How does your approach/behaviour differ from one situation (where you're just looking to literally charm the pants off her) to wanting her as your girlfriend?
2007-09-02 02:47:02 · 17 answers · asked by sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I MEAN as opposed to a one night stand!
2007-09-02 02:51:51 · update #1
Well the big difference would be i would actually try to get to know a girl if i wanted to go out with her i would be allot more sincere with her. As for a girl I'm just trying to get with i would not really get into a deep conversation with her and i wouldn't really get to know her.
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2007-09-02 02:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by trueblueeyedguy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The difference is very vague, unfortunately. But of course you already know that. Now first of all, I am a guy, so I am of course ashamed of my male brothers and the way they operate. I am, however, an evolved male who has been in a committed relationship for these past two years, with plans to make it the rest of my life, and have given up these old ways for true love. Now the only difference between pursuing a girl for sex vs pursuing a girl as a girlfriend is basically the length of time that the male wants to be able to have sex with the girl. Just for sex is a one time basis, possibly a couple more if it is particularly good or particularly easy. If you sense the guy trying to get it in short intervals, that's a sign you're a booty call. If he wants you to be his girlfriend then that means he likes you enough to want to get it for as long as possible, and he wants others to know it. Now that doesn't mean he's going to tell (though he probably will) he just wants people to assume that since you're dating. FYI, he wants people to assume this whether you actually are having sex or not. Now the key difference here is that he does like you, and respects you, at least a little. This means he'll be willing to wait a little longer in between each time you have sex. If you use it against him like training a dog with treats then you just might be able to train him over time. Now of course I am hoping that not all the men out there are still this shallow, but I fear that my hopes are in vain. Listen, if you want to stay away from guys like this then please, to all the girls in the world, especially between the ages of 15 and 25, DON'T DATE LOSERS! How do you know if he's a loser? If he thinks he's thug. If he thinks he's "hardcore." If he thinks he's a pimp. If he's the cool kid in school. If he has a "crew" or a "possey." If he dresses and/or talks like a rapper. If he thinks he can rap. If he calls you "mami" or baby or boo or anything else other than your name, more than your actual name. If he gropes you in public, or likes to kiss and things in public places. Good Luck, and especially stay away from posers.
2007-09-02 03:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Josh 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're definitely correct that there are girls that men will just have sex with and girls that men will make into girlfriends. We want the kinky, slutty type just for sex. We want the smart, fun, and wifely girls for girlfriends. If you're asking this question because you're worried about being used just for sex then there's a simple solution: Develop a relationship before you have sex with a guy. Men will respect you more if you're a little chaste. If you're easy to get, we'll assume there's a good reason for that.
2016-03-17 22:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bleh I hate other people's answers with a great passion! Since when did a guy just want sex?! I'm a guy, and I've been together with my girlfriend for over a year and we've talked about sex, and together agreed that it would be best to wait - rather not risk anything, I love her for who she is - we don't need to have sex to keep us together.
Generally when one follows after a girl and talks to them as a friend, becomes a close friend, and actually shows that he cares somehow is when they're pursuing for girlfriend. If they compliment you too much on your body - watch out, it's a sign they want sex.
2007-09-02 02:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by r0d3n7z 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's best for the girl to know the difference. We want girlfriends for sex. What planet are you from? If you just want someone to go shopping and share make up tips with, find a gay guy.
2007-09-02 02:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well us guys are open to both possibilities. If a girl comes accross as easy and wants to have sex we are not going to say no. On the other hand if we want a relationship we are not going to be interested in the easy girl long term.
My advice to you is if you want a boyfriend for a long term relationship never put out that you want sex straight away cause it will only lead to a short term fling.
2007-09-02 02:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never pursued someone just for sex but I still know the difference it's all in the time spent together without turning the conversation toward sex or the amount of conversation you can have without being overtly flirtatious.
2007-09-02 03:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by big bopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi X, it's pretty much the same approach. Just with a different goal in the end. Course charm the pants off her could end up in girlfriend as well. Best of luck HUGS : )
2007-09-02 02:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Selvaggio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much difference. They want sex either way. If after 6 months of dating, you haven't had sex, and he's still asking you out, he's in it for the relationship.
2007-09-02 02:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is no difference, after a couple months of dating, you will start having sex with that person.
2007-09-02 02:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋