How to get over shyness with guys...?

Question

When I am out, I can talk to people and have no problem with it. I am not shy with that. When I see a guy that is hot and looking at me, I somehow cant think of anything to say. I have a great personality, I just cant get over the shyness to talk to a guy that is showing signals of interest. Please dont say I am shallow or whatever for asking how to talk to a hot guy, they are not for serious relationships, just a date or something. Thank you for your help!

Answer 1

You seem to have a nice healthy self-esteem, so I don't think that's the problem. It might just be that you are kind of intimidated by them in a way ~ hot guys can be intimidating sometimes. I think you already know that you are good enough for any guy, so I don't need to lecture you about that. I think you just need practice, because you're not used to doing it. The best thing to do is to fake it! Seriously, it works. You are going to have to fake feeling confident around these guys, even if you don't really feel it. Once you've talked to a few guys, it will keep getting easier, until it's no problem at all. If you have trouble thinking of what to say, just keep a recent conversation in your mind. What did you talk about with your friends recently that was fun or interesting? All you really need is an icebreaker, and if your personalities are a good match, the conversation should flow pretty easily after that. There is no quick way *around* this problem, you can't go from shy to confident instantly. The only way out of this problem is to run right through it! So you're going to have to go and target some hot guys, pretend you're not shy, and start talking to them! Sounds like a nice assignment to me.

Answer 2

Well, you could always think of something to say. A good trick if to find a topic that guys like, such as sports or cars or video games and do some study on it so you know something about it. (This also works well if you like that topic). Then you just use that to talk to the guy. Even better would be to ask for 'help' with something.

A classic is to say as little as possible. Simply walk over to the guy and say 'hello'. Let him say what ever after that...you just respond with questions and nods. You don't realy talk about anything, you just keep talking.

No matter what you will feel dumb, and silly and such the first time you talk to any guy. IT'S NORMAL.

Answer 3

For a woman...it's easy. Just walk up really close. Get within 12 inches of him so that you are in his personal space. Look up at him with a big smile and say "hi my name is______." After he gives you his name, ask him a question so that he knows you are interested in talking to him. As a guy, we are trained to say something in an attempt to make you laugh. Reward the effort by putting your hand on his arm and giving a flirty laugh. Trust me, nothing is hotter than when a girl doesn't make a guy make the first move all of the time. It gets tedious. He will be so happy that you did this favor for him that as long as you can keep a good conversation going he's yours all night.

Answer 4

I feel your pain. I have many guy friends and talk to them like they're family, but when it comes to someone who catches my eye...well, it's just different.

Whether or not we like to admit it, I think it goes back to fear of rejection. (I am extremely outgoing and confident, but even so, it's natural to fear being told 'no' too - especially dating wise.) So, I had to 'train' myself not to be afraid of rejection.

First off, go somewhere where no one really knows you, so you won't bump into anyone that you'd have to see again. Secondly, either go to this place alone or with a very best friend who understands your situation and who you can be embarrassed in front of. Your call.

Finally, make yourself walk up to a decent looking guy and be honest, flirt, do whatever you feel you need to "practice" on. Depending on how stressed you are, I'd talk to (you don't even have to ask out) 1-5 guys. If you end up meeting someone you really like, great. If not, you'll never see them again and you got experience.

Remember, if there is definiate chemistry between you and the guy, the guy is probably just as nervous as you are.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

How? By realizing that guys are NOT that great. They aren't the pillars, lightbearers, or majestic beings you might believe them to be. After a few relationships you'll find that most of them are ulterior and hurt feelings without flinching.

This goes both ways. I was so lonely once that I revered any and every girl I saw. I finally met one and she asked for so much money I almost went under. After realizing how little she cared about me, even though she did spend time with me and give me the physical (superficial) affection, I wasn't afraid to show how angry I was with her (sometimes). I finally got the courage to refuse to give her money (when I didn't have any).

Answer 7

Guys are shy in the same way believe it or not. Learn how to give a friendly smile be confident. Go up and ask them how they are doing. Think of a bunch of possible questions like What classes are you taking. How many brothers and sisters do you have, etc. Not all guys will like you. The more you talk to and meet, the more likely you are to find one you get along with and likes you back.

Answer 8

just stay calm and try to think positive and if they talk to you try to keep the conversation small and away from possible questions that will make you feel awkward. And if they stare if you wanna smile back dont look directly at them look at something that is close to them yes you may feel like an idot but it helps follow these untill you feel better about it and soon you wont be as nervous.

Answer 9

i am a twenty one year old male. if a woman were to hand me a well written eloquent letter, i would most likely reply. exchange contact information! that is a very important step. however, i wouldn't know; i've never been in a relationship or anything remotely close. good luck to you.

Answer 10

i hate being shy! at least you don't turn red like i do. just find something to talk about when you see the "hot" guy again. haha so strike up the conversation. there's really nothing else you can do, but talk.