the other night I was with my girlfriend, we were kissing and stuff and one thing led to another,
we had sex!
before marriage, my family is really strict about this, i'm not to indulge in the evil, evil impure things, especially before marriage?! help?!
2007-09-02 13:01:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I dont wanna go to hell, I can still get into heaven right?
2007-09-02 14:15:49 · update #1
Find a JP and get hitched... and go back to having sex...
it isn't an evil thing.
2007-09-02 13:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So is your feeling of guilt because of your beliefs and your relationship with God or because of how your family feels about this subject? If you don't have a conviction in your belief about sex before marriage then you are going to fail either physically and/or mentally in avoiding the situation. You can repent with your mind but without it being from the heart it isn't geniune and you are not going to be able to change your actions in the future. God is forgiving of all things we really want forgiveness for.
2007-09-02 13:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Connie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If you really love her,, then you are already married.
2) If you don't really love her, and you had sex because you enjoyed the stimulatory feeling of it, or because she looks hot then you've made a mistake.
Perhaps you are not sure: In which case both of you jumped in without testing the water. The water maybe too hot or too cold, and you might get burned. In which case, talk to her and agree to step back a little; you both can work out how you feel firstly.
Love is a funny thing. If your spiritually incomplete, it can be hard to know yourself never mind recognise a soul mate.
In religions there can be alot of dogma, laws and rules. Life often produces situations more complex making it impossible to follow one ridged set of rules. It is necessary to apply discretion, to make the rules more fluid. In order to do this you will need to establish your own principles. That is what spiritual seeking is about, establishing the word of God within you.
Ask yourself this: Can standing in front of a man with a dog collar in front of your friends and family and muttering some oaths legitimize love? Surely the question you've to ask yourself is ''do I love her'', which leads to ''do I know myself''?
2007-09-02 13:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept responsibility for what you did. And you'd better tell your family now. Better they know now than find out when she tells you (and them) she's carrying your child, or that you have an STD. (I'm not saying either of these things happened, but they are possibilities.) You need to ready yourself to accept responsibility for the consequences of your actions too.
God will forgive you (even if your fellow man won't) as long as you repent, but you need to lean on Him in times of temptation. Think about how you feel right now. Do you really want to feel this way again? And think about ways you can avoid this temptation in the future. One bad choice is normal. Making the same bad choice again would indicate that you are not repentant.
God be with you.
2007-09-02 13:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by King James 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How very human of you (and the young lady). Lighten up on yourself and learn what you have to to not bring an unwanted child into the world.
Did you know that in the puritan days, guys and gals slept in the same bed (who were courting) with a big board between them? And the darlins still found ways to be sexual and some got pregnant !!!
To paraphrase: 'if you don't know what you do (i.e. we got hot and got carried away in the moment of passion) it is sin.
On the other hand, if you know what you do - it is not. That is, we plan to consciously be sexual and responsible about it.
Maranantha
2007-09-02 13:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bill S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Jesus to forgive you. You need to try to stay in a place where you are not totally alone, otherwise you will fall again. Ask Jesus to set you free from lust as this is the reason most fail before marriage. Don't condemn yourself, if you ask for forgiveness you have received it.
2007-09-02 13:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heb 13:4 "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."
2007-09-02 14:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Steve Amato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax....you're not doomed to hell just because you had premarital sex. and the first thing you need to realize is no one is perfect....we all sin at some time or another...the important thing is that we learn from those mistakes and try not to make them again. so talk to God, and ask him for forgivness. and secondly I hope you aren't mocking, because if you are....you need to get away from the computer, and go find some kind of physical activity ( not sex)...like sports to get involved in.
2007-09-02 13:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Turn to God and repent. God forgives those who regret their bad actions and truly repent. And get married before you sin again!
2007-09-02 13:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start over. Ask forgiveness from God and repent. Do not do it again. See her only in public places.
2007-09-02 13:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Nina, BaC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋