annoying neighbours?

Question

i have a neighbour who has 4 children, they constantly shout (mum and kids), they come into my garden and have tried to take my animals out of their hutch, have gone to the toilet on 1 occasion in the side drain(not N0:1`s) and have tried again today. i have had the mother shout at me before when i asked her to stop the kids coming in...she just proceeded to shout at me and told me they never come in the garden!!!!, the older girl (about 9) is very nasty, has called me names on a lot of occasions, stares when we are in the garden and generally makes me feel uncomfortable to be in my own garden.
any SENSIBLE suggestions on what to do....cant build side wall higher at the min either

thanks for answers, unfortunatly the shouting stemmed frm me asking POLITELY for her to keep them out of the garden, the mother seems to like to party and wakes me when she comes home fris and sats frm clubbing so u can c where they get it frm. i live in a private house so no landlord and they come over wall that cant make higher just now.

Answer 1

Start keeping a diary now and get in touch with the Anti Social Behaviour unit at your local council.

It's a bit of a prolonged process but it pays off in the end. If your neighbour is a council tenant and refused to comply with warnings she can be evicted. Even if she owns her house I believe that there is a new law by which homeowners can be evicted for 6 months and their houses boarded up.

We had similar problems but the council came down hard on the miscreants and the situation has improved vastly. I think that they were warned that if there was one more incident they would be evicted. You need to keep the diary up though.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Try these things: If they are in your garden. Take them by the hand, tell them they are not allowed in your garden, and proceed to walk them to their front door. Then pound loudly on the front door (don't be nice and use the doorbell), and when she answer's hold out their hands and say "Look at the little elves I found in my garden, I believe they are yours!!" drop their hands and go back home. If they are still pooing and peeing in your drain, then do this if you can carry the drain (sometimes they are heavy but I would make the effort. One time should get the point across) to her porch, place it down and knock on her door, when she answers point at the drain and ask her to clean it up. If you can't carry it then let it remain, go to the mother, tell her that you would appreciate it if she would come clean out your drain as soon as possible because there is feces in it from her children!!
If they are entering your garden and yard by a gate, then get padlocks on the gate. I know it is an inconvience, but it would stop them. If they are crawling over a lower fence or squeezing through, then sit down and write a letter to the family and tell her that any damages that you will need to fix you are going to hold her reliable for.
Last case senerios: talk to law enforcement and child services (especially about defecating outside which are both against the law, assuming you are in the U.S.)
Hope this helps
mom of 2 boys

Answer 3

There is absolutely nothing you can do if your after SENSIBLE answers. What you have t remember is that they also are in their own garden and own house. If they are in rented accommodation then you could write a complaint to the landlord but otherwise you are stumped. You could try making a civil complaint to the council, but remember that as soon as they find out you are complaining, things will probably get worse and you will find yourself playing tit for tat. Other than that you can tell the kids, that if they don't shut it then you are gonna tie them to a post and burn them at the stake or go to your local fishing shop and buy a pint of maggots. Pour the maggots through their post box on the front door early hours and they will crawl of in the night and find somewhere they can crystallise . After a couple of weeks your lovely neighbour will have a house full of juicy Bluebottle flies.

Answer 4

Might it do a bit of good to call in the police...leaving the evidence for them to see if there is any? Also you might want to buy a fairly low-cost camera with recorder system. I certainly wish you luck with this load of, er, people.
A neighbour's grandson once left a prezzie on our front stoop. Mum explained a few things such as bringing it over and placing at their door. That stopped the behaviour quite quickly.

--That Cheeky lad

Answer 5

Oh Dear,
Thank goodness we are not all in that boat.
I Sympathise, as when living in horrible Leiceister, I was shot at. They missed. Ghastly place.
I have just returned fom a neighbourghly barbie, over-stocked with wine, beers, more nice grub than you could shake the proverbial stick at and freindliness, and humour.
So my neighbours are fine now, as it should br.

I do fail to understand why folks get upset with others
Especially if you live on the same street/

Bob

Answer 6

They are taking you for a mug, and the whole thing stems from the parents. You could mention it to the landlord if you have one. But, because I am seriously perverse, my suggestion would be to befriend the nine years old. invite her into your garden, give her crisps and lemonade, enquire about her hobbies and interests and what kind of day she's had at schoool tell her the best way to care for your pets. You might well make a young friend - and the mother will HATE it!

Answer 7

Oh poor you. Go and complain to your local council and the police. Talk to your neighbours and the people on the other side of them and see if they will join with you to fight these people [legally - not physically!]. Go to see the Citizens Advice Bureau or a solicitor but don't put up with it. Good luck and I hope you get the problem sorted.

Answer 8

Set up a video cam and record them doing the nasty things. This way, when you take them to court, you will have proof. Can you get a restraining order? Unfortunately, you will have to have some concrete proof of their behavior, otherwise the 'authorities' are likely to brush your problems off. They will say things like 'living in the city is tough, try to get along.' Blah, blah, blah. Morons! These people push you around because they have gotten away with it. Push back!

Answer 9

Poor you sounds like another case of ignorance and no respect coming from the so called mother so how can she discipline her kids if she obviously has none of these quality's herself. Neighbours from hell springs to mind, hope you get it sorted.

Answer 10

you could take photos the next time the kids trespass so that you have proof. Notify your local police department of their intrusion to see what your rights are. if no one else will help....get the services of an attorney and have them write a letter to the neighbor explaining what could happen if she continues to let her kids run wild AND you have proof from the photos.