everything - the supermarket, the bank, work, you name it & she'll complain about it even going so far as to submit complaints letters every week about something or t'other. Is it an illness of something cos I'm losing patience.
Somone was "rude" to her at her bank the other month. So she submitted a complaint letter to the bank, head office and chief executive. she didn't like the response so now she's going to the Ombudsman or something. But she does this for each and every person she complains about. Should there be something put in place to stop serial complainers who waste time and resources ....?
2007-09-02 07:06:44 · 11 answers · asked by encore 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
John M that is not true. I flew to Japan once and the plane was delayed and I was upgraded to first class and given restaurant vouchers. I think my friend has mental health problems to be honest and I do not mean to be harsh but if you knew how many things she complained about you would appreciate how over the top it is. When she is not submitting complaints she is thinking about who she can complaint to next and then tries to encourage me to waste my time complaining. I find it weird.
2007-09-02 07:20:52 · update #1
katydint, I'm beginning to seriously consider cutting links with this person as people like this do not realise just how much of a drain they are. I see her wasting peoples' time with her complaints and it gets me down as I see it as excessively self-absorbed, selfish and narcassistic.
2007-09-02 07:43:17 · update #2
Michelle T, I have told her that she is a serial complainer but she honestly thinks that everyone else has the problem and not herself. She thinks everyone is out to deceive her and cause problems on purpose.
2007-09-02 07:53:58 · update #3
There are three motivations for people who complain constantly. One, the obvious, some perceived injustice was done to them. Two they are mentally superior in being able to see through these scams, injustices, etc. Three attention getting, how horrible life treats them, they think it makes them interesting to list to. If you deal with people, in a business, you will run across the true blue complainers that will complain that even their ice cream is too cold. No solutions, just grin and watch them go away.
2007-09-02 07:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Clipper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol, I have a friend, and sister, and a brother in law that are like this too, but not to such a strong degree.
I think these people just thrive on drama... so if there is no drama, then they have to create it for themselves.
It is also usually tied to a feeling of superiority... the feeling that everyone should treat them like they are better, and if they don't, they are so angry and offended they can't let it go.
I don't think it's a mental illness... just a personality flaw.
I don't think you can put something in place to stop complainers, because then you would block the people who have legitimate complaints too.
If this person is making you lose your patience, just next time something come up and they start getting their feathers ruffled, just ask them why it's worth it, and wouldn't it be easier to live their life by going with the flow rather then getting all uptight about everything.
2007-09-02 14:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by nephthys76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A complaint is the result of a clogged mind overstressing someone else because his or her own mind is overloaded and not working properly anymore. A complainer is somebody with too many problems of his own, someone who needs special attention and actually knows this alone with the care some provide to their working capabilities, skills and ethics. A person who complains always abuses the patience because he or she needs and wants to feel abused not just at work but when serviced. This is an affection disability. They are to be treated psicologically because they do not feel very loved actually.
2007-09-02 14:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends like this are a real drain, they're missing the wonderful experience of life, by not 'living and let live'. Don't get me wrong, I believe we need to do our share in keeping customer service standards high, so feedback, critique, can be helpful.
But your friend DOES sound a little 'over the top'.
She reminds me of the saying, "some people wouldn't be happy if they were hung with a new rope".
Don't let yourself spend too much unnecessary time with her, what a downer.
2007-09-02 14:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Zeera 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think Argg is right; your friend probably has an underlying problem like depression. Your description reminds me of someone that I once worked with. One of the best things about leaving was that I did not have to hear her complain about anything ever again.
2007-09-02 15:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by politicsguy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear better watch out as she will be complaining about you soon.
I think she must be bored in life, or maybe she is just very unhappy.
Why don't you tell her what you think. She might not even realise that she appears to be a serial complainer.
Who knows it might even be the making of her..
2007-09-02 14:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is with the rest of the UK public. We are used to being given cr*p service and second rate goods that the rest of the developed world wouldn't stand for. Go to any Airport and suffer a flight delay and see how German, American and most other passengers are treated. If you are British you get a chitty for a sandwich , The other nationals are taken to a restaurant and given a first class meal. we get this treatment because there are not enough people like your friend. Best of luck to her in her quest for decent service.
2007-09-02 14:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by john m 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She may be have some underlying depression or anxiety disorder. She may be a high-strung person who's overly sensitive to everything. She may need some professional help. It sounds like it.
2007-09-02 14:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by Arggg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has too much time on her hands? Have you asked her why she's always looking for something to complain about?
2007-09-02 14:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a superior attitude and expectations,
out to make herself look important.
2007-09-02 18:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Hope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋