He changed the last couple of months and seems sad or withdrawn. I dont understand what he means when he says that he likes me but doesnt know if he should break up with me. This all came so suddenly when we were totally fine and he wasnt acting this funny. He just came out of a stressful period with work, maybe he's just adjusting to his life now that's it all going to be ok? Why would he reconsider being with me if he says that I am the best girlfriend he's ever had? It is completely not like him! I am so confused and hurt. He was totally crazy about me and now he wants space? He lives in another city and flys in twice a week to see me for a few hours, isnt that space enough? I dont pressure him for anything and I encourage him to go out etc. All I ask that he keep in touch more and be more attentive. But now he wants space to think and figure out why he's acting unusually or to just to have some space and breath, even though he says I dont crowd him. Ooh help! =(
2007-09-02 12:46:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THIS is what you do in that situation. COMPLETELY WALK AWAY ! DONT LOOK BACK. You need to be happy within yourself. He is just unhappy and trying figure out why. Dont be whiny.... just get over it. Hes your bf not your husband. Thank God for that one.
2007-09-02 12:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is experiencing changes and he is confused. It also sounds like depression. He wants space yet he comes to see you a couple times a week. He is feeling some kind of emotional stress. When someone asks for space they are usually feeling some kind of pressure.
Is he afraid that it is getting to the point that he has to make some kind of commitment and that scares him? If he sees you twice a week and you are asking him to keep in touch and be more attentive why do you encourage him to go out more?
If he loves you he would want to be with you more than anyone else. Be very direct with him. Ask him what is going on. The only way each of you will be able to understand what is going on is if you talk about it.
2007-09-02 13:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he's tired of the commute he has to make to see you every few days for just a few hours, as you said. I know it would get to me because some days after work, all I want to do is crash at home. If you think about it, it would be a lot easier on him if he found someone who lived closer to him. And he'd save money on airfare too.
He probably still cares about you but flying anywhere is a real hassle nowadays and he probably wants some time off from having to go through all that hassle. I don't think it's anything you've done unless there's more to the story you haven't told us.
2007-09-02 12:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well living in other cities. That is space. I do agree with you. It's not like you see him everyday. (like I do my husband, lol, that's a joke, I love my husband) Sorry. I don't know how old you two are, but that could be a factor. And not to worry you, but maybe something has already happened with another woman, and he does not know how to feel or tell you. Please don't jump to conclusions, It's only my opionion.Honey, if he is flying in to see you, you must mean something, that is expensive. I don't know if you two are in college, or grade school, but it does sound like you are in college. Could he be having problems with school, courses he's taking? I was always told, if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be. I know it will hurt, but better finding out now than years from now.
2007-09-02 13:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not really much of a relationship if he does not even live in the same city and now wants "space". Move on and find someone in your own city, who wants to be with you
2007-09-02 12:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts but it sounds like he's found someone else and is trying to see where it go for now, so he wont have to hurt you out right. I think he does care but the distance may be too much for him to overcome. guys dont always take pleasure in hurting women. were not all bad bt letting someone go who has ben as good to us as you have to him is really hard for a man and he sounds like he may be having a hard time bringing himself to do it.
2007-09-02 12:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry it does sound like he wants to get up the nerve to break it off or is hoping you will break it off and then he can claim to be the injured party ---- truly you never need "space" if there is a problem you get together and sort it out ---- best wishes to you
2007-09-02 12:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it means he wants space to "think and figure things out." women are always trying to read into things and interpret them. men typically say what they mean. take his words at face value and back off. that doesn't mean you have to put your life on hold. start dating others if you please, hang out with friends, and stop pondering what his every gesture and word means. you'll drive yourself (and him) crazy and still won't have any answers. it doesn't matter WHY he wants space, the result is the same...he wants to see less of you. so, happily oblige him and find happiness outside of him.
2007-09-02 12:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, every single girl out there, write this down so I don't have to repeat myself anymore. Whe a guy says that he needs space to think and figure things out, it means...HE NEEDS SPACE TO THINK AND FIGURE THINGS OUT!!!!! It doesn't mean that he's breaking up with you or cheating on you or anything except what it means!!!! Pay attention, class!!!
2007-09-02 12:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Darcy 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
He's trying to let you down easy. But sounds like he is interested in someone else sorry
2007-09-02 12:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋