what if i think im pregnate?

Question

i think i am....me and my man had intercourse and im only 16...my period is late by 4 days now....im scared! i feel funny and ive been really emotional latley...ive been crying like crazy and i dont know why. i think i am.....im not ready to have a kid! but i dont wanna kill it if i am....i cant get a test cuz if i tell my parents itll be back to homeschooling for me...what do i do? IM ONLY 16!! help please!

we used protection...but he had to quickly take it off without us looking at it to check to see if it riped and i heard that if you pull it off to fast when its close by the womans opening it could get in and yea....help!

Answer 1

Shoulndna not done it. Home school should teach how to be smart about protection.
I homeschooled and heard all about the problems with accidental births at too young an age. I was told "Don't let it happen to you."
So, I just say noooooooooooooooooooooooo..

Tell Your mom and tell your boyfriend.

Tell, Tell, Tell before you get too big.

Answer 2

Life is about decisions. Funny thing is that sometimes there are no completely right decisions just better decisions. That is to say the least bad decision. So I ask you, what is less bad? To have a child at your age or to tell your parents and end up in home schooling again? You can always go to your doctor by yourself and have yourself tested and see what options are there. I don't know what the law says about minors and protections of privacy so you have to check that out. Just in case the protection of privacy is or are laws that forces many entities like doctors from dibulging information from a patient. For example, you do not have to tell your employer of the reason that you are going to the doctor because the law protects you. The boss doesn't have to know why and the doctor cannot tell the boss or anybody else for that matter unless your employment status depends on that information. For example if you work in the medical field. Like I said I don't know how the law applies to minors. However, if you are pregnant then in the long run your parents are going to find out anyways. Also, waiting to go to the doctor may limit your choices on what you can do if you are indeed pregnant. Yes, I mean abortion if that is something you believe in and if you can stomach it. I'm not saying that is what you should do. What I'm saying is an option in many states. So it will definetly depend on your belief system. I know myself that I couldn't go through it. To each its own.

There are also over the counter pregnancy test. Go to your local farmacy and buy a kit. It will give you results in like 15 minutes and is pretty accurate. Just another option. Finally, back to home schooling may not be as bad as you might think. You are 16 and after two more years youy will be 18 and an adult which then you can do what ever you want and also attained to the consequences of those actions too. There is always a price to pay isn't there.

On a separate note, this is exactly the reason I disagree with misinformation, hiding information and overprotection of people. Logic and statistics tell you that the more you know about something the safer you will be. This is why truck drivers have to take a special licence, and why certain machinery or operations of certain devices can only be done by trained individuals. The fact is that the more you know about something and the more you know about the risk involve and the possible consequences you will be safer. A person will be better prepare to make decision because they are not completely dealing with unknowns. However, people believe that this does not apply to sex. Sex is taboo in many areas even to this date even though sex is part of our well being and health. So, people prefer to keep kids in the dark than teach them the possibler consequences and help that is avbailable to them.

Anyways, go get a kit or go to the doctor today if you want your privacy or tell your parents if you need extra help and you think they will be able and willing to provide it. What ever you do act fast because the clock is ticking and know that there probaly won't be any perfect solution unless it turns out is a false alarm. Also, you are not the first or the last person to go through this and it is not impossible. Keep the faith and hopes and do what you think needs to be done but do it today.

Answer 3

I hate it when I see kids ur age being stupid...Doing crap that they are not even old enough to be doing, because obviously, u both are not properly educated on pregnancy prevention! And NO! Abortion is WRONG! And only a quick fix for those who are dumb enough, like u both, to do something they don't even know about the consequences of.... This child u may be pregnant with, is not at fault for ur stupidity.... He/she is coming into this world (if u are preggo), thinking he/she will be loved by it's parents.....It's not the baby's fault that his/her parents are irresponsible...If u were "mature" enough to have sex, then u both should be "mature enough" to face the consequences...Of pregnancy/child-bearing, and facing ur parents....You both should have thought about what u were doing..Nowadays, organizations like Planned Parenthood offer a wide variety of birth control: Condoms, Nuvaring, the shot, IUD, u name it! And they are all offered for free!!!! If there is a Planned Parenthood that u know of, go there, and take a damn test! It is totally free, and confidential....If u are pregnant, then face the consequences.....Both u and ur "MAN" sit down with them, and let them know what happened....U cannot let time go by, without telling them, because by 3-4 months along, u will start to show.... And as soon as u find out, if u are pregnant, start taking Prenatal vitamins..For the well-being of the baby....I hope u are at least "responsible" enough to do that.... And go to ur appts.... The baby is NOT at fault, like I said, and the least think u can do is love and take care of him/her, even if it's just in the womb till u give birth, and then give the baby into adoption.....If I were u, I would keep the baby... It will be tough for u, but the baby needs it's mother...And babies are a blessing, no matter the circumstances he/she was born under.... Oh well if u have to go back to ****!ng homeschooling! You guys should have thought about that before doing "adult" things....Because in reality, u both are still kids! And also, don't let ur age discourage u......If u are 16 and pregnant, u aren't the first, nor last...There have been many mothers that age who have been able to bring up their babies/children decently...Without giving them up........I suggest strongly that u go take a test, NOW! And if u are pregnant, then face ur parents, and start taking care of that baby!!!! Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm glad you don't want an abortion and that you tried to use protection! I give you an a+ for that, have you ever been late before? I mean it doesn't have to mean you are pg and you are simply late which would be the pms symptoms. If in a couple weeks you don't get it you can get a blood test at the clinic which is the earliest test there are. My heart goes out to you, been there, done that. But I got married to my man and we've been married 35 yrs. Not always the answer tho.

Answer 5

Honey. If you're not ready to have kids and not educated enough to have responsible intercourse then don't have sex. I'm 16 too, and my period has been up to two weeks late before, and I'm a virgin. Your period isn't going to be completely regular for a few years now, so if its a few days late, then don't worry too much. Let this scare be a lesson to you and don't have sex anymore. Not until you're at least able to support a child that might result.

Contraceptive isn't a "burden" as the answerer above me says. Its a responsibility. Get a test, and relax a little bit.

Answer 6

You can buy a home pregnancy test kit at your local drugstore. You don't have to be 18 to purchase. If you are pregnant your boyfriend better be prepared to marry you (with parental consent) or pay child support. Don't be afraid to consider abortion. Having a child is a huge responsibility. It requires a complete lifestyle change. Are you really ready for this? In any case, you are a minor. If you are pregnant your parents must be involved with any decision made. I sure hope your boyfriend is not 18 or older. If your parents get really angry they can go after him as a sexual predator (law). I'll pray for you. This is definitely a difficult time for you.

Answer 7

ok im here and im gonna try and help 1. if u r going to have a baby DONT HAVE AN ABORTION PUT IT UP FOR ADOPTION PLEASE IF U DO DONT TAKE ITS LIFE AWAY!

2. go to the store a with a close friend someone that u have told and get one of those tests...if u are positive tell ur parents but ask them not to freak make sure they promise im sorry if they do that is usually what appens sorry if negative be alert next time u are having sex and always use protection

Answer 8

First of all your definitely not ready for a baby because your still a baby yourself and second of all your not even ready to be having intercourse in the first place so don't! I wouldn't worry at all, I would say your not pregnant. Your only late because your young and your period don't come at regular times plus there could be other factors, your diet and definitely stress.

Answer 9

I think you need to tell your family and your boyfriend. You don't have to go into too much detail just that you guys did some stuff and you're not ready to have a child. Being pregnant is not a bad thing. Tell them you want to see a doctor or psychiatrist. Hope 2 have helped!

Answer 10

ppl here plz its not time to blame her !!!! try to help !

i dont think u are pregnant if u used protection ,sometimes this happens that period gets late . the feeling that u have may be from the late of ur period . mine was late and i was sure im pregnant bcz my humor changed but i wasnt.
hope i could help.