to make a long story short my mom's a jerk and she makes me feel like ****, i hate her so much. but im not going to let her ruin my life, im working really hard in school.. im getting my associates degree and im only 16. there is a lot of homework and studying.. but when im crying every day because of my mom i really cant concentrate and its affecting my school.. please tell me how i can concentrate because i really cant take an hour everyday to try to calm down.
ps my moms not abusive she's just a jerk. and it's not bad enough that i need to move out so please dont give me any advice that goes something like.. you have choices you dont need to put up with her ect
2007-09-02 05:38:07 · 12 answers · asked by Terra 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
uhm.. trust me, you would hate her too
2007-09-02 05:43:16 · update #1
i already do yoga, pilates, running ect.. sometimes things just cant be fixed like that
2007-09-02 05:44:55 · update #2
Sounds like you're taking some good steps. It's hard when someone who should care for and love you is so cruel. You've already started to distance yourself by making your own plans and making sure she can't derail them. Stay on this path, as difficult as it is. Tell yourself that by letting her upset you you're giving her power over your life. You know you're a good and valuable person. What she thinks doesn't matter. Just close your ears to her words and tell yourself they don't matter. Don't respond to her or get caught up in her drama. Don't tell her off. Extricate yourself from these scenes as quickly as you can with the minimal investment of energy. Remind yourself that focusing on your school work is your ticket out of there. Don't give her the satisfaction of getting in your way.
Good luck.
2007-09-02 05:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone to confide in. A close friend or someone you know will listen to you and wont pick a side until you tell them the whole story. I've had problems with my mom as well and I felt that instead of keeping it bottled up inside its better to tell someone all about it and get their input. You can do al the excersizes or things to keep your mind off of the problem but i bet once you get back home its the same thing all over again. So talk to someone close. Try to come up with a compromise of how to deal with your mom without her getting under your skin even more. You'll see that homework will be easy to focus on once you find a solution or compromise to what causes the problem between your mom and yourself.
2007-09-02 05:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mischief Managed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose your a terrible procrastinator. Just like me. I am doing homework correct now. I simply began, and it generally takes me until a million am to conclude it. Id attempt to give up procrastinating if i have been you. Take some thing that could distract you from your room, and paintings at a table. If you want the pc, use it then take it away. That stops your temptation to surf the internet.
2016-09-05 21:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by hughart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought my mom was a jerk also when I was 16. Unfortunately we didn't get along until I went to college. After that we became best friends and I couldn't imagine her not in my life. It's just part of growing up - you wanting independence and your mom still trying to guide you best she can.
Just shake it off and concentrate on what you need to do when you need to do it. Things will get better.
2007-09-02 09:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by gogo7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel but try to work things out with your mom. If that doesn't work try not to concentrate on you and your mom's differences, focus on your school work for now and then come back to your personal problems.
2007-09-02 05:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by amandatinkerbelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. When your mad and you need to concentrate on homework, write a letter to your mom about how you feel. Write anything you want no matter how mean or nasty. Then, when your done, rip it up and throw it away. All your anger should be out and you can concentrate on your homework!
2007-09-02 05:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get upset, I take a walk around the neighborhood, or listening to some easy music, or both.
2007-09-02 05:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try do discuss with your mom . If it dosn't work, try to do exercices or yoga, it helps calming down . do yoga 5 min. after your quirrel and then do your homework quietly. (it dosen't have to be yoga but something you like.) I hope it will be better know:)!!!!!!!
2007-09-02 05:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by Icare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop go for a walk call a good friend take a short nap wake up refreshed and start all over
2007-09-02 05:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by peter i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom it's obvious she is upset about something.
try spending time with her she is your mom and you are 16.
2007-09-02 05:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by clahador 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋