what should i do?? cheating girlfriend.?

Question

My girlfriend is 15 years old and i am 16 years old,weve been together 5 months. shes gorgeous and everything. well she cheated on me (sex with other guys) 6 times (she told me about it and apoligized) i took her back all 6 times,she cheated like this on all her ex's but i love this girl more then anything. everyone thinks shes a slut,i caught her makingout with my older brother 2 months ago (hes 18 years old).. what do i do?

is there anyway i could make her happy? or make her change?

Answer 1

Don't be a dr. dre. just try your best not to shoot them both.

Answer 2

Don't fool yourself there is no possible way to change a person. That doesn't mean people can't change. People are able to change but they must want to change. You cannot change someone. They must want to change and ask for help. This is the sad truth of things. It is the same for everybody from the alcoholic to the cheater to the wife beater.

So, get that through your head. Again don't fool yourself into believing otherwise. Sadly this girl is not for you. She cheated on you 6 times. More insulting is sleeping with your brother. That makes your brother a rapist by the way because he is 18 and she is underage but thats another topic. The fact is that they both violated a certain santiti. That is violated the family boundary. I would be very pissed with both especially my brother is he did that. That shows lack of respect and consideration on his part. Some brother eh!. I would just leave her. All you are getting out of this relationship is being hurt. Again, she already crossed a big boundary by sleeping with your brother let along the other 5 guys.She has cheated 5 times too many. I would had not even forgiven her for the first time. That means she doesn't respect you. You cannot have a relationship without mutual respect. It simply doesn't work that way. Now, if you where saying that you are just with her for the sex then I supposed in a street boys kind of way it is somewhat fine. Don't fool yourself into believing that this is love. It is the same as going to a strip club and pretend that the stripper loves you. She doesn't. She is giving you a lap dance because you are paying her. The moment you stop paying is the moment she doesn't love you. Same with your girl there. I said girl not girlfriend.

Another thing you are not considering is the consquences of her little adventures. There are two things that could happen. #1 is venerial diseases. If she sleeps around the odds of getting a venerial disease increases. If she gets one then you will get one too. In the least you should be protecting your health. Part of taking care of yourself is not sleeping with people that sleep around. The other thing is that what if she gets preganant. I mean by another guy. This type of girl usually don't get their kids recognise by the biological fatehr. in desperation they turn to any fool (that being you) to help them raise their kids. At a minimum pay for her kid. That does not means love. All it means is that you will be working your *** off to raise someone elses kid while she is out there taking it from behind by some guy while you are flipping burgers at mc donalds.

Remember that loves is a two way street. Maybe you do really love this girl. In my opinion is a lack of self confidence but hey I could be wrong. Maybe it is true love. However, she doesn't love you. The love is not being reciprocated. Love does not mean going out on purpose and doing things that will hurt your partner. I think you should find a nice quiet place where you can really think what is going on here. A relationship like this is not going anywhere. She has crossed boundaries and she has no fear of doing so since you have showned that whatever she does you will always come back to her. So, I ask you how much is enough. Who does she has to sleep with for you to open your eyes. Perhaps if he sleep with your mom and dad then will you see it? I mean come on? I'm sorry for you that you are in this situation. It will be a tough desition but you must make a firm decisive desicion because your future depends on it. I vote get a different girlfriend or at the minimum get rid of this one. Cut your loses and learn from this experience.

Answer 3

Well after the little one is born, you should absolutely assess to look if it's yours, I believe proper now you must go and find yourself, just have someday for yourself, if it seems that the baby is not yours, you then and you most effective comprehend that your not obligated to stick with her and support raised her youngster, if you wish to then that's you, but you don't have to aid her lift a child that you simply failed to aid carry into this world. One other factor is that you just can't predict if this little one is yours or no longer, being that she slept around while still dozing with you, "that is gross" but anyways, just seeing that you pull out doesn't suggest that she wont get pregnant both, but when she did not use defense with the other dudes, you then should go get verified too, i do not need to let you know this, however I feel you deserve just a bit however or more then something someone higher. Hope that this helps. Xoxo

Answer 4

You can't make anybody change that is not willing to change. Honestly, I think your too good for this girl. You need to drop her, she is not any good for you. There are plenty of other "gorgeous girls" out there. You might be in "love" with this girl but obviously she's not in "love" with you. She is hurting you and I think its time that you move on. If she can cheat on you with all these other guys, and cheat on you with your brother as well then that means she does not have any respect for you or the relationship. Do yourself a favor, break up with her now, if you wait to long your going to be too attached. As a matter of fact, the longer that you stay with her the longer it is going to take you to get over her, and you are going to get used to this negative behavior. She does not have respect for herself. Leave her now! - Good Luck! - Take care!

Answer 5

Nobody deserves this. I'm 15. My boyfriend, also 15, cheated on me for three other girls. I knew about it the whole time, but I loved him too much to do anything about it. I didn't want to lose him, but I certainly wasn't going to reward him by staying with him or having sex with him after knowing about what he was doing. I wouldn't even kiss him after a while. Then, he found out that I knew, and he found out that was the reason I wouldn't do anything with him, and he decided he was bored of me. He dumped me online, AT HIS OTHER GIRLFRIEND'S HOUSE! That was about two months ago, and I'm pretty much over it, because, why would I want to be with someone who didn't care enough about me to stay with only me, when I was perfectly loyal? My advice: get out of this relationship now, and you'll wind up with the upperhand. PS-If this helps at all, you may think that your girlfriend is pretty, but I thought my boyfriend was hott, and now, I've seen guys so much hotter. I'm sure it will be the same way with you, you know, with girls, I mean. LoL.

Answer 6

If she cheated six times, there is no way you could change her. That is the way she is. You need to move on to someone who can be loyal. I know you will miss her, but you will get over find someone else soon.

She's treating you like a doormat, she clearly doesn't love you back because she is sleeping with every guy in town. You have already done way more than you should have by taking her back six times.

Answer 7

This is a really hard situation to deal with. She's only 15 and not mature yet. You aren't completely mature yet either. If she's being unfaithful, she isn't worth your time. You THINK you love her but there are other girls out there that wouldn't cheat on you, I'm sure of it;) If you keep taking her back, she thinks it's OK to do what she does and that it doesn't bother you! My suggestion to you is to get rid of her b4 she gives you something (STD's). Tell her she needs counseling.. and move on with your life. Find someone who deserves you. Good Luck Buddy;)

Answer 8

No, you can't make her change. She is going to continue to hurt you. It's time you take control of this situation. I know you love her, but however love doesn't hurt. Tell her the rides over, it's time for her to get off. It's over, and move on. You can't change anyone. You deserve much better. There is somone out there that will treat you much better than her. If you continue seeing her she will continue taking advantage of you. As I said Take back the control and stop letting her hurt you. Shes continues to cheat on you , and she isn't going to stop.
Good luck
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Answer 9

She will never change, well wen she gets older and wiser and realises shes acting like a slut then maybe.
If she wants to do all this **** then take my word you wont be able to stop her. Woman like that see niceness in guys a weakness that they can play on
It sounds like to me that shes using you as a doormat.
I know it sounds harsh, but hey its only my opion.
I say just follow your heart.But be carefull where you tread.
Good luck and take care x
By the way if she can do it once she can do it again (never mind 6 times)
And im not calling you stupid or nefin for taking her back.
Love is blind and all that .But i was in a relationship like this. In the same position as you and that really didnt work out.
x

Answer 10

I know you're feelings are very strong for her but you have to think with your brain, okay. I have never in my life met a cheater that has changed, not for love, not for anything. She will continue to break your heart. If you grow up and marry her, You will never know if your children are really yours or if they are some other mans. She could give you a disease that could kill you. She is very foolish and iresponsible and you deserve better. (You should have dumped her after you caught her with you brother! that is the lowest.)

Answer 11

Six times is six times to many. You your head not your glands and dump her. There must be someone out there to take her place. Don't you think 15 is a little young for sex. I'll say one thing, you take forgiveness to the nth degree. I think both of you need to grow up a lot. You are letting your bodies run your life. And I don't mean to be unfair to you.

I don't understand why guys/girls put up with this crap.