I'm dating a wonderful guy who I really like and he likes me too. We've been dating for almost a month now and we wanted to take things really slow so we could get to know each other better, but now we're starting to get pretty intimate. We went out on a date just recently and he told me that he's a virgin and asked if I was as well. I told him I wasn't and he seemed somewhat disappointed. We're still dating and still intimate as before, but will it ever go beyond dating because I'm not a virgin?
2007-09-02 14:36:42 · 15 answers · asked by LadyPrincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like both you have a good relationship with each other and respect each other.
Tell you what.... if that is the case, ASK HIM. Yes, ask him directly. Being intimate does not only mean getting physical. It also mean, you are able to talk about intimate details of each other.
I believe, since both of you are still together, he was dissapointed for a moment, but understood your honesty, and decided to not to make it an issue. There is a lot of maturity involved in this. Otherwise, he will be long gone, already.
Pick a quiet time and talk to him. Ask him what it means to him and ask him if it changes anything between two of you.
Remember to be honest!
2007-09-02 14:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible for him to still want a relationship with you. A month is still a very short time to even think about having sex with him. Basing on what you have said about not being a virgiin, you should be very careful with men and make sure that they really do love you before you sleep with them and they are not with you just because they think they can get into your pants. A man who truly loves you will not end a relationship because you are not a virgin. He just probably feels insecure at the moment that you are experienced and he is not.
2007-09-02 21:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by ods 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. If he likes U then he wont care if ur not a virgin. Besides, he might even like that, because u can teach him a thing or two. No akwardness from u. U can tell him what u like. Some guys prefer non virgin women even if they are for this reason. Maybe he expected a virgin, since girls usually wait and guys usually don't, but he'll get over it. Don't fret, and if he doesn't want sex from u because of that...oh well. Date him, as a friend, and then when it's over, it's over. But judging from what's going on, I'd say he's still into u.
2007-09-02 21:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's impossible for us to know. Unless he's a virgin for religious reasons, it shouldn't matter. Just because you've had sex before doesn't mean the two of you have to have sex. I'd recommend either asking him if it's a problem, or letting things stay the way they are until he brings it up. Even if he was disappointed, that doesn't mean he's not interested anymore. If he acts like it's a problem, he's not worth your time anyway.
2007-09-02 21:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will if he truly loves u. however this is a big hit to him since he is a virgin and u r not. but if he feels uncomfortable about it, u should talk to him. he needs to know that even though u are not a virgin, u love him right now and no one else. if he truly loves u, then ur past should not matter. also, try not to mention the past sex life as it could slow down ur relationship. hopefully hes not one of those people who dwell on the past and is a good guy who really loves u. best of luck
2007-09-02 21:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by krndude16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to accept you and everything that comes with you, including you not being a virgin. What happened in the past is just that in the past. If he can accept you not being a virgin it can go beyond dating. If you have concerns about this you should talk to him.
2007-09-02 21:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by lil vamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be kind of disappointed to but it would be nothing break up over. Its just that i would like a girl that would share the same morals as me.
2007-09-02 21:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't. If it does then don't waste your time, he might be one of those guys who would never let you live it down.
I would prefer a woman with experience any day of the week baby so don't let it get you down.
2007-09-02 21:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should not matter. If that was the case, we only could date one person in our life.
2007-09-02 21:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really should not matter. If it bothers him then oh well send him on down the road.
2007-09-02 21:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by answersmaybe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋