MY FIANCE MOVED AWAY ABOUT 2 MONTHS AGO, IF YOU LOOK AT MY PREVIOUS POST REGARDING HIM IT WILL SAVE ME A LOT OF TIME, THANKS :) ANYWAYS, HE'S FROM THE SOUTH AND HE NEVER WAS ABLE TO ADAPT TO LIFE IN THE NORTHEAST TO HE LEFT. HE HAD GIVEN IT TWO TRIES, ALTHOUGH THE 2ND TIME HE DIDN'T DO ANYTHING EXCEPT MAKE HIMSELF MISERABLE BY REFUSING TO DO ANYTHING. HE WASN'T WORKING, WASN'T IN SCHOOL, ETC. WELL, HE THOUGHT HE WOULD BE HAPPIER IN TX WITH MEXICANS. HE'S HALF MEX AND HALF CAUCASIAN...HE IDETIFIES MORE WITH MEXICANS BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT HE GREW UP AROUND, WHICH IS WHY HE NEVER WAS COMFORTABLE IN THE NORTHEAST, HE ALWAYS THOUGHT PEOPLE WERE JUDGING HIM-TOTALLY NOT TRUE, EVERYONE ABSOLUTELY ADORED HIM. ANYWAYS, HE STILL TELLS ME HE LOVES AND MISSES ME, AND HE'S NOT HAPPY DOWN THERE EITHER. IT'S BEEN 2 MONTHS AND HE'S DONE NOTHING. HE TELLS ME HE'S NOT COMING BACK BUT I REFUSE TO GIVE UP ON HIM. WE ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE, AND THIS IS THE GUY FOR ME. IS HE CRAVING ATTENTION OR WHAT?
2007-09-02 04:09:30 · 8 answers · asked by diyta 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my main point was that I know he loves me as well, and if he didn't have a part of him that didn't want to be back with me, he wouldn't call and tell me how bad it is there, nor would he tell me he loves me. He has some serious issues from childhood he is trying to work through and also is bipolar so that doesn't help...he's very confused, but he never had anything solid in his life in terms of family or friends, they always hurt him...I am pretty sure I am the first person who has truly loved him and stuck with him through everything no matter what, and the love overwhelmed him.he took my caring as a sign of control. I just feel as though I'd be making the biggest mistake of my life if I just let him go, he's basically calling out for help to me. He makes me so happy and is like no other man I've ever been with. Right now he's so depressed he doesn't seem to think about anything. i need to convince him he will be "normal" and can have a good life, it's just going to take therapy.
2007-09-02 04:16:38 · update #1
I can't sit down with him and have a compromise, he's in TX and I'm in Boston. Also, I do in fact have a life, I go to grad school and work PT, but if you've ever had a broken heart then you would know that keeping busy doesn't make everything all better.
2007-09-02 04:29:14 · update #2
No, not attention. Just you. I think you two need to sit down and come up with a compromise.
2007-09-02 04:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school then make up your mind what you are willing to do in order to have a life with him. That may entail moving to TX to be with him. You should only do that however if you know that he is in the process of building a life for himself. If he can't build a life alone, he wont be able to do it together with you and he would only lean on you. You don't want to enable him to do nothing forever. Since you are obviously not willing to let him go and you say that the two of you do indeed love one another, then the best thing you can do is to work it out. Take your time. You can find the solution if that's what you really want.
2007-09-09 12:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl him using he his half mexican has nothing to do with it get a grip with reality no one judges that anymore if he truky loved you he be with you and he would not put your home into negativity. i give him up and move on. I have lived in the Northeast al my life and have alot of half mexicans and caucasian and they have no problem adapting so he is using that as an excuse. he needs to grow up.
2007-09-10 10:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by sucidialblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sustasue had a really good answer i agree with her. you cant drop your whole life and run after him if he's not willing to make it work. finish what you need to and then figure it out and that gives your time as well to let him think about what he really wants and lets you get ahold of your emotions a bit so you follow your head and not so much your heart cuz love makes you stupid and blind.
2007-09-10 10:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by *Kala* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like you want to take on a lot with him. i can see that you feel he needs you and you want to be there for him. Bi polar...wow.. it will be difficult and location is not the issue. he will have problems where ever you go Texas north east or Timbuktu.... i say think about what you are getting into... it is a lot to take on. finish school stay in touch with him then decide. don't rush or stop your education
2007-09-10 00:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by phantom43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love, do you love him??? I think your not sure you do... he's not sure either, that's why he went to texas... grad school and a part time job are what is keeping you from going after him... come on, get real... " lucy,,, you got some esplanin' to do" look at yourself here dear... go with your heart!
2007-09-09 16:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want him??? Your the 1 craving his attention.He has no interest or respect for you> Move on an get a life of your own>>??
2007-09-02 11:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to him if u thank hes the 1 good luck hun
2007-09-10 00:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by taziarae/buz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋