My best male friend of 1yr has been w his gf for 2 yrs n kissed me out of the blue n confessed he's in love with me.Ever since I've realized I have feelings for him too and we've continued to make out n he even went down on me.His gf has been on vacation for the past month and is returnin in 1 day.He says he loves her but loves me 2 n doesn't know wat to do bc he doesn't want to hurt either of us.He constantly makes negative comments about her even saying he thinks we're perfect together n doesn't want to throw it away.He even says he's not happy that his gf is returning.I've said we need to go back to being friends bc I can't date him (my parents don't let me date), wouldn't want to lose him as a friend, n bc I don't want to continue to hurt his gf.He says there is no way for us to be friends bc we r in love with each other n that hes never cheated on anyone b4.Do u think his feelings r true bc after all, he is cheating on her and could do it to me or do you think he is just confused?
2007-09-02 15:26:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He constantly says I make him happier than anyone else n we're perfect together.He always complains that his gf isn't appreciative etc.So is he just lying when he says he still loves her as well as loves me?He says he doesn't want to stop kissin me but doesnt want me to feel like the girl on the side either.We both don't know wat to do about this situation.
2007-09-02 15:28:47 · update #1
I'm not "trifling" at all..I've known him for a year and have never in any way flirted or led him on.I never even had any intentions of a relationship with him..single or not.After he kissed me though, I just realized that I DO have feelings for him as well.I am not thrilled about the fact that I'm a party in his cheating and I DON'T think it's ok..it's not as if I plotted this..it just happened.I didn't want to hurt anybody.
2007-09-02 15:40:00 · update #2
I guess he believes 'eating is not cheating"! Wow, what a coward and you are his friend for believing all that crap AND allowing him to go down on you KNOWING he has a girlfriend that he is going to kiss when she return. YUCK!
My main reason for NOT trusting so called GIRL friends of my BF. Your type is trifling. You are wrong on so many levels.
2007-09-02 15:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are still in high school, grow up.
this guy is just playing the two of you against each other. if he is cheating on his gf now, imagine what he will do when you become his gf. he cant love you if all you gave him was a kiss. leave him alone fast and dont go anywhere near him.
you will just end up getting your heart broke like this girl soon will have hers.
oh yeah, get tested for STD"s soon and dont make that mistake again.
2007-09-10 12:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by crazy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat except they been together 4 years and weve been bestfriends for 3 years. We are waiting till after highschool to get together. Dont feel bad but let him know he needs to be honest with his "now" gf. Goodluck.
2007-09-02 15:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know him better because you've been friends,analyze the situation,try to observe his sincerity,if you think you can take all the risk,then go on,love conquers everything,but first help him to break up with his girl,if he cant do that thn why waste your time
2007-09-10 14:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may think he has feelings for you, although, what would they really be??? you are untrustworthy, as you had sex with him, knowing he is in a long term relationship.you are sneaky, being you were with him in an inappropriate way and NOT ALLOWED to date yet.so what I am pretty much saying is... he likes you because your pants come down easy
2007-09-10 11:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes playing u. his girlfriend goes away for a month and all of a sudden hes all over u? get real. he just wants some *** while shes gone.
2007-09-10 07:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by ..::..Lovin him..::.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough situation. i mean you guys need to get thing figured out and i think if he's having strong feelings like like this he def needs to call things off with his girlfriend. maybe it would be good for him to spend some time to himself and figure out and he really wants and what really is important to him.
2007-09-10 13:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by angela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is wait for them to break up and i really do not know this guy, but who is say that he would not do that to you?!?
2007-09-02 15:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok wat he is saying is a bunch of crap dont listen to him. he cant obviously choose you then he is a dick head so leave him be and if he make up his mind that it is you he wants then he will leave her and it will be just you. and if not there are other fish in the sea.
2007-09-10 13:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋