, I would tell the school counselor. Maybe she could set up a meeting with your parents and explain to them more of what is going on. You need to tell someone, as you cannot deal with this pain yourself. It does not get better. You can also call some mental health places to just talk, They are there to listen. I will be praying for you. You are loved by God and He has a great plan for your life.