being nice sometimes feels like a curse. horrible people seem to always come out on top. dose anyone know any different i would like to know what your oppinion is.
2007-09-02 03:23:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally go for the nice guy. But I have to admit as Iv got older the rough around the edges guy has alot more appeal the nthe nice one. But trust me a guy who'll treat a girl right always comes on top in the end. The sad truth is they're arnt many guys like you out there and we need as many as we can get.
Good luck hunny
xxxx
2007-09-02 04:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with being nice is that people learn they can walk all over you.
There is nothing wrong with being assertive, you can still be nice then too.
There's a difference between taking everyone's stuff on yourself just because you couldn't say no, and saying 'sorry, but i just don't have the time right now, if i find anytime i'll help.' If people learn to rely on you, then they will use you as much as they can, until you start to resent them.
As for the horrible people, yeah, it sucks that they seem to do well most of the time (not that I would wish anyway any misfortune, i'm too nice for that!) But I do usually find that those people who have not been that nice to me in return have usually got their come uppance. Or eventually learned to respect me. Just had to assert myself.
2007-09-02 03:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by A derka der 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time the nice guy finishes last, while you are young, in high school and sometimes even college. once you are in college and after college then being nice gets you a lot more than being the bad ***. by the time college is over women are looking for someone to potentially marry so they dont go to the bad boy, they go to the nice guy that will treat them nicely. right now you will just have to wait until you can find someone that is also nice and you two will be great, but until college you wont have a lot of girls, sorry. being nice will also get you farther at your job. in the long run being nice gets you a whole lot more than being the bad *** so dont change and you will finish first, just maybe not right now.
hope this helps
2007-09-02 03:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually truly believe that nice guys always end up on top in the end. These other guys may seem to be on top, but are they really happy? I've done a bit of counselling, and those who have all the appearances of having everything they want are the ones with the most problems.
Carry on being a nice guy, please! There aren't enough of you out there.
2007-09-02 03:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Rad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys don't finish last. Ya'll have something that all those jerks don't have, heart. Those horrible people don't come out on top, they just think they do. Just hang in there. You'll get what you want in the long run. The horrible people will crash and burn and wonder what went wrong. But you'll be on top of the world.
2007-09-02 03:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by smilest_16_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does seem like that at times, particularly when you're younger. It takes nice guys longer sometimes, but they do get there, and have more friends to top it all off.
A lot of not nice guys end up very very lonely and unhappy when they're older, no matter how many girlfriends they've had or how much money they have.
Just be yourself and be assured if you live your life well, being nice, having integrity and treating others will respect, this will reflect back at you later in life, and quite possibly sooner. Don't allow yourself to get bitter, cynical or angry towards those not nice people who appear to be one step ahead of you . Live your life your own way and be happy to be you.
2007-09-02 03:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in the long run! Goodness always prevails. You have self worth, something a lot do not have. The users & takers can't be happy they always want more and more and more! That has to constantly eat away at them. Haunt them, compel them to keep moving. No inner peace. That is the key happiness within. Be proud nice guy, your day will come and it will be solid and worthy of your goodness!!!!!!!!!! Don't be a sap though. There is a difference in being a fool and being smart. It sounds like you know the difference.
2007-09-02 03:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do believe nice guys finish last. I've grown up with a respect for women, I've never done anything to hurt them in anyway. In the few relationships I've been in I've ended up wasting years of my life. I've been with liers an cheaters. An when I was with someone who truely admitted to me she was inlove with me. Her ex started a whole bunch of **** between her and my family. Love story short she's back with her ex who beats her, cheats on her. Being a nice guy doesn't have any advantages, people just walk over you an when there done toss you out.
2007-09-02 03:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by dragonsrubylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it might seem like this a lot of the time - but believe me, nice guys ALWAYS win in the end. I have no interest whatsoever in bad guys. I always go for the decent, nice genuine guys. Keep being nice is my advice to you. There's not enough guys around like you xxx :-)
2007-09-02 04:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice guys always come out on top, just not in the way bad guys do. it all depends on how you look at a situation and you seem like a pretty optimistic person. not all bad guys who come out "on top" are truely happy, yet the nice guys who "finish last" are happy. happyness is all that matters really as long as you are happy everyone else can just get stuffed. remember it doesn't matter what place you come as long as you finish the race. =]
2007-09-02 03:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋