Or, put it another way, if you cannot beat 'em, join 'em ?
2007-09-02 00:53:38 · 19 answers · asked by kanina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not talking about vengeance, but about doing something that you know will merely hurt her.
2007-09-02 00:54:42 · update #1
She's 32 and I'm slightly older.
2007-09-02 00:58:47 · update #2
What is your definition of "hurt"? This question is vague to me.
But from what you've shared......I'd say this:
If ANY human being, regardless of gender, repeatedly hurts you - it's time to take a look at WHY YOU CHOOSE to have this person in your life experience.
*You are free to choose differently at any time.
If you know that you are not at fault in any way, and this girl repeatedly hurts you, ask yourself a few important questions:
"Am I taking things too personally or is she REALLY trying to hurt me?"
"If I really treat her well with love, respect and understanding and she repeatedly hurts me for no reason, WHY DO I SETTLE FOR THIS KIND OF TREATMENT?"
"What is she REALLY doing - loving and accepting me or pushing me away?"
"If she's pushing me away, then can I accept that and move on to either be with myself for a while or allow someone into my life who DOES love and accept me for who I am???
"What do I really want in my life....?"
"...and is this relationship ALIGNING with what I want?"
Many people stay with abusive partners or friends or jobs because it's comfortable and it's familiar and it's what they know (from their past). But when you go deep down and explore what you REALLY want in your Life, you'll find it very clear what situations do NOT suit your needs and desires.
Stay within Yourself.
Be TRUE to YOURSELF, FIRST.
The right people will be drawn to that.
Life is more simple and yet more powerful this way.
You'll see! :-)
Good luck to you!
....and remember - only focus on what you WANT.
2007-09-02 01:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by PG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never resort to vengence, vengence is hollow and unsatisfying. If they are doing it deliberately stop seeing them. If she continues get a restraining order. That way you'll be well within your rights to have her punished and you might get some cash out of it.
I wouldn't sink to their level, if i had more information on the way she was hurting you i could give better advice. Unfortunately you'll have to make do with what i can offer.
2007-09-02 08:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you guys fun wrestling or some thing if so i would say yeah go for it but if she is just generally hurting you through the day get another friend! unfortunatly if you hurt her back you will be made out to be the bad guy
2007-09-02 07:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by cameron b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not to fond of men beating women. Other then for play. But no don't do it. I HATE people that beat women and will not be that person. Make the right choice and just talk things out.
2007-09-02 07:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sun And Sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better just find yourself, a different girl, maybe she needs to learn the hard way, that going on and hurting someone like that is not the smart, thing to do.
2007-09-02 07:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Unaware 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to leave the situation if she going to hurt u and not care then its not worth it. why do u want to be around a person like that. If she going to make u do things out of character and possible get in trouble its not worth it . Set her free to do who and what she want.
2007-09-02 07:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by KORIN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is never the answer, but if someone hurts you again and again, you are free to say that you wish to cut off ties and relations with them.
This is sure to both protect your feelings, and hurt theirs, while not being malicious.
2007-09-02 07:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by amanda_frog1990 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till she Cries, and wants a restraining order ?, Umm Like you Know um like MOVE ON like You Know
2007-09-02 07:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike while the iron is hot. Go for the heart. With girls it is on their greatest insecurity:Their looks. Pick well and insult hard.
Expect not to talk to her again but your feeling of satisfaction will be overwhelming.
2007-09-02 07:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not touch her! cause she can call the law on you for assault. but also you can call the law to put it on record too, for what she is doing to you. (My ex-wife and I fought alot when we drank beer or mixed drinks, cause she would go to meet other men, to do who knows what! but she called the law on me, and I really paid the price. since then I've quit drinking, but you need to look deep into your soul to see what the problem really is, why she abuses you!)
What you should do is, say "TIME OUT" then go somewhere and cool off, and also give her time to cool.
2007-09-02 08:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by fernominal2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋