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I traveled across the country for his sister's wedding. The day we returned, he said he wanted to break up bc he can't be there for me like I need him to right now and it's not fair. We dated 3 yrs and he'd stopped putting in effort, leaving me feeling insecure and doubting him. I thought this might finally make him see I'm worth it.

Since then, he's completely blown me off. He refuses to talk about his feelings, and yells at me if I call and try to talk things over, he says the reason we broke up was so he didn't have to deal with me being upset.

Instead of trying to make things work, he chose to run away and not take any responsibility for the way he's treated me and made me feel. But he still talks about the future, like we'll get together again/he'll be there for me when he's ready. I miss him, but I've been much happier without having someone I love not treat me well again and again. I know I need to move on-- but part of me wonders, do you think he could ever really change?

2007-09-02 04:26:00 · 15 answers · asked by autumn 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

15 answers

in all fairness, i dont think he ever will.

he sounds like someone who at this moment in time cannot deal with other people's emotions, and the complications that having a relationship involves. he wants you, without the mess. basically, he's a loser. he's lost you.

therefore, he is not worth your time nor effort. the only way i believe your relationship will work out is if you change, to accomadate his childish behaviour. please dont.

i know you love him, and at the moment it hurts alot, but you need to remind yourself that he is not the love of your life. things will get better, and you will meet someone a hell of alot more suited to you =]

it may be painful right now, but one day you'll look back and wonder why you stuck around so long =] take from this relationship experience and learn from it, and you will end up a better person from it all =]

good luck =]

2007-09-02 04:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

I don't know how old you are, but it sounds to me like he is done with the relationship and just being a jerk to make it easier for you to move on. He's feeding you nothing but a bunch of lines and by running away that shows you he has no intention on working on the relationship. As far as him talking about the future, he probably just figures he can come back to you whenever he feels like it and you'll take him back. When you said you've been happier not being treated like garbage since he's been gone, there's your answer! 3 years is a long time, but you sound like you're much better off without him, and I have a feeling he's not worrying about you. Good luck!

2007-09-02 04:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by diyta 4 · 1 0

You have already answered your question by saying I am much happier without haveing someone I love not treat me well again and again This shows you respect yourself and your feelings enough to move on Follow your intuition

2007-09-02 04:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0 0

oh thats messed up ...... All i can say is keep your self busy and keep your mind off of him.... you might need to go out a couple of times be flirty feel loved and attractive and soon you will find the attention you have been craving and then you will realize there are many fish in the see and when your EXxxx boyfriend comes around it might be toooo late!

2007-09-02 04:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jeep1996 3 · 0 0

The message is very clear girl. H doesnt want u . leave him and move on.and dont u worry. one door has to close for another to open and you never know it could be a better door. just be a little smarter this time and dont let no one fool u. good luck

2007-09-02 04:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by prosper 1 · 0 0

Why don't you give him some space right now and see what happens. He says he's not ready to be with you right now so don't force yourself on him or you might push him away for good.

2007-09-02 04:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0 0

You cant make another person change. change has to come from within. let him go if he is meant for you he will come back and the saying is I can be bad by myself. whats the pont in having a man if i'm still unhappy. what is he adding to your life? if he is adding more stress and negative vibes then let him go

2007-09-02 04:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by blackleus 1 · 1 0

For whatever reason he just isn't feeling it. Dosn't make him a bad person. Move on.

2007-09-02 04:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0 0

move on that man does not see your worth now and doesn't care about what you feel.. might as well get over him.

2007-09-02 04:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by aquila 2 · 0 0

the sole element you're able to do is positioned the checklist immediately, dont enable her spead rumours approximately you. talk to her and ask her why she is doing this, its obtrusive that she wasnt waiting to end the courting, she sounds very spitful.

2016-10-03 12:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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