My wife is Catholic and I am Evangelical Zionist. What should we do about our kids. We have alot of the same moral beliefs but she will want to perform all of those rites on our child. I'm not sure how to handle this.
2007-09-02 11:52:40 · 15 answers · asked by Dennis W 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should teach them about both of your religions, as well as other religions and philosophies. Then let them decide for themselves. I was baptized as a Catholic and did first communion. It did not harm me in any way.
2007-09-02 12:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Pangloss (Ancora Imparo) AFA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They won't hurt the child. I was raised Catholic (private school and all) and now I'm an atheist. Not to say catholicism caused my atheism by any means, but children will question everything-so just make sure you have the answers you want them to know. If you don't know the answers, then you don't know your faith. The rites of catholicism are probably the most interesting part of being catholic anyway...and it harms none in reality.
2007-09-02 18:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by alia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with the rites. I was raised catholic and my mom was mormon. I am a born-again believer now. As long as you don't become resentful and bitter toward one another because of the different beliefs, like my parents. It made life horrible at home.
2007-09-02 18:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be for you to seek the will of God TOGETHER. I've never thought that "going your own way" in terms of religion is what God intended in marriage...by attending two different churches you and your wife are divided...that is not what God would have for you.
My parents came from very different religious backgrounds (Catholic and Southern Baptist) and when they decided to marry, they began a "quest" to find a church that would satisfy both their needs for fellowship with God and with others (the basic reasons for church attendance). It was a bit confusing for us kids as we jumped around from church to church (Methodist, Presb., pentecostal, evangelical, etc...) until they found something they both support as one (...and the two shall become one flesh). However, I learned the importance of seeking God's will directly (instead of through religion) and the importance of spiritual unity in a marriage. Despite the different messages we heard from the different churches, we heard a consistent message from both parents.
As for the rituals/rites, my only advice is that if you believe those rituals go against the way you believe God would have you "train up" your children, then you really need to come to an agreement with your wife before the kids come (or at least before they reach the relevant age). On the other hand, if you believe the basic lessons taught through those rituals are consistent with your beliefs (even if not consistent with your practices), I think it is important for you to support them fully in order to present a united, consistent message to your children.
2007-09-02 19:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by KAL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you think of this and resolve it before you were married? You are now facing an issue which could harm your marriage. At least you are thinking of it before you have children. There is no right answer to this, it is something the two of you have to sit down, discuss, and resolve. One of you is going to have to compromise your beliefs so you better give this some serious thought.as it could very easily break up your marriage, and may anyway.
2007-09-02 19:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Much of Catholicism is contrary to the Bible (I'm an ex-catholic myself) see http://www.bcbsr.com/topics/catholic.html
How important are your beliefs and what areas are you willing to compromise?
2007-09-02 19:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by Steve Amato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on religiously indoctrinating your kids, wait until they are old enough to think for themselves, introduce them to a wide specturm of religions and philosophies, and let them make their own decision.
2007-09-02 19:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what we did
go to a nearby U. Universalist congregation, which honors both of your faiths
many parents there are of different faiths but kids are given the chance to choose and explore without pressure
2007-09-02 18:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by voice_of_reason 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let THEM (your CHILDREN) choose...
And I think your kids are smart enough to know the difference between what's right and what's wrong on their own....otherwise you'd be a horrible parent regardless of faith....
2007-09-02 18:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow the children to choose for themselves. They may not want to pursue either or your religions.
2007-09-02 19:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by the Vampire Claudia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋