My husband and I are going through a seperation. I have a two year old and unemployed. I want to offer my son the best of me and there is an opportunity to leave the country and earn a decent salary and still be able to be home most days around 3pm
, when he gets older, I will be home for him after school.
Alternativley I could stay in the country/town I am in , and his father will be around, but the job I can get here is a stressful environment pay won't be great in the beginning but excellent in a year or so(though not alot of jobs available here) but I will be familar with the work (previous job) probably only get home after 5pm sometimes will have to work long hours as projects draws to a close.This job I can also get in the other country but long hours but pay will be very good!
I struggle with career prospects of the repping job compared with a job as a Project manager. and the issue of moving countries ...I do have family in this country...
2007-09-02 06:56:14 · 9 answers · asked by Cocoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Father will accept me going to other country..since I have spoken with him about it
2007-09-02 07:19:56 · update #1
Think about what is best for your son. Is having dad around worth having a more stressed out mother who may not be around as much? On the other end, is having a less stressed mom around worth losing a readily available good male role model / father? Only you know the details of why you're separating and what the jobs/countries offer. Personally, with family in the other country, I'd go for it, but unless there is a valid reason not to, make sure your ex is aware of what is going on and make sure that you have full custody. Otherwise he could take you to court for keeping his son from him. That doesn't mean keeping them apart entirely though: send pictures and encourage him to do the same; save money and vacation time for visits when you can.
2007-09-02 07:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by l'il one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u do love ur son very much and the decsion is a hard one if u have a reas stress ful job and ur taking care of him its going to be hard on u and him and him and is dad if u have cusdity of him explain to him the choices that u and him have 4 a better life and to better take car of him and he will love u 4 that but u have an prople that u have to take care of him and ur taking the better job in order to better take car of him as he grows up and supply the love he needs and clothing and all i had the same thing and i had asked the courts to leave one state to the other for a better job to take care of my son at the time not to hurt his mother so i made agraments 4 him to see his mother once a month and some holidays ,i am sure the courts will see ur side and the husband should agree on a deal that he sticks with and be a father with support to help ut
2007-09-02 07:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by osborne_dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart bleeds when I think of your pain. I think you should keep ur child with his father, even if YOU resent him. Find a job with good hours first, and good pay second. In a few years, you'll be past the 'survival' stage of the devorce.Please take my advice, I only want to best for you guys.
2007-09-02 07:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to do the ol' T-bar approach. List the qualities
The other thing is that you are not "stuck" with anything permanently, but try to select one you can stick with for 4 or 5 years so you can build your resume. Stability counts for a lot.
2007-09-02 07:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to think of your son he should see his dad if a good one. leaving the country can cost you more as if you get divorced he can ask that you pay to send your son to see him. you have family there that is good at least not going to be alone will have some help. who will keep your son in the other countries while you work long hours.God Bless and pray .
2007-09-02 07:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the issue would be does your child's father still see his child? Would he be upset with the separation if he regularly sees his child? A court might set some limits on distance if the father is still in the picture.
2007-09-02 07:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that his father would be a good influence towards him then you might want to stay, but if he wouldn't be then I would probably leave so you can start over with a good job and family already there.
2007-09-02 07:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Cacoon, Work is temporary but family is forever ! Just want you to see the big picture !
2007-09-02 07:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends what country, but if you like it there and speak the language then i would go.
2007-09-02 07:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋