How realistic is it to think that you can leave a job and remain on good terms with the boss?

Question

I am male - my current boss is female - if that makes any difference.

Answer 1

It is definitely possible. I left a job about 2.5 yrs ago, and actually moved interstate. I still keep in touch with my old boss. Usually through phone calls, and the occasional visit and email. Basically we had a strong working relationship, as well as a friendship which developed over the years that I worked there.

In general terms, if you have conducted yourself professionally whilst under their employment, and are leaving for valid reasons (ie career development, relocation) and have given fair notice, and continue to fulfil your role right up until the end of your notice, then it is more than fair to say you could leave on good terms (if your boss is also professional). I always make it a priority to leave on good terms whenever I leave a job, as you never know when you may come across them, or an associate of theirs in future.

Answer 2

I should think it would depend on why you left, and how you explained it to her. If you left because you were interested in her romantically and did not feel it was appropriate to ask her for a date until you had a job somewhere else, I should think you'd want to tell her that. If, on the other hand, it was because you can't see yourself working for a female boss (you know, a macho thing), then it's undoubtedly better not to mention it.

If you left because you got a better offer that she could not match, she is probably just as glad to see you prosper, and would not resent it. When you've been on the new job a week or two, call her and ask her to have lunch with you.

Of course, if you left for some other reason, you will need to evaluate it in that perspective.

Answer 3

Depends on if you are a female and the boss is a male or visa versa! If you are a male and the boss is a male and you were fired chances are there will be no good terms!

Answer 4

It's fairly realistic. When I worked at Burger King when I was 16, after I got fired, I broke the front window because I was so pissed. I'm 22 now and I still go in there to this day, and the shift manager who had to clean it up is nice to me.

I did get fired on some bogus BS though and he knew it. He wasn't the one who fired me though. I suppose it all depends on the grounds on which you left/got fired, and whether or not you think that person who fired you was just doing their job.

Answer 5

Depends on the size of the company and your reasons for leaving. Large company, no problem, people come and go on a daily basic. small company, if your leaving has caused them problems, i.e. made them short-handed could be tricky. Go to the boss before you leave, shake his hand and thank him for the experience that you have gained whilst working for him/her. His reaction will tell you what you want to know, you could even suggest meeting him/her for a drink if it is appropriate.

Answer 6

It is very realistic.

In the three jobs that comprise my career, I have left all of them on good terms with the boss.

Answer 7

I have 11 former employees...all but two still come by my office to "say hello", even the ones I had to fire...so the answer to your ? is yes it is..part with integrity and ther is no reason the terms cant remain good

Answer 8

It's not like you're gonna quit your job and go skipping through the park catching butterflies with your former BOSS..so who cares

Answer 9

sometimes thisngs work out.. my boss didn't want me to work at the place for the rest of my life...but it depends if you just walk out or give a 2 week notice

Answer 10

Very realistic if he is professional-minded.