There is a guy that I go to church with and I really like him he makes me smile when ever I see him. He lives with one of my friends so it makes it easy for me to see him or make an excuse to go and see him. I really don't know how to tell him that I like him due to the fact that I don't know his status and that he's so HOT that I clam up everytime that I am near him. He's a good man, and I don't feel that he would put up a front. I never see him with any girl at church, he usually sits with my friend. How should I approach him, I've asked him if he wanted to go with the group to applebee's after church but he always has to go home do to his job and having to be up at the crack of dawn. If anyone has an idea to get his attition let me know I am going crazy trying to think of ways to ask him out without feeling like an @$$.
2007-09-02 13:09:40 · 16 answers · asked by jessica_lynn2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well let me explain more in detail I know what he does, he's a physical therapist...so he works crazy hours. We went out as a group on friday night and he sat next to me but I think that my friend did that because he knows that I like him. I am a very shy person due to reasons of an ex of mine and now have a really big fear of rejection.
2007-09-02 13:36:34 · update #1
Sometimes it's hard to reach out, especially if you have had a bad experience with someone else.
I think the key is your mutual friend and church. Your mutual friend can give you some clues about this young man and the fact that you see him at church means that he makes time for things that are important.
The problem I see is that he has already indicated that he has no time after church and that he is up very early in the AM--which seems to rule out evening get togethers. It could be that he is nicely trying to tell you that he isn't interested. If you really want to call his bluff in a nice way, remark that since he is always working, that you'd like to bring him a home cooked lunch.
I've heard it said that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach--so if he accepts, keep the lunch simple and light--with a GREAT brownie or piece of pie for dessert.
But be sure you ask your friend what this guy likes or if he has any allergies--so that you don't make anything he doesn't like. Oh--and by the way, your friend may have already told his friend that you like him.
Good luck!!
2007-09-10 12:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bromeliad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell him that your not very experianced. If he questions explain stuff to him truthfully with enough detail but don't go on too much. Ask him questions too. Once you are open with each other I am sure the sex will be the easy part. He won't expect things from you and he will know he has to show you stuff. It will be a good time for both of you to explore and learn to satisfy each other. If you accomplish this, you will have a great relationship.
2016-04-03 00:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this. If it fails. Well then their was no hope to begin with. This man sound a bit like me. I am vary focused and if I even did like a girl I probably would not ask her out. But I admire boldness and cleverness in a woman. That is how I am in the wonderful relationship I am now in.
Plan - find out about this fellow. Yor freind is a great source of information. What does this guy like.
move in for the goal - give him a note:
"I think your cute. Lets have coffee sometime. Call me -
My number is #####"
Then if he calls you on if not don't worry so much about it and move on.
2007-09-02 13:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by Prophetcyrus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up and talk to him! Try a funny first-line ... like, 'hey, come here often?' or 'is it always like this on Sundays?'
(Remember, Jerry Seinfeld once opened with "You know, I'm responsible for those crop circles in Europe" when he wanted to talk to a hot girl in an elevator. I once told a girl I was the real father of Anna Nicole's baby, but not to tell.)
Bottom line is, just go sit by him one Sunday. It's church! You're *supposed* to love, right?
2007-09-02 13:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Coach E! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay being friendly with him and keep asking him out in a friendly way. Ask him about his last relationship and what happened, maybe open up and tell him about yours. Don't give up, at least keep the friendship going, maybe he is to busy for a relationship, it's best to have a friend then nothing at all.
2007-09-10 12:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by TM25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let rejection become something to fear. I've been rejected many times. Ask him to movies or our to dinner. Then let him know you liek him. Be casual and don't act like you're afraid of him saying no. Just be confident and things will turn out alright and ust don't send any negative energy out there or it'll just come right back to you.
2007-09-10 13:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. since every now and than u with him, get up and just ask him, "hey wanna go catch some movie?" than from there u can INTERVIEW him, whats that for to scare someone? "Boo!" nowadays, guys are likely to be open that freak when a girl ask them out... u make them easy to work on gal!
But than, dont put ur like when u are out with him, just friends so when u want to interview him u dont go and scratch ur head and get that blush on ur cheeks...
So he is a busy bee... ask him nicely, when u see him, are u free on weekend? or one of the weekdays, i thought of catching some movie with u, or have dinner with u.... some people doesnt like to go out in a group...
So all the best!
2007-09-02 13:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by aSyiDaH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you like him and see his reaction, if it's positive explain how much you like him and that you'd like to go on a date with him. If his reaction is negative just cover it by saying that you think he's a great guy and walk off - not too embarassing I don't think! Good luck!
2007-09-02 13:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you approach to him and invite him to the movies, theather or any other place you would like, if he likes you and he is not gay, he will say yes. Do not scare him telling him you like him. Just act naturally and ask him to go out. Good Luck
2007-09-10 08:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by gorzon reloaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to tell him --- talk to him --- say hello and see what he does ---- it could be he has noticed you and (sorry) is not interested --- you can still let him know you are interested just by the way you talk to him --- your body language and if he is interested he will be watching and know --- most communication is non verbal so just look smile play with your hair and he will know --- what he does then is up to him --- best wishes ---- and im puzzled why would anyone be scared off by someone saying they like them?????
2007-09-02 13:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋