I love him very much and want to be with him but things are complicated I have a good job where I am at and I have a daughter and that would mean uprooting her away from extended family. Perks...he treats her and loves her as his own no question and I have already had phone calls of people offering me jobs out there with better pay. The pros and cons are about even, the biggest thing is hurting the people we will be leaving behind and I just want my daughter to be happy. Anyways anything would help thank you.
2007-09-02 05:57:04 · 6 answers · asked by dorkyitalianangelprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Change is scary but it can also be the best thing to happen to someone. Jump into your life and live honey. If you're always afraid to open a new door you will spend your lifetime in one room and you will always wonder what was on the other side of that door.
You will also teach your daughter to expect and embrace change in life which is a good lesson because life does change whether we want it to or not. This time you have the choice go for it. Enjoy the adventure.
2007-09-02 06:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to your boyfriend being in the military, he can request a certain base or location, but the bottom line is what is in the best interests of the military as far as where he will be assigned.
If he is not fortunate enough to get stationed where you and your daughter live he CANNOT be with you every night. There are bus depots, airplanes and cars where you re at, so you can always go back home for a visit.
BUT get married first before you uproot with your daughter! That will be crazy to follow a boyfriend anywhere without some committment on his part. Have a strong sense of independence, because deployment is a way of life for military families and wives normally get homesick. They usually go home during their wive's/husband's deployment or make new friends who relate to their situation.
2007-09-02 06:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another consideration would be how deep is the relationship. Surely you don't want to move your daughter out there and end up breaking up after a month or so. Don't move her out there for a trial relationship, if you two never lived together for very long because of him in the military then it's a trial. If you don't move out there your daughter will love the trips to go see him and it gives you private time to spend with her on your way there, so staying wouldn't be all that bad either. Take a good look at your relationship and if you truly think he's the "one" then do what it takes to be with him and be happy. The final out come will be: your daughter will be happy if mom is happy. The family will understand your need to be with him, if they don't at first they'll come around. good luck hun! :)
2007-09-02 06:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Terri S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time when he gets back from Iraq to adjust to being home Give him some space Do not rush moveing in He will need some adjustment time being home See how you get along now that he is homeMy daughter just had to make this exact descion She put her daughter first and took it from there
2007-09-02 06:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if YOU want to move. the pros and cons are even, so do what your heart tells you to do. it's never wrong. if you are happy, your daughter will be happy, too. :)
2007-09-02 06:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move.
If your boyfriend is committed to you, HE will move to where you are. If he is not willing to do that, he is not the man for you.
Your daughter has to be the first priority. Don't disrupt her life for a boyfriend who isn't ready to put her first.
2007-09-02 06:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋