my marriage is love marriage, 3 years back i got married, my wife doesn't know cooking and al. so i started cooking, washing, pressing her legs and all householding works. Because i love her very much. before going to office i finish every thing. now she is not ready to do household works, she is stronger than me, sometimes she beats me, i am happy to be kicked by her. but is it right? am i a great husband or a slave husband?
2007-09-02 00:50:10 · 24 answers · asked by dorai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No pun intended! You are a slave. Wake up from your dream and be a man.
2007-09-02 01:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Roohan Selvan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr.Dorai....I am very sorry ..if I write anything as offensive...but it is inevitable.....its already late...and I dont think you could come back and live like normal husband like others... it seems .you dont have the courage or guts to face your wife....and I have seen many like you in various cultures...Mr.Dorai.... like you we the millions of married men...and we are all living with our family....we should help our wife..., we should respect her and her feelings and her opinions we should be near to her as and when she require...its dos'nt mean we should live like a slave of her and our seat is not under her feet....
What you are doing is..doing all the works of your home and your office and you are thinking that your wife would love you and respect you... cause of your helping mentality ...and whatever you are doing is not in the marriage...what is marriage...A MUTUAL CONTRACT BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN....AND NOT A CONTRACT OF SLAVERY OR A VELAIKKARN ...WITH OUT SALARY...but here what you are getting is SEX ...I am not sure you are getting the way you want from her. .so if you stop work she will leave you...right? may be cause of the culture / cause of the fear of the community / religion she will not leave you....right? but are you happy with your life? Mr.Dorai...try to live like a king of one month but dont live like a donky for entire your life.
2007-09-02 01:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your wife push you around like that. Mostly this happens to married woman. You have to be true to your self. Split the work in half maybe. I am 13 and I have to do all the housework in my house. My parents do a little housework than me. But I am glad because I am helping a person out. If she can't do it then do it for her. If she can do it then let her clean. good luck.
2007-09-02 01:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by MOMO 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a u should b like husband and slave 4 her i think u beta tell her to do the work.she is not ur husband u r her husband rembember this thing if she beats u its called a bad culture of ur wife.she dont even know how 2 behave wid husband.atleast u hav 2 think
2007-09-02 02:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got to go and seek help
in yourcase I recommand Dr.Phil
Maybe you come out that studio
with some ideas about what marriage is
2007-09-02 01:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you pamper her, spoil her and now u complain. u have spoiled ur own life. you are beyond any help. learn to live with the circumstances.It is your choice to think whether u are a good husband or even a better slave. who are we to say anything about that.
why do u want a public opionion about your deeds
2007-09-02 01:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everything is okay, but why should she kicks you often ,. Is it in a romantic mood she is kicking you quite often or just like that she is kicking or actually kicking you or you make her kick you because of your mistakes you commit.?Based on your reply ,I can tell you whether you are slave to her or she is a slave to you. Yours VRVRAO
2007-09-05 08:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Raghavendra R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur patni wrata pati n dnt luk it like this infact u shud feel proud of ur self tht ur first evr husband performing the duties of wife which normally a wife does bt wife nvr complains tht she is perfoming all the duties (cooking n etc). be happy.
2007-09-02 01:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by sweetu k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you seem to be a slave husband, keep in mind if the things are going on like this, your life will be like hell, be brave and face the music.
2007-09-02 02:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doubt whether you are telling the truth or just joking.
If it is true, enjoy it, but please do not make any baby.
S/he will learn bad role models and will be a mismatch in society, as the societal perception and expectation will not match with his observations.
2007-09-02 06:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋