Sum people didn't think i was thurogh enough in my last question to help me so im gonna do it again. I've been thinking about my death for about a year now and I almost did it a couple months ago by jumping off a cliff but could'nt bring my self to do it I am depressed because of how i am treated at school and i wasn't content with how i looked people always picked and piked and picked for years and i can't take it my confidence is gone and the onl y reason i couldn't bring my self to do it was my family and remaining friends whoowould care if i was gone sum people at school even sad they wouldn't miss me if i was gone. I also am holding off from doing it cause i might go to hell for doing so im so scared and confused i think i might do it sumday when i get pushed over the edge im about to start 8th grade in two days plz help.....
2007-09-02 06:56:39 · 90 answers · asked by Connor L 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
DONT DO IT
I'm 11 yrs old and 5 yrs ago was when i strted thinking baout suicide ebcuase i hated myself so much. That was when i was 6 i weas oging to jump down a window form my bedroom being os upsetting. But knowing that there's still so many things i havent done in my life, i decided not to. Life is definitely tough. But are u doing this just becuase poeple hate u? That's stupid, ur family still loves u thats why they didnt abandon u. DOnt DO IT! have u even tried transferring to a new school and start over again with a fresh new year? Maybe htis is ur chance to start over when the year comes aorund. It's easy to find bad people who dont appreciate u like ur bad friends in school but a LOT OF TIME to find a good person. My aunt said that to me becuase she was hating herself ever since my uncle left her, and its been 4 years when she finally foudna good man to take care of her and her son likes him too. I like my new uncle a lot too. So just take time to find a good eprson and neevr commit a suicide u will make ti worse, by going to hell if u kill urself. Talk to a conselour in school or your parents, they will definitely comfort u. One day u might be worth a million dollars to someone. Espicialy ur parents that cant survivie without u
2007-09-02 06:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes a few real friends and family is all you need.
Those people at school who say they wouldn't miss you are the scum of the earth, and you are a whole person with dreams and hopes and you have some friends and family who LOVE YOU. That's all you need. They can help you be strong.
My advice is to talk to someone RIGHT NOW. This is an extremely serious matter. Someone will help you and guide you if you reach out, no matter how confused and hurt you are. You've been through a lot and those kids are being indescribably cruel and horrific... and you're just starting 8th grade and you have a whole life ahead of you.
Thank your lucky stars for the few friends and family you DO have and let them help you get help and get better. But NOW is the time!
You can do it and get help and get past this:)
2007-09-02 07:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're far too young to be thinking about this.
Don't worry about being picked on. After you finish high school, you will never see any of those people ever again.
I don't know how your family life is, but I think a good place to start would be to talk to someone in your family about this. Whether that be your siblings, your parents, your grandparents, or aunts and uncles, you need to talk to someone about it.
If you don't know how to start the conversation with your family then simply print this out and show it to them.
Once your family life is better, the outside stuff won't matter as much. Remember that your family will be with you forever, the people giving you a hard time at school will all be completely gone from your life in just a few years. Your family is probably not being very attentive towards the struggle you are having, so you need to let them know that you need some help.
2007-09-02 07:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look, you can let other stupid people to put you down. I can tell you that most of those people that bother you is just inmature people and most of the time they become loosers when they grow up. You just have to think in the good things in your life your family, your truly friends. Why you pay so much attention to people that don't mean anything in your life???
Why you don't try a new school??? Talk to yours parents about this. I know you may think is embarassing. But probably they understand you and they can make something to improve the situation.
Also you may need some professional help so you can build your confidence again.
I know this kind of stuff happend a lot in schools by the way I am a teacher specially a eight grade teacher. And my experienced tell me that this kids that are in your position always have more good things and more possibilities of become someone in the future that the ones who bother them.
You are so young to be thinking in suicide, don't you think in all the things you are going to miss if you die right now. Concentrate in your future in all the good stuff that are going to come. Don't pay attention to stupid people and by the way learn how to defend yourself from this people, look at them and find their weakness and use it against them.
Do you ever talk this with someone like your parents or a councelor in school? maybe a teacher that you can trust. If the answer if not you sholud life is more easier when you have people in your side helping you. Don't go trough all of this by yourself talk to someone.
Bye!!!!
Hope you get better!!
2007-09-02 07:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are soo young!
You have so much to look forward to in your life.
No matter how bad things may seem to you right at this moment, know that they WILL get better.
No person or thing should make you feel so bad as to want to take your life away. They are not worth it.
You really need to talk to a trusted adult, a counselor, a family member. You said yourself that people WOULD miss you if you were gone, so why be selfish and hurt them while at the same time hurting yourself.
I know that I myself don't have much experience being only 16 yrs old, but trust me. I have been thru a lot in my life. My mom abused me, then left me. I have to take care of my sister and step dad while each day tehy make me feel horrible about myslef. i have been rejected by loved ones my whole life. But I know I am stronger than all the people that made me feel bad, and you are too.
Don't let a bunch of kids at school or even at home, make you feel bad. they only do it because they know it makes you sad. DON'T let them have that satisfaction.
You seriously need some help.
You are going through a very hard time now, with your body changing (so your ormones are out of whack) and the fact that you are unhappy.
BUT never be as selfish as to take your life away.
Everyone that you loved and that loved you would also die inside.
Please seek attention and surround yourself with love not anger and hurt.
I hope that my words have helped you a little.
Becaue I know what it is like to lose a loved one to suicide and it is NOT the better solution.
Get help, good luck, and God Bless.
If you want to talk to me anymore I will listen.
Just email me:
devynsimmons@hotmail.com
2007-09-02 07:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by edtkkfif 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids are certainly cruel! And now lets look at you. You are obviously a sensitive person, but perhaps you are frequently looking at thing from a negative or hurt point of view which only compounds the effect of the words spoken or circumstances that you are in.
I was the 6th child in a family of 10 children. Frequently physically abused by siblings and other things too. Talk about pain and depression!!! For years & years. Some thing held me back from taking my own life.and let me believe that somehow things would change and things would get better. I too was picked on in school and never seemed to be able to make friends. It was very lonely and horrible. BUT school is just simply a brief time in your life that seems like an eternity now.
My oldest brother had a friend who at 16 years old took his life. He never thought he was worth anything and that nobody would miss him. But he didn't have a clue how much he had impacted this 8 year old little girl-me. He wasn't like my brothers' other friends, he was caring and a decent guy. My greatest memory of him was when he was at my house playing football with my brothers and their friends he stopped everything and came over, unprovoked and pushed me on my tire swing. He didn't have an attitude or try to show off, he was just a caring person.
I can't tell you how it devasted me to hear that Ralphie killed himself. To this day it disturbs me greatly. About 5 years ago my oldest brother and I had to go to a funeral for a family friend. My brother pointed out to me where Ralphie was buried. I LOST IT!!! My brother couldn't believe how much I remembered him and how much he meant to me. You will never know what lives you touch in your lifetime never, never, never. There will always be people you don't like and that don't like you. Thats life! This young man was 16 and I was 8, I'm sure that during the last days and minutes of his life that my name and face never came to his mind. Those positive things never do because you are in a negative mode. So what I am going to tell you is go out and help people, be a blessing. Be good to those who could never repay you! This is the key to a rich life, not necessarily monitarily but of your character and mental well being! I know when I get in a slump it's because I haven't taken the time to reach out and be a blessing. I will also say that you have one major concern, and yes, hell could certainly be a concern but there could be a hell on every corner, but, the choice is yours. You can live a good life and spend eternity in heaven or ... well the choice is yours.
Call this # 888-870-7322 Or go to this website: www.joelosteen.com They WILL help you! That I know. Feel free to email me too.
2007-09-02 07:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kid, there's probably not a lot of solace in what I'm about to say, but I was in a very similar boat when I was your age. I thought that things couldn't possibly get any worse and that death would be preferable to facing another day of the sort of treatment I received at school and, to a lesser extent, at home. When I was fifteen I tried to commit suicide by consuming potassium cyanide from my chemistry kit. Unfortunately, that's just a fancy name for blue dye. I was terribly disappointed.
But things get better. After I graduated and entered the real world, I found that I had a great deal more resilience than many other people because of what I had endured as a youth. I also found that once I got over my obsession with caring about what others thought of me, my confidence greatly increased and so did others' opinions.
Please don't give up the game so early. Today, at 33, I can barely remember middle school, but I enjoy my life today. Good luck.
2007-09-02 07:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by anthonydavidpirtle 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The obvious answer you're going to get (from the sane community) will be DON'T DO IT!!!
The question which isn't so obvious to you right now is "Why shouldn't I?"
Society can be very cruel sometimes, and someone your age can feel an overburden of weight from factors and concerns which aren't even yours. When you add into the mix how mean and callous others your age can be, the feelings can become unbearable. The question you need to ask yourself is (and please don't take this the wrong way) "Do I want to kill myself, or do I just want somebody's attention -- Do I want somebody to care?"
There are many people out there who do care, and the hard part is to go out and find them. In today's world, many people come across as very selfish, and not concerned about other people's lives. But there are also MANY people who will stop and listen and care.
For example - take me. I am just an anonymous person on the internet, and I care enough to reach out to you to say these things to you. Don't go though with what you are considering.
Think about those who love you and care about you. How would this affect them? How would this make them feel? How would they live thier lives knowing that there was something they missed and could have saved you? That's torture to another person. I know, because 21 years ago I lost someone with whom I was developing a relationship with to her suicide. It devistated me, because to this day I still question whether or not I could have done something more.
Don't do this. Talk to someone who is close to you. Get this out into the open so that you can let others know how much you are hurting inside. Just one person could make the difference in your life.
So how about doing a favor for me? Live your life to its fullest, longest, happiest potential!!!
2007-09-02 07:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DONT DO IT! If life is really that bad then talk to someone! A councelor, a physicatrist, or a family member or friend or someone! Youre only in 8th grade...you have so much more to look forward to in life! Think about this- after high school, its all over - all those bullies probably wont get anywhere in life! And you'll never have to see them again! Middle school and high school are supposed to be the best times of your life! The times when you are young and stupid and can get away with stuff! Dont waste your precious time here on this earth! God GAVE YOU life! Life is a privelege! Dont take it for granted! OUr time on this earth is limited anyway- why cut it short?
Heres my advice - ignore those bullies. They are soooo self-concious that they have to pick on others to make themselves feel good about their pathetic lives. If it really bugs you than TALK TO SOMEONE. Suicide is a PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM. Problems and people come and go. But problems are TEMPORARY. Once you've commited suicide there is no going back. And think of your family! what YOU ARE DOING TO THEM. Suicide is a selfish thing. You are devastating the lives of those who love you just because YOU think YOUR life is bad. Sh** happens. to everyone. Life is NEVER so bad that you need to take your own life. NEVER. So PLEASE!! For the sake of those who love you, and for the sake of those who care, PLEASE DONT DO IT! find something else to focus on... friends, family, etc. Talk to someone. Get the help you need. Suicide is serious. Please take this into consideration before you do anything serious.
2007-09-02 07:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by winky face 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was made fun of a lot in school - had problems before and after we moved. My family was focused on the other kids (because one of my brothers and a sister were very difficult.)
There are many people out there who feel helpless and hopeless - though it is hard to believe when YOU feel that way. There are many things beyond school worth living for - think of the things you enjoy doing with friends and family - and the things you will enjoy doing when the time comes in life. You've SOOOO many things yet to experience in life, don't let a few ignorant people get you down. Don't let them rob you of the wonderful person you have yet to be.
As much as I hated counseling myself, you may want to talk to a doctor (a psychologist or psychiatrist.) It is good to know someone is there for you.
2007-09-02 07:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you shouldn't care about how people feels about you. First of all you should care about what's comfortable for you first. Suiciding wouldn't make you any better. I'm also going into Gr 8 in two days, i'm a bit nervous myself but it'll be fine man. We can both walk through this together. Once you get into school go find the people you normally can talk to without having to be nervous and walk around the school a bit with them talk about how your summer was. As you get into your year new people might join the school and you can introduce them to the school and become friends with them. I'm friends with a lot of people, I don't care about how they look. It's about how they act and what they do. If they're drug addicts ect. I would never be their friend even if they were the last people on the earth.
Also talk to your family about it, let them know they might be able to get a hold of your school counsellor for you and have a conference with them and the counsellor would be able to work something out. That's what they're for. If they don't help, ask for your school laison police officer, i'm sure they'll be able to help, after all they do work for the police force. And if those guys really wants to bug you they'll have to confront the officer first, if they ever really do get to you they might get suspended or taken into conferencing.
So buddy, no worries!
Good Luck!
PS. I found this article pretty useful: http://ca.lifestyle.yahoo.com/family-relationships/articles/parenting/rogers-todaysparent/behaviour_and_development-back-to-school_jitters
2007-09-02 07:05:24 · answer #11 · answered by David W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋