Weve been going out 1/12 years now. Im just about to finish uni and might have to go away to work, although im not sure were to yet. Shes finishing uni in a couple of months and doesnt know ere shes gonna b either. I love her but in my mind all i can think about is experiencing new relationships with other girls and enjoying my young life and not just being with the one person. Im not sure if I should break up with her and move on. Im scared that if i leave her then ill lose a good thing. We never fight and have a happy relationship. I also really want to ravel when I finsh uni and shes not to interested. Wat should i do, break up with her and move on, or stay and keep going out with her? any help is awesome as Im prety confused lol.
cheers
2007-09-02 14:50:01 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is about alot of things, and life is about compromises. If, in your mind, you can only think about what might be instead of what is, then leave her. Move on. If you don't, you will always wonder about that part of your life you never got to explore, and the regret will fester into a sore. Eventually, if you stay with her, that sore will hurt her as well.
The bottom line is, you have a need for the adventure. She can not, or will not, fulfill this need. It's not a bad thing. Everyone is like this. We all fulfill and demand of others.
Just make sure you don't look back on her with regret as well. Meaning: Handle a breakup with care.
2007-09-02 14:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anveda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well be honest to her. If you want another girl break it off with her nicely. Be considerate, you're gonna hurt her, the least you can do would be to explain to her the situation to clear her mind from unanswered questions. Or you can stay with her and forget about other girls but like you said you're young and you want to explore, I'm sure she might want to do the same. Overall you can learn a lot when you explore.
Also you probably will lose a good thing but you will also gain another good thing, experience and possibly another girlfriend just as great as her or even better. Its only fair for you to tell her if you want to be with someonelse so she can find someone out there that truly loves her rather than having someone that wants another girl and its only fair for her to let you go so you can live your life. You wont lose a good thing if you and work things out with her. Friends is always an option then you will still have a good firend and even a good gf.
2007-09-02 21:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by bob.doley80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make the mistake of letting this thing go.i have friends who did the same thing thinking there should be more out there and realised there is not and what they had was the best, but it was too late by then.
some people meet the one they really connect with early and some have to go through several bad dates and break ups first. since u said u r finishing uni im assuming that u r not some young teenager to take infatuation for love, if u r happy dont be stupid by spoiling it.
2007-09-02 22:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by sab 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that to break up with her because you're bored is dumb. If all you can think about is spending time with other girls, then you need to get your head straight. If this is the girl that you want to spend the rest of your life with, stay with her. Girls shouldn't be something that you try on until one looks good on you. If you don't see yourself with her forever, tell her that you might have made a mistake, and maybe she might feel the same way.
But if you do end up breaking up with her, make sure you really know a girl before you decide to start dating. The important thing is to think how she feels.
2007-09-02 21:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me..... I was in your situation and I made the wrong move, I will tell you the right one.
I was with my ex 4 years when we were 20 and I told her I wanted to "take a break" and we did. I ****** other women just like I wanted to bet when I was ready to get back together with her, she had already found someone else.
Here is what I want you to do: Cheat on her while you are traveling, and she will never find out!! and even if she does she will forgive you!! trust me, she will forgive you!!
You can have your fun and also have the relationship you want, it is possible if you do it the right way. But if she catchs you, never do it again.
** I do not encourage cheating unless it is on the first girl you were ever with and you dont want to lose her**
2007-09-02 22:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard because you dont mention how old you are, but it sounds like you are young. If you have any doubts, you should move on. It sounds like you would like to experience new relationships and different things, and if this is the case, she will end up getting hurt if you continue to stay with her. I would just explain to her that you are both young and you dont feel that you can be this "tied down" at this point in your life. Yes, it will hurt, but in your heart, I think you really know what you want, and at this point it sounds like more than just a exclusive relationship with this girl... Good luck and best wishes
2007-09-02 21:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kim S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with her being the only girl you have been with so far?? you have a good relationship so why obsess over what you could possibly be missing? Even if you had loads of experience it does not change how you feel about her. If the relationship is solid it will last, but breaking up for the green grass on the other side of the fence makes no sense. You know what they say about that grass......
2007-09-02 21:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay dont ruin a good thing exspecially if you've been going out for a year and a half and you love her love is way more rewarding then a few one night stands in the end if you do you will regret it you can still have fun even though you have a girlfriend but if u are going to cheat on her its better to break it off.
2007-09-02 21:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by mommy2be0133 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can figure that out. I understand not wanting to settle down at such a young age, but if you've found what you're looking for, why look elsewhere? On the other hand, you may want to take a break just to explore life. That doesn't necessarily mean dating other women, but you can't leave her hanging if you are open to meeting other women. You don't have to commit yourself for life this young. Just know that while you're exploring, she will be too, and may not be there if and when you return.
2007-09-02 21:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got involved with someone too soon in life, now you have to decide if all the rest of the women will match up to her or be better than her or worse.
Only one way to find out, that's to date other girls and see it there are better girls out there than her, for you.
If you feel this way now, you will feel than same way after marring someone and having two kids or something.
That's why people should all have sex before getting married. Not everyone is a fit on this planet.
Simple fact.
2007-09-02 21:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Date Dr. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋