My mall is where Kelsey Smith got kidnapped. Before the whole thing happened I could go to the mall with my friends, no parents. Then it happened. After they found out she was killed I could never go to the mall alone again unless a parent came. Yesterday my friend called me and asked if I could go to the mall with a few other people, including a 15 year old. I said maybe. Then I asked my mom and she said she would have to come with us (yea right...). Why doesnt she trust me?! Its not like someone will come and get me. I am safe. I have a cell phone. What is the big deal?! Please help. What should I say to her to make me go.......help me!!!
2007-09-02 06:38:00 · 7 answers · asked by Abby Nicole ☮ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as a teenager, you think you are safe. you have way to call for help, you will be with your friends in a public place. even adults can be in danger. do you seriously know how many abductions there are in a year, even from public places? and just because your friends are there does not mean they would be able to do something to save you should some predator come grab you from behind and put a knife to your throat. your friends would be helpless for fear of that person hurting you in any way. trust me, this has nothing to do with your mom not trusting YOU! right now, it's everyone else in the world that she doesn't trust with her baby. this is something you will come to understand later in life. and you WILL be glad that your mother was so strict with you, and looking out for your wellbeing.
as for what could happen should you be abducted from a public place, check out Ann Rule. she has a lot of books on true crime, things that really did happen. one book in particular is dedicated to public abductions. I can't remember the name of the book, but I have read it, and I would strongly suggest you reading it so you can get an idea of why your mom is so protective. no place, public or private, is safe from someone who wishes to harm someone else. probably what happened is that when Kelsey Smith was abducted from a public place, where so many others are gathered for various reasons, and the police did not get to her in time to save her life, your mom realized that anyone could be in danger of this happening. and, as much as you hate it, this has put you in the middle of it. your mother is concerned for your wellbeing. read the Ann Rule book on true crimes, and you will find out what really happens during abductions, and you will understand why your mother is so set on protecting you. I think I have a copy. I'll try to dig it out and get back to you with the name. hope this helps!
edit: check out "A Rage to Kill", with the sub-book "Profile of a Spree Killer". that one tells about a man, Chris Wilder, who abducted a total of 8 women, killing most of them, and killed himself when the authorities finally did catch up with him. hope it helps you understand your mother's concerns at this point. at least two of the girls he picked up in malls.
2007-09-02 07:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about your mother not trusting you. She just wants you to be safe. If you are with a group of friends how well are you paying attention to your surroundings. Would you even notice that someone is following you. When I was younger my mother walked me to and from the bus stop for 6 months after a young girl was kidnapped and killed. Then for another 6 months I had to come straight home. It was a pain but I understand it now.
2007-09-02 13:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by godisloveperiod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has absolutely NOTHING to do with her trusting you, this has everything to do with her wanting to make sure you are OK.
As a parent, I cannot imagine my life if something happened to one of my kids.
Try to understand her point of view.
As far as your comment about "Its not like someone will come and get me. I am safe. I have a cell phone. What is the big deal?!"...........I bet that Kelsey Smith told her mother the same thing.
Evenetually it will fade away, just be patient, she really is looking out for you.
2007-09-02 13:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that she doesnt trust you. She is just worried about you. She loves you and she doesnt want to loose you. There is a small chance that you will get kidnapped. Your mom might not be right but she cant help it. As a mother she ants to do everything she can to protect you.
2007-09-02 13:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just looking out for you and for herself. Your mom doesn't want to lose her kid to some psycho! What parent does?? You think she doesn't trust you because your young and ignorant. Not to be harsh but we all were once your age and thought the same way. You will look back and appreciate your moms actions when shes gone.
2007-09-02 14:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom may trust you. It’s the rest of society she has a problem with.
2007-09-02 13:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before anyone can really, honestly, answer this question it would be helpful to know how old you are...
2007-09-02 13:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Helper..Hopefully 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋