At our wedding 10 yrs ago I was pregnant with our daughter and my mother in law took over and planned the whole thing. Even my "gown" was a department store job that didn't fit right!! We were low on money and had a baby coming so we had to do what we could. Now we have money to do things differently. My question is this: Is it tacky if I got a regular wedding dress to wear and did it up the way I wanted to in the first place. Or is it too late seeing you can't relive your wedding day again? I need advise here!
2007-09-02 14:22:52 · 12 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi and congratulations! Since this is an answer board, you will be getting lots of different answers on this one so here is my two cents:
~ I would say, YES, on the gown --- but NOT WHITE. Why not, go with the champagne color that you can find now, or a pale pink or another color that you like. I don't think it should be an over the top gown. Really, a simple evening gown would look nice.
You say you want to do it up. That is great! My other suggestion would be to do it up according to wedding vow renewal etiquette. Here are two websites that have covered this extensively. Go to them and read up on what is appropriate and not appropriate!
http://www.topweddingquestions.com/forum/Second_Weddings_C9/Renew_Wedding_Vows_F12/
http://www.weddingpalace.com/WeddingAdvice/default.asp#Browse
These two sites answer lots of questions about vow renewal ceremonies and the answers are by experts - people in the bridal industry. Good luck!
2007-09-02 15:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Renewing vows is NOT another wedding, nor a do-over. It's basically just having a ceremony at a church or another location, followed by a simple anniversary dinner and/or party for family and close friends. You do not wear a wedding dress, just a pretty dress, nor have all the stuff which goes with a big wedding. It is not a wedding. You are already married, regardless of the circumstances at the time.
So just plan something lovely, and simple.
2007-09-03 02:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not "renewing your wedding vows" . . let's call this what it is, you are having "a second wedding" . . the party that you never had. And good for you!
You can buy a cream colored wedding gown and the "groom" can wear a tuxedo. You can have a bridal bouquet . . a three-tiered wedding cake . . invitations . . a Flower Girl dropping petals . . a DJ . . a nice three course dinner . . a photographer . . wedding guests. . and the honeymoon that you never had.
Avoid . . registering for gifts. Your guests should not see this "as a gift giving event."
Avoid . . wearing a WHITE gown and a veil in front of your face. Buy a cream colored gown.
Avoid . . having too many Bridesmaids or Groomsmen.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-09-03 01:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
For a "vow renewal" choose a gown you like & that is flattering. Get something that you love! I do agree with the other posters that this is not a "do over" - don't try and make it "the wedding we never had" - it's a vow renewal & anniversary party. Wear a dress you love - have a party, but no gifts, no registry
2007-09-03 02:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get my "wedding white dress" as last minute wedding decision before he left for Iraq, couldn't afford it. We figured for our 1 year anniv, we renew our vows while on our honeymoon in Maui in Feb. I get my white dress this time (destinational design), which I just picked it up form the bridal store (Alfred Angelo) the few main store, 1 located in Beverly hills yesterday.
I think it would be extreme to "go all out". But, I don't find it tacky if you want your white dress and guest for a special event enlighting your 10 year marriage. (congrats btw!).
I am not having bridesmaids as I didn't have any the first time. That is up to you if you do or not. I would keep it simple, but really do what you really would like to have.
If you didn't get it the first time, why settle to not get it the second? Who cares if others think it is tacky or not. The point it is your renewal, your memories and your special time. No one else's opinion matters in your life choice hun.
2007-09-02 15:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may wear whatever attire you like as long as the style and formality matches the formality of the event (dictated by time of day, location, etc.).
What To Wear
Don the original gown, design the dress you never did, or deign to be different. You can wear anything you like. Brides who were married years ago may choose to celebrate in their original attire. If you've never had "the dress of your dreams," this is a great time to go out and get one. You may wish to omit the veil, but if you love the look, wear what makes you happy. Consider wearing jewelry or accessories you've given each other over the years. Something old, something new, something tomorrow, something of you.
2007-09-02 14:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by :-o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what will make your husband and you happy, it's about your love so anything goes! My first wedding (at 20) I didn't have a dress, and I really regretted it. For my second wedding I bought a long wedding dress, just what I wanted, and it felt wonderful. The important thing is for YOU to feel beautiful on your day, and however you need to do that, do it!! Have fun with it... :-)
2007-09-02 14:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kim K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can wear WHATEVER wedding dress you want to wear to your vow renewal ceremony.
My aunt and uncle had their vow renewal ceremony and she had on a beautiful white wedding dress, and a wedding party, etc.
My advice would be to NOT do a registry and do not expect a shower or a bachelorette party.
2007-09-03 01:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would get a wedding dress but not a ball gown style or anything with lots of beading. You should get something more on the plain/simple side.
2007-09-02 15:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by Toni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest getting something gorgeous, with a veil, long skirt, train even, but NOT white--whatever definite-colored pastel you look good in. You'll enjoy it, and nobody will think you're a) living in the past or b) tacky.
With, of course, your husband dressed to the 9s, too!
2007-09-02 14:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋