We're going to get married on mackinac island next summer. Should we still plan a reception a week or two later?
2007-09-02 12:32:15 · 20 answers · asked by lee_anne301 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
*Bill*: the wedding isn't a secret. Everyone knows, since we've been engaged for a year and a half now. We cannot afford a wedding with more than 100 guests , and my fiance has more than that on his side with just aunts/uncles & first cousins. That is why we're choosing to elope. If we can't afford to invite EVERYONE, then we'll just go ourselves. Not to mention this is my fiance's 2nd marriage, so we don't need a big production.
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2007-09-03 02:29:32 · update #1
Thank you to the people who pointed out the difference between "eloping" and a "destination wedding." I hadn't realized the difference between to the two. To clarify, this would be a destination wedding.
2007-09-03 02:35:29 · update #2
Hi. I love Mackinac Island! Yes, I think that would be fine, but.....remember an elopement is when NO one knows. If you announce to a few friends or family, then what you are doing is actually having a destination wedding. Also, how will you go about planning a reception within such a short amount of time? For etiquette sake, you would need to get out invitations to your reception at least 3 weeks prior (unless it's strictly family), so how would you send out invitations before you even elope? If you are indeed eloping, then you may have to push back your reception to a month or two later. If you are having a "destination wedding", then follow the correct protocol for a wedding reception after destination wedding that is on lots of sites. Good luck!
2007-09-02 14:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with have a reception after you elope. Alot of people go to destination places, get married, then come home and have a reception. Sometimes they even have another wedding.
2007-09-02 12:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY! Actually, my husband and I eloped and then still had a wedding ceremony and reception.... we eloped because he was military (so we wanted to make sure we were "safe" in case he got moving orders or something)... the wedding and reception is just a celebration of the marriage.... heck, I say party on!
2007-09-02 12:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by wiggie0217 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how is getting married on mackinac island eloping? i wouldn't consider it that... i am considering some place on the island because of the beautiful lilacs... it is more of a "destination" type wedding (if neither you nor the guests are from the area)...but to answer your question... sure you can have a reception a week or two later but not too much later...
2007-09-02 15:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I eloped and we had a reception after. It wasn't a fact of keeping it a secret from our family, it was that our family was split on different sides of the country and instead of paying for fancy ceremonies in both places, we got married which was more important to us anyways, and then celebrated with small dinner reception for my friends and family since I had more, and a champange brunch with his family.
Besides, it's your wedding and your special day, do what works best for you!
2007-09-02 12:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eloping is running away in secret to get married. Is that what you are doing, or are you just having a private wedding at this location away from your home?
Regardless, a reception is fine. However, make sure you put "No Gifts, Please" on the invitation, since the people were not at the ceremony.
2007-09-03 02:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is appropriate to host a reception after your return. You may want to send your guests reception cards that announce your marriage and contain an invitation to your post-wedding celebration: (Your names) Will be married in a Private wedding ceremony on (date). You are joyfully invited to an Informal wedding celebration on (date) at (location/time).
2007-09-02 12:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Debi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go Ahead with the plan. Nothing wrong with that at all. I bet your friends and family that missed out on the wedding are just gonna love the idea. Congratulations
2007-09-02 12:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it, in fact a lot of people do. It's completely okay to celebrate your marriage with friends and family even if you elope. Congratulations on your engagement.
2007-09-02 12:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's fine. When my mother and her current husband married, they went to the court house, and his family had a reception for them, the following month.
2007-09-02 13:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋