At what age do you think its okay to start doing sexual stuff?

Question

I have a girl who is 17 and I just turned 20 and sometimes I am hesitant to do sexual stuff with her because to me she is still underage but she assures me she is ready and mature enough. What do you think?

Answer 1

The law (in the UK) says 16, but if you have doubts then maybe you should listen to them. Its toolate to undo anything after the event, so be sure before you start.

Answer 2

About 15

Answer 3

Wow, you really opened yourself up to an onslaught of chastising and criticism with that one.
First of all you have to clarify what you mean by sexual stuff. Kissing is a very sexual act if done properly.
If you are talking about actually having sex...don't let yourself get swayed by the idea that there is some kind of designated time or age when it's OK to have sex. Some people choose to experiment early, others end up waiting. I'm working with two women right now who are 22 and 23 and are still virgins. They aren't waiting for marriage or anything like that, but they are looking for someone worth giving it up for. So my advice to you is don't stress so much on the sex part of things. Focus more on being the kind of man who deserves to be with a girl like her. The fact that you are going round and round about this seems to indicate that you are a perceptive and sensitive individual. Continue to be so and be there for her, and whatever happens between the two you will happen when it is supposed to. My only plea is that when you do finally DO it, be safe. Remember the word of the day is Man not Daddy.

Answer 4

I can't imagine a 20 year old male even asking this question, but if so, then well done. It is a wise beyond your time question.

Because the intense drive of a man at this point is not matched by women. Females at 17 just want to be loved and accepted, and they feel sex is the access to feeling that way.

If she is applying any pressure to be intimate, then consider she doesn't know how to appropriately seek out love and affection, and wants to use sex as a substitute,

She may also just think thats what you want. So have a clear conversation about where you stand on it.

Her parents could be an issue also.

Answer 5

if you're worried about this you're better off keeping away from the situation until you both feel comfortable.
i guess your age of consent is different from ours or this wouldn't have come up in the first place, so i'm guessing she's underage, once again, don't get involved in sexual activities, if you fall out she could get you in a lot of trouble.
either way, i don't think you sound mature enough to take the risk of starting a family with each other just yet, wait another couple of years and see if you both feel the same about each other.
fumbling is just as much fun if you do it properly.

Answer 6

Underage... not in most of the world where the age is 15 or 16.

In natural human species most become sexaul in mid to late teens 14-18... so 17 is fine.

What matters is proper birth control = two types ie the patch or injection AND condoms

Likewise the sensible thing to do is the levels

1
2
3
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Approach.

ie you dont skip levela 1-5 and start at six.


You get very well practiced at each level.

Ie get really goos at kissing nad boobsfeeling over clothes over time (as in weeks).

Then get really good at semi naked then fully naked stuff like boob sex and hanb jbs, fingering, bjs and strip poker games, spying on each other in the shower and in general taking it easy, progeressing slowly, getting more comfortable with each other and working out how your responses are like and what you like and getting good at foreplay. And one day go all the way when you both want to.


During all this time she must be on homone contrceptives like the injection, nuva ring or patch (pill to easy to fk up) and fully understand instructions like how things like antibiotics stop it working and esp st johns wort.

AND use condoms both for stds and bk up.

AND have morning after pills at home and take straight away if you think anything goes wrong


And lots of cuddles, sleeping in each others arems, tickle fight and other affection play.

As said most of the intelligent worl have a legal age of 16 and many have ta sensible flexible attiude to this dep on circumstance and the maturity of both

Answer 7

At 18 she will be of legal consent in all states unless there is a mental disability. If you are smart, you should hold off at least until she is 18 or out of school. Allow her to at least finish her schooling before risking a pregnancy, and remember in some states 17 is still jail-bait. IF you decide to move forward on this at least check out the laws in your state, there are some that allow consent at 16, 17 and some are not until the person is 18. Also, ALWAYS use protection.

Answer 8

well what age do you think she will be ready?? It depends how long you have been going out for really. You should believe that she is ready, if she feels she is ready then theres no problem. shes not underage so you cant go to jail for it, but just be cautious. Maybe leave it a little while longer just to make sure then do it, sex isnt everything.

Answer 9

Well, I'm British, so im my eyes she's legal! Anyway that's obviously not the case over there.
Over here the legal age is 16 but I know people who lost their virginity at the age of 12. I notice some people have said it's not worth the risk, but it's very unlikely she would report you if you guys are in a relationship.
I'd go for it personally, but it's really down to your morals and what you think is right.
Hope this helps you, hon!
xxx

Answer 10

Im guessing you're not living in a country where its legal for 16 and over to have sex (like it is here in the UK). If you live in a place where its 18 then that law is in place for a reason. Its a very tough decision if shes old enough to have sex by the law fine, however it is her decision if she wants to take things further and it should only happen if you both communicate and talk about your feelings. Im sure you're both really nervous about taking that next step, and i'd say wait till you're both ready.

Answer 11

18