my boyfriend just broke up with me recently and im already in a bad state of mind. its getting worse because he's been hanging out with this one girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. i suspect that he likes her and one of the reasons why he broke up with me is because he wants to be with her. i know i should forget about him because he's such a jerk and doesnt deserve me but i dont know how i should go about doing it. any suggestions on how to move on? i cant stand being in another relationship anymore so please dont suggest i look for someone else.
2007-09-02 15:03:18 · 15 answers · asked by yumyumz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I know this isn't terribly helpful, but time is really the only thing to help you get over someone. It's hard, but it will happen eventually. Try to stay busy with your friends & family. Don't contact him, cold turkey is the only way!!
Good luck!
2007-09-10 14:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing go buy a tub of ice cream ...lol:) second thing, these books help..."so hes really just not into you" and "it's called a break up because it's broken". They help I promise by the time you finish them books you will be soooo ready to move on and you will know what to look for in a guy so you don't end up with another jerk!!! Good Luck honey and stay positive, you never know when mister right will come along!!!
2007-09-10 21:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by MelJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your ready to find some one else. How long were you and this girl together i can understand your hurt and jealous you will get over him just need to focus on you and when he realizes that you are not so much intrested in him or what he is doing anymore he will regret it and hate him self for it. Just act as if he did not hurt you when you walk by him smile and ask him how he is doing that will make him wonder about you guys because you are going on like you were never hurt and then he will realize it
2007-09-10 20:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yumyumz,
A recent breakup is always hard! I know its easy to say move on. Believe me I understand what you are saying. But you do need to move on. Your boyfriend does sound like a jerk! And maybe you had your ups and downs! I don't know how long you were together. Get involved in a favorite hobby, sport or just get back out there to meet new and exciting, positive people. It sounds like you are a smart girl and know that you can do better!
2007-09-02 22:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by dls1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious or is this a joke?
If he broke up with you then what can you do other then accept it? I mean do you really want to get all worked up over his feelings that are not under your control? As far as her, you should be happy for him if you ever really cared...
I mean you calling him a jerk doesn't say much about yourself now, does it?...Deserve calling yourself a jerk..WE all get what we deserve and I am not talking of human revenge honey, sweety, pumpkin pie!..I understand it is much easier to let out aggression putting down another person to avoid what is beneath your inner most feelings, BUT child we all do it at one point or another in our life..WHO are you trying to fool?
2007-09-10 14:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two main methods
1. Everytime you find yourself thinking about him, remember the bad things about them, and think about only bad things. This helps you get perspective on the relationship as well as stopping you focussing on the past.
2. Arrange to do something you wouldn't normally do with some friends, like salsa dancing. Not only are you then socialising, you are also having to concentrate on something that isn't you inner turmoil
Do it for about three weeks and you'll be sorted
2007-09-07 11:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jugular 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that has worked for me in the past, is remembering bad qualities that you shouldn't have been dealing with. Just move on and know that you could do so much better. Why care for someone that can't appreciate you?
2007-09-10 15:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by p3nh0- nh0xa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay i totally know where you are coming from. i just not in that past month got over my ex-boyfriend and we onl went out for two months...but i really really liked him and i didnt want to be with anyone else becasuse he was the one i wanted to be with and i thought i couldnt find anyone better and i was so upset and thought about him all the time. if thats how you are then you need to try to get your mind on other things. you dont need to look for a new guy right now. its too soon for that. being hurt and still having feelings for someone who doesnt have them back is hard to get over...and there really isnt anything easy you can do. you just need to try to stay focused on other things...hang out with your friends alot...even if you dont feel like it...it WILL make you feel better. dont go to the movies to chick flicks for awhile. just try to get your mind and time occupied so you dont think about him AS MUCH. you will still think about him..but that way it wont be as much.
i know you must be so jealous of him and that other girl. but you need to try to act like you dont care when your around him or her. try to act like whatever.
just think of all the jerk things he said or did to u. think of how much he hurt you. i know it wont do much...but it will help a little.
DO NOT THINK OF MEMORIES OF HAPPY TIMES!!
there isnt really much you can do...i wish there was an easy button but theres not. the only thing you can really do is stay busy and give it time. but i promise after awhile you will be over him. and you will find someone who will be better. i know right now you dont want to...but you will and you will love it!
good luck!
im sorry
2007-09-10 16:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by blondebaby11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your friends and talk bad about ex-boyfriends. I'm sure you'll get your groove back when the time is right and the right fella comes along.
2007-09-02 22:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you like 15?
you are too young to be just concentrating on just one guy. play the field and stop thinking about this jerk? you are way too good for him and if he is with someone else, you find a better guy too.
2007-09-10 19:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by crazy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋