there's a girl who kind of seems to like me (asks if i'm single, etc.). met her about 2 weeks ago, hung out with her twice. i kind of like her.
third time was last night. me, her, and my friend were going to go to go to a bar with her, since she asked us to.
on her way up, she biked, leaving us to catch up later. we got there. there was only one seat (the place was packed) so we had to stand far from her, even though we were supposed to be hanging out with her. we were bored and soon left without saying goodbye to her.
her behavior seemed very rude to me. should i just ignore her in the future, or should i just forget about it and give her another chance?
2007-09-02 01:11:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she recently moved here. where she lived before, she said she had few friends. this rudeness may be why!
2007-09-02 01:20:54 · update #1
to the person below...not looking for marriage. a fairly casual relationship, maybe. not looking for just friendship either.
2007-09-02 01:22:24 · update #2
she knew we were there. she came over at first but then had to get a seat.
2007-09-02 01:25:22 · update #3
She's treating you like a very casual acquaintance. She invited you so to act this way is rude and probably normal for her. Even in a packed bar you can stand with your friends. I'm assuming you couldn't get to her in the crowd because if it was possible to hang near her, then you were the rude one. She definitely should have given up the seat and you should have walked over to her.
As to a 2nd chance, I doubt she's worried about it. If she wanted you, nothing would have kept her on the other side of the bar. You're either perceived as a hang-out buddy or as someone to flirt with, nothing more right now. Sorry.
2007-09-02 01:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dawnmarie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that it was in a bar, I would give it another shot. It may have just seemed that way. There's too many scenarios that came to my mind of what may have happened to type here. But I'd say give it one more try. Even you're asking here, shows the situation may have been a little confusing. At least then you'll know one way or another. How about asking her out one on one this time and finding out for sure? Good Luck!
2007-09-02 08:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Micheyski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This friend does seam somewhat selfish. But there is a possibility she isnt aware that her actions are effecting others. So the chance you should give her is to let her know what she is acting like and how its making you and others feel. She can either ignore this and lose her friends or she will be glad you told her and will try to do something positive about it. She deserves a chance to change and be a better person. Sometimes it takes a friend to let us know what we are doing wrong and why. Only a real friend would be so honest. Best of luck hun..
2007-09-02 08:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can be rude without noticing they did something wrong.
i do it when im nervous and i pull stupid faces or do something silly.
for e.g i remmeber doing something rude when i didnt even intend to make it seem that way..
i came into a free room and all tables were used by student but they were takin up too much space so i walked back out the room to find another room.
i asked the teacher where i could find a free seat coz i dont like sitting next to ppl i dont know or like coz i feel rly nervous and cant focus on work properly. the teacher directed me to the room and the teacher went mad at the people in the room saying they needed to stop slouchin around and takin up so much space.
this in turn made me look like the evil one like id grassed them up, all i wanted was my own table to sit down and work and i think they all hated me after that.
remember nervous/shy people can be rude, just give them enough chances to prove there not really like that.
PS: i think she maybe didnt see you and maybe might of got upset if you went but i sometimes actions are misinterpretated from both sides, she may thought you were being rude by not saying hi or bye. dont worry thought there is still other chances and if she is continously rude then you know what to do and that is to move on. good luck :)
2007-09-02 09:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got there ahead of you, the place was packed, Did you try to talk to her? Did she know that you where there, or was she suppose to be a mind reader. She wasn't the rude one. If you really wanted to spend time with her you could have gotten over to where she was. I know you could have managed it if you where in a concert. I just think your not that intersted in her and want to find an excuse not to hang out with her.
2007-09-02 08:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she seemed rude to you now. Just think about how she would act it the two of you got married. FORGET ABOUT HER!
2007-09-02 08:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by fishbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have writen, it sound like you are all about you,
always put your self in the other persons place.
2007-09-02 08:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously not clicking.
try someone else.
2007-09-02 08:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by tabulator32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck w i
2007-09-02 08:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its your choice not ours......good luck
2007-09-02 08:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋