I'm 16 and I have my drivers permit and my mom says I'm a pretty good driver. So, yesterday my dad wanted to take me driving, but the second we get in the car, he tells me he expects me to be an awful driver and get in an accident! I asked him why and he just says because he knows. So then I was really pissed off and nervous but I start driving and because of my nerves, I forget to signal early enough for a turn. Now my dad gets really pissed off and starts SCREAMING at me! Like why would you scream at a new driver while theyre trying to drive?? So it just escalated from there and he wouldnt stop screaming so I kept screwing up and now I'm completely traumatized and I never want to drive again. I dont know what to do!
2007-09-02 04:32:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Safety
Do not drive with him in the car.
Get your mother to drive with you instead. (always without him.)
Don't give up on driving, there is too much independence that goes along with it!
2007-09-05 22:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, my Dad was the same. Every little mistake I made he started freaking out and controlling the car from the passenger seat!
You could try what I did, and just calmly explain to your Dad that it makes you nervous and stresses you out when you are behind the wheel. Once you've had that little chat, go out for a quick 20 minute drive around. If he still yells, then don't go with him again, go with your Mum, or get some professional driving lessons. But, honestly, don't let your Dad put you off driving, it is great once you pass - an amazing feeling, but you need to work hard!
2007-09-02 13:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your dad did just about every wrong thing he could, didn't he? Now that he's totally freaked you out about driving, what I suggest is to never drive with him again until you're more confident. Have someone in the car who won't be breathing down your neck and go out driving places you feel safest at (side streets that are less busy, etc.) and when it's least crowded, like late at night or very early morning. Soon you'll have your confidence back.
Just know that your dad is the one with the problem, not you. But I honestly wouldn't go driving with him any more. He'll certainly cause you to wreck the car, thereby making his "prediction" come true. Maybe hand him a book on meditation or something. He needs to calm down!
2007-09-02 11:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by KellyWallace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not stop driving, try telling your dad that he is making you nervous. If tha does not work, then try sticking with your mom or taking a driving class for new drivers. You should not drive if you are to agitated because it is going to distract you from the things going on around you. When you are driving with your dad and he starts yelling, Pull over park and tell him you do not feel safe driving while he is making you nervous.
2007-09-02 11:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by alp807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ditch dad and drive with your mom or friend or other relative. And let dad know in a nice way that he is not really being helpful to you and that he makes you more nervous by acting paranoid. And that's the last thing anyone needs when learning to drive.
2007-09-02 12:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by mz_neemarie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this isn't really a good way to teach some one to drive, does your dad treat you this way in other situations? If not he may be trying give you a lesson on what driving is really like in the real world. Learning to drive isn't easy but you may just have to weather the storm, try this next time your in the car and he starts this just turn and ask him how you should do what ever your doing wrong.
Good luck
2007-09-02 12:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by hazbob43 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your dad screams at you because he is terrified you will have a horrific accident and be hurt or killed. I know -- I'm a dad and I also know I can be WAY over protective when it comes to my daughters. Try and cut him some slack (trust me, he is WAY more nervous and traumatized than YOU are..) and just tell him he has to stop screaming at you. It will be hard but he will comply. He may bite his bottom lip off, but he will do it because he loves you.
2007-09-02 15:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your father probably acted this way because he really didn't want to go with you. Some people behave totally improperly when they feel they have to do something they really don't want to. Regardless of how he felt about it belittling anyone, let alone your own child is way out of line. (People wonder why the world is full of violence, you spew violence, you beget violence.)
Anyway, you should either only have your mother go with you (which is probably what your father wants), or maybe, a grandparent, aunt, uncle, or go through a driving school. (Maybe your mom will pay for it, if you don't have a job.)
Just a few suggestions.
2007-09-02 11:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lorelle F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave a copy of this question where your dad can see it. He shoud know that he's making you nervous. Your learning phase needs to be low-stress so you can concentrate on learning everything you need to know to be a safe driver.
Having him in the car would be just like having a bunch of screaming kids in the car...unacceptable distraction.
2007-09-02 11:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Gary D 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your father should know better and should be deeply ashamed of himself! Do not go out with him again and, if he asks, tell him that he is a bully and you will not put up with such behavior. Ask your mum to go out with you, and any aunts/uncles/cousins/friends that have patience and who will help you to gain your confidence. Don't worry - you will pass your test and be an excellent driver I'm sure.
2007-09-02 11:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by alex s 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋