Should I move out of my house?don't have a job?

Question

I met my dad when i was 12 we have been living together for 5 years now and we don't get along we fight alot and I am tired of it trust me wat hurts the most is seeing my mom cry he hits me I don't say nothing my mom is always there trying to defend me I just don't want to make her suffer anymore she's my life she wants me to leave the house I just don't know were to go am 16 december 17th I'll be 17 . Can someone plz tell me were I could find a place to stay I have heard of places were they give homeless teens a place to live . I am in north nj but i could move to ny if the place is there I don't have a job and no I don't wanna drop out of school i need a number were I could talk to someone that could help me plz as soon as possible I can't take it anymore help plz

Answer 1

get a job and go!!

Answer 2

You need to contact the Child Protection Services in your area. You are being abused and it will never stop. Your mother is not putting an end to it which makes her an accomplice and altho she does not want to see you hurt, by her not reporting it, she is equally as guilty. At 17 you are still a minor and therefore are required to stay with your parents. Why did it take so long for you to meet your Dad? Are he and your Mom still married? Maybe you should talk to Mom. Does she work? Is it possible for her to leave Dad and take you with her and start a new life. You need to get a job. You are old enough now. Working will afford you the opportunity to be away from the house and the abuse. The minute you turn 18, pack your bags and get moving. I would not condone moving to a place that takes in runaway teens. You may not like what you have gotten yourself into and it will be very different than what you are used to. Alot of these kids have teen pregnancies or are drug abusers. Talk to your guidance counselor at school. You need someone to speak with who is neutral to the situation. If you can't speak to a guidance couselor, find a priest and explain what is going on. Either way, you need to find help and you need to find it soon. Good luck!

Answer 3

You really need to find a job first. It is sooo hard to do things the other way around. It sucks the situation that you are in but you need to call the police the next time he hits you. He has anger issues and they need to be dealt with. Don't let your mom talk you out of it either. She needs to be out of this situation as much as you do. After you have a job then you can save up money for your own place where your rules are the ones that goes. You don't even have to invite him over ever if you don't want to. Convince your mom that this is the right thing to do even though she loves him and it hurts for her to see him go to jail. He may be able to get help for his anger and turn your lives around. He won't though if you don't help him. Either way your dad is the one who needs to be out of the picture not you. Definitely stay in school though. There are so many more opportunities for someone with a diploma out there than there are for someone without one. Good Luck

Answer 4

If your mom doesn't live with your Dad then you need to move in with her. If she lives with your dad then you need to go to a counselor at your school and tell her EVERYTHING. They will help you. They may even have a teacher you can stay with for the time being. It is not okay for ANYONE to be hitting you. Your dad has a problem - it's not your fault that he's hitting you- it's his fault because he doesn't know how to control his anger. Keep focused on school - do not drop out - that is the biggest mistake you could make. I'm glad to hear that you don't want to drop out. You can make it- there IS help out there for you. I live in Alabama so i don't have a number for you but I promise your school counselor will. That's what the counselors are there for - students with problems like this.
As soon as you go back to school you need to go straight to the counselor's office instead of class. Please. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

You are not anyones punching bag! Your mom should be their for you but she seems to be having bigger troubles than she can handle. You are worthy of being happy and safe. This is not what lifes about at all. What great things you may do in your future? You don't need to drop out of school. You don't need to stay there. There are a lot of options for you. Heck you could still get to collage from where you are at.
Right now you have to change your thinking about the world since you are surrounded by so much drama. You opinion must be the only one that matter. Decide that you are worth a happy future and that your dreams are the only ones that matter. You will never be sick enough to make anyone healthy or poor enough to make anyone rich.Sad enough to make anybody happy. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO FIX THINGS AT HOME. It is your job to protect yourself and your future! If you commit to yourself and decide that you will have a home that is safe and calm you can. If you decide you will finish school and that you will find a good way to do that at 17 you can. I will include some links for help but since you have a computer I think you should look too. Be clear in your head. The greatest men and women alive do this all the time. They may a list of what they want. Don't worry about what you have.... only focus on what you want. How you want your life to be. Write it all down. Now KNOW you can have that. Have anything on your list. Be open to the opportunities that you find to reach your goals. Never give up! Believe in yourself. My grandfather feared for his life at home and went to WWI at 14. He said war was better than home. His family worked in the coal mines and his brothers kept dying before they were 18. He lived through it, finished school, and went to college. By WW2 he was a general and a supreme court justice. He put Nazi's in Jail for crimes against humanity. He lived an amazing life. He always believed in himself. You can do anything!

Answer 6

Talk to someone at school such as a guidance counselor, school nurse or teacher. Do not move out of your house. You need to finish school. Do you have any friends whose parents would let you stay with them till you finish school? That would probably be the easiest situation for you. By the time the state gets involved and gets you in foster care, you'll already be graduated. How about an aunt and uncle or grandparent? Maybe you could live with them till you graduate. Hang in there.

Answer 7

I would say to call your Social Services office. However, you may get taken out of the home and thrown into Foster Care which is probably worse than what you are dealing with now. I guess the best thing you can do is just stay out of his way. Put your life into school. Study hard, get the best grades you can and that will enable you to escape after you graduate from high school. Begin planning your future. I would also consider getting some part-time job in high school so you can earn some escape money and it will also keep you out of the house for more hours. Good luck.

Answer 8

Call the police on your SOB father (by the way no man should EVER EVER EVER) EVER HIT YOU OR A WOMAN! Can you stay with another relative or friend? Please get out of this situation. I am so sorry you are going through this. Call the local county department of family and children service and ask them what you can do. You are almost an adult and can go to college and live there and never go home. Your mom is an adult and has to change her way of thinking. She is scared and co-dependent and used to this kind of life. You, however are young and the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't put up with it!!!!!!! Find a friend, adult, teacher, someone to confide in. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

Do you have a relative near by who could take you in or maybe a friend's parents who you might be very close to??? I went through something similar when I was 15 and left home but I first hired myself out as a "nanny" for the summer and the couple I lived with (a lawyer and his wife) knew after a while that my home life was messed up and they agreed to let me stay with THEM to complete my schooling... my parents had to sign GUARDIANSHIP over to them, but that was the easy part...... if you had a relative or friend with understanding parents, you could maybe stay with THEM and finish school. That way, you'd be close enough to still see your mom and far enough away not to aggrivate your dad... My problem was my dad back then too...

Answer 10

If you leave, the abuse will just be directed at your mother. This man is unhappy with himself and lashes out at others whom he feels are weaker than he is. Report him to the police, please. I KNOW it will be the hardest thing that you've ever done, and your mother may be very upset with you at first. However, if you are thinking of leaving home at the age you are right now, and with no job, you seem like you're somewhat brave already. You can call the domestic abuse hotline for your state, as well. Please don't leave your home, though. There are so many things you have yet to learn about the ways of the world before you venture out into it. I'm not being condescinding, just honest. My little sister ended up leaving her home at 16 and she's had it pretty rough. Reach out to the elder people in your community who love you or at least one's who understand that it's never to beat a child. Honest punishment for bad behavior is acceptable, punching is not. You may be surprised how many people are willing to help your cause, but that feel as if they should stay out of it. Invite their help...please.

Answer 11

Sorry I didn't under sand what do you mean (north NJ). I'm in Canada and there is a number 211 when you can call and they'll help you find a shelter for teen.you really need to talk to somebody in your area to get information .