Our poor sons B-day partys are getting worse, The Fam's dont get along! Were having 3rd & all bdays are near.

Question

1's turning 5 in oct. Due w/ 3rd Nov & our 2nd's in Dec w/ xmas. We need ideas to make this more simple so we wont go broke but still have our sons enjoy themself & not combine any partys. Also since Im due I cant be running around cooking millions of foods so were hoping to pull off the simple traditional cake, ice cream, balloons, munchies & borrowing a moonwalk for them. I do have 50 people coming, maybe more! There are 80 invited but out of respect even if we know they may not come. (but who knows) I CANT only invite the ones w/ kids, most of them dont have any & will be pissed. We can't afford to go out & buy everything that we usally do. We go nutz every yr because the fam's dont get along. We used to do 2 partys each bday because of them. But were having our 3rd! I think we will only be able to handle having three after seeing how horrible it is for our boys to enjoy there bdays and even xmas! Were split between familys driving everywhere all the time to be yelled at ANY IDEAS?

Just adding (everyone invited) is all family! We both have a huuuugge family! thanks everyone!

any ideas??

Answer 1

I will tell you that our rule has become that if they can't be here for our kids then they don't need to come. It got bad enough that we were having seperate parties too but it was to expensive and really not right for the kids. I now send invites out and make certain people aware of the fact that it is a childrens party and i will not accept fighting. If someone does show up and start something we ask them to leave. Most of the people will now ask if "certain people" will be there and if we say yes then they will say they aren't coming, which makes me happy because it is about the kids not the adults. It also got to the point where we started inviting less people to the parties. I mean there is no way my boys as young as they are can enjoy having that many adults around. It is about the kids not the adults and I want to make sure my kids are having fun.

BTW my sons birthday is December 29th so I know how the whole christmas thing goes. I always have his party a week before Christmas and we spred the word through close family and friends but I don't usually have the money for a big party and it is so cold that having to many in the house won't work out. My other son is in August and we always have a big outdoor party (or try to) which helps avoid some of the conflicts in the family.

Answer 2

Stop worrying about what others think and just worry about your kids. They don't need stressful parties.

I have 3 kids and another 1 due in Dec, I know how birthdays can get pricey, but we dont do big shindigs. We have a cake and Ice cream, a pizza, and presents. The kids run around and play while everyone talks and takes pics. The most people to ever show up at one of our children's parties.....15. We just invite grandparents and aunts and uncles, with kids....

the party is for the kids, not to make the people happy, not for anything but to celebrate the birthday of the child. For get what others think, what they expect, and if they will be mad. Spend more money on your kids and less on making family happy.

Answer 3

Just have a joint party for the boys where family is concerned, and then let them have a friend party where only kids or people with kids are invited.
My girls birthdays are Jan & Feb so we are already broke from Christmas so I understand your situation.
What we do is on their actual b-day, we have a special dinner at home with just my husband, me and the kids, no friends no more family. We do our presents then and have a small cake or whatever they want.
Then if they want a party that is more expensive like bowling etc. they have a combined party, or they can each have their own at home. We only have a few family members here so they just come to the big party or we get together when it works out for them, my dad works a lot and honestly the grandparents dont really enjoy the kids parties (I mean like bowling, chuck e cheese etc. if we have a party at home they always come) so they usually do something special for them on their own, dinner or lunch or something.

Answer 4

only celebrated daughter's 4th birthday and we had invited 40 visitors (sixteen are childrens & the rest are mom and dad or kin). basically 8 childrens and their mom and dad RSVP'd with confident. in spite of the undeniable fact that, significant kin (without childrens) shown. We went forward with the occasion. exceptionally much a 0.33 of the occasion hall became empty! :o) those childrens who lost the video games nevertheless wont prizes LOL for optimistic nutrition became OVERflowing. My factor, save on with the place your loved ones would be chuffed :o) in case you sense that having extra people is extra significant then delay it. i may be upset if I stated confident on the 1st date yet could no longer make it whilst the date have been given replaced. in spite of the undeniable fact that :o) there is often next 3 hundred and sixty 5 days! that is approximately your loved ones in spite of each little thing. completely comprehensible.

Answer 5

start having smaller parties. Thats the only solution. The 5 yr old is old enough to tell you who he wants there, and it should be limited to no more than 8 kids and only close relitives (grandma ect.) You can't invite everyone you have ever known and expect a kid to enjoy himself, especally since the focus should be on him, not on who gets along with who. If anyone argues with the guest list tell them its HIS party, not theirs, so suck it up.

Answer 6

holy crap you sure are doing alot for your kids b-day parties. i only had one big b-day party in 2nd grade. all the rest were just with grandparents. kids don't need all that to show you love them! especially when they are this young and don't appreciate it as much. save that money to put them into college!
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