My boyfriend and I both say I love you to one another a LOT, and our relationship is the best one I have ever been in, he says the same thing, but - not that he doesn't wanna move in with me, he just says it's soon... Am I being one of the pushy girls?
2007-09-02 14:20:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I think if he keeps saying he doesnt want to move in together, I would let the issue go. Sometimes its better if couples live apart, abscence does make the heart grow fonder.
2007-09-02 14:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by di12381 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you could never say that your relationship's the best you'd ever had just because you love each other so much. Time will only tell and define such. And with regard to you moving in with him, if the guy said that it is too soon, you should in fact respect his decision and be happy with it. Not all men would be like him, who'll wait for the right and appropriate time for the both of you to be living under one roof. It's not that he loves you less than you do, it could be the other way around, that he loves you that much that he wants the both of you to be sure and secured enough to be living together. i hope that helped.
2007-09-02 14:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by PAul Andrew Ng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's not ready to move in together, then respect his wish. He may just still need time, just becasue you are ready doesnt mean he should be or is ready. Give him time, he will come around when he is ready. I think 9 1/2 months is too soon.
2007-09-02 14:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. it is very soon. I would not move in with him until you two are married if that happens...moving in together is not good mentally, emotionally and physically..big disaster...you two will become different people and clash in a big mess. God Bless.... I know what I am talking about I have witnessed it happen to people with your "same story"...9 1/2 months is nothing...that is brand new.....take some time and grow together...
2007-09-02 14:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by old 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter the reasons; love, lust, convenience, or financial reasons, moving in will only further complicate your relationship. A good easy read is Dr. Laura's "10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives". Read it and do what she says.
2007-09-02 14:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Been there, done that 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to live together?
What other reasons do you think he has that keeps him from moving in together with you?
You can still be a couple without living together...
Love is wanting to see the best of a person.
Love is not here for us to use as a guilt tactic
2007-09-02 14:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by sparrowear@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time is after you get married. Otherwise you'll be back on here in a year or so asking "why won't he marry me?" If you move in with him and he has all the benefits of having a wife without actually having one, do you really think he'll be in a hurry to get married to you?
2007-09-02 14:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he says it's too soon that means it's too soon for him. If you force the issue he'll just find someone who will not force the issue. On the other hand, if it's such a big issue to you, perhaps you should find someone who will let you move in with him in a few months. I'm sure you can find one.
2007-09-02 14:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by six3x 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound like your pushy that is the next step, most guys are affraid of commitment, he probably thinks moving in means married with children! its not too soon, my husband and i moved in together after a 1 month relationship 7 years down the track we are married with children and its great! good luck!
2007-09-02 14:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by krystalbabe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my boyfriend and i moved in together after 9 months of dating, and its been the best, the only thing is and you dont mention this but we are going to get married the only thing stopping us is my school loans, but im guessing secne he doesnt want to move in ya'll arent to the enagament part yet so id wait till you BOTH want this, that way you are both willing to make it work cz living together can be really really hard at times, so trust me wait till hes ready to! good luck!
2007-09-02 14:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs T. 2009 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋