Everyone has a wound from their experiences in life. Can you, are you willing to see that wound in someone who comes off as hateful, rude, provoking, sarcastic...? Have there been times when you wish someone would acknowledge your pain?
2007-09-02 14:43:07 · 18 answers · asked by NONAME 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can see it sometimes. I especially saw it in my father. He was an abusive alcoholic who caused terrible pain to everyone around him. But I knew how he was raised, and while he was growing up, he was used as a punching bag just like I was. It wasn't difficult to see where his rage came from. But just because I could pinpoint his emotional damage didn't mean that it was any easier on me when I was a kid and he was breaking my bones.
In another case, I have a friend who's viciously sarcastic. Even when he gives you a compliment, it sounds like a terrible put-down. But I know three things that happened to him that left him in terrible personal anguish. The good thing is that he's actively trying to repair the damage that he's carrying, and the damage he's causing to others. But these things don't happen overnight.
As for me, I grew up fighting. Many people considered me a terrible bully because I fought so much and spent time in juvenile jail. But even as a kid, I didn't hit people who didn't drive me to it first. Now I'm grown up (some people might want to debate that) and I am a pacifist. I don't want to fight anymore. I'm sick of it. I know some of the reasons I have a hair-trigger temper and why I spent so much time beating on other people, and have worked very hard to correct my behavior. It was a conscious choice for me. I didn't want to live that way any more. I get more mellow with every year that passes.
2007-09-02 14:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by solarius 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's funny. I try to look at hateful people more sympathetically and see cause rather than effect, but a lot of the time I just end up hating them. I guess it's not funny. Hate really does perpetuate itself easily.
There have been times when I wanted someone to acknowledge my pain. But I'm overly self-pitying sometimes and I like to bring everyone else down too. It did make me hate those around me though. When I was really down and out I used to loathe my friends for the smallest little things, some of which weren't even faults. I'd drink a lot too and be incredibly provoking and rude. I was sarcastic, I still am sarcastic, I will be sarcastic til the day I die. I've been sarcastic since I was like 8.
2007-09-02 14:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sure, I can see it...but their hate is not justifiable. Let's take Hitler for example...can you empathize for his emotional wounds? Or do you think that despite what hurt him in life to make him become so evil outweighs the hate and evil he dished out to a whole race over many years?
We all have hurts and wounds, but to justify them because of wounded hurts doesn't give justice to those in their destructive path.
As far as needing someone to acknowledge my pain...yes, sometimes it is needed if I want to get my reassurance from others. That acknowledgement and acceptance should really be coming from myself rather than looking outword for it.
2007-09-02 14:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by BookButterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting people hurt people. People full of hatred and condemnation are the most wounded people in the world. Unfortunately burying their pain only allows the cycle to continue. But, yes I do see it often.
2007-09-02 14:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I can sympathize with people from a distance in situations you're describing. But I think it would be hard to feel empathy for someone in a confrontational situation. I guess that's what Martin Luther King taught, and he was a wise man, but that takes a lot of self-control.
2007-09-02 14:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you see someone who is full of self pity, can you hope they will grow up and stop feeling sorry for themselves?
Everyone is occasionally wounded in life. Some just cry about it all of the time. Can you, are you willing to see that the people who cry about how painful life is are usually very full of self pity and are afraid to act like an adult? Have there been times when you wish people would suck it up and stop crying all the time?
2007-09-02 14:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes.
I was by my own father I am 29 and I told him I forgave him of what he did to me for numerous years in my childhood He turned around and said I didn't say no. WHAT??
That was like doing that stuff all over again.
But I have forgave him again and moved on _there are things that can hold ya back if you let them,Right??
He is obviously deeply hurt and I pray God gets a hold of Him before He dies.
2007-09-02 14:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! Anger is generally displaced hurt. I've no need to have my personal pain validated, I use humor to displace hurt feelings. I've never been deliberately rude, provoking, etc., You never know what others are suffering either. Making someone laugh lessens my pain and, hopefully brightens their day. Good luck sweetie.
2007-09-02 14:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Brigid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people who hate are mentally defective. Compassion comes from knowing it's not all their fault. Though they might have some choices, they might not have enough control over their life to climb out of their despair.
2007-09-02 14:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
Yes I can. I am an old troll from Dal Nat chat rooms that hated GOD,Jesus and especially Christians. The more I hated the more it ate me up. I can see it. It was me for a long time.
2007-09-02 14:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋