We had a courthouse wedding. What are the things we need to know. Is this a common practice (remarry because you didnt like your first wedding?) do we need another marriage license? we would like gifts. Because our first marriage ceremony was done in secret, so we didnt get anything from my family or any friends. Do you plan these like a regular wedding. We want a crawfish boil, is that appropriate for a wedding? Is it safe by tradition for me to wear white ( I never did before).
2007-09-01 21:41:08 · 15 answers · asked by kkecs07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I DO NOT want to renew my vows for gifts or money. I could care less. My sister in law had a gorgeous wedding to her second husband last night and I never had it and want one of my own. My child is owed photographs of his parents wedding.
2007-09-02 08:26:49 · update #1
For a vow renewal you do not need another license, your married. You can do, wear whatever you want, it your day.
Plan it like you would a regular wedding, nothing different, except you don't need to get another license.
This is done often, you do it when you want to do it...Some people renew every year
Have a blast planning..........
2007-09-01 21:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
The only way a couple can have a second wedding is to get divorced, and then re-marry each other. You can't have a wedding between two people who are already married, so don't plan one. There is simply no way to solicit gifts; forget that. There is nothing wrong with having a party to celebrate a happy marriage, a happy life, a new set of tea towels, whatever. A crawfish boil is just as legit a form of entertaining guests as any other. You may wear a lovely white ensemble by all means, but don't try to make it a wedding gown or even close -- you will look silly.
2007-09-02 01:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am somewhat in agreement with the other posters - do NOT do a 're-enactment" - and you don't need a license. BUT, if you would like to do a vow renewal somewhere, that is okay - take an anniversary trip - maybe even go to Vegas! Pack a dress & he can rent a tux (heck you can rent a dress there!) then you can have a "vow renewal" with LOTS of photos for your child's sake - IF that is really what's important to you. But for your comment "WE WOULD LIKE GIFTS" - well, that's tacky - I'm sorry, you already had your wedding - so, if that's what you want, then wait till your 10th anniversary and have a BIG party and spend a LOT of cash and do a vow renewal then - then people will bring presents.
2007-09-02 12:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are already married, so there is no do-over or you having another wedding. What you can do is have a vow renewal on your 25th or even 10th anniversary, which is a ceremony done at a church or another location, followed by you hosting basically an anniversary party. No big wedding dress, attendants, gifts, etc.
Just be happy you are married, whatever the circumstances were as to why you had the wedding you did...
2007-09-02 01:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you are already married...trying to have a whole new wedding is just tacky and rude and childish. nobody held a gun to your head and said "marry or else" you chose to marry that way and now your stuck with it. and to say you want gifts....how greedy and childish you are! nobody cares what you want. you chose the wedding you had and thats that. I wouldnt give a gift at a vow renewal and thats all your intitles to have is a vow renewal. nobody owes you gifts because you didnt get them the first time around so get that idea out of your head. if you want presents that bad then skip the wedding and use that money to buy yourself what you want. as for wearing white....you shouldnt be wearing a wedding dress to a VOW RENEWAL....this is not a make-up wedding...your ruining the total purpose of a marriage...you have no idea what its actaully about. grow up.
2007-09-02 01:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
it is not a common practice, yet it is something people would like to do.
I find nothing wrong with doing a renewal (which is what it is).
I am doing a renewal on our 1 year Anniversary (which will also be our honeymoon. Something we didn't get to take as he is in Iraq 8 out of the 12 months we will be married). I didn't get to have my "wedding dress". So, I get it this time. I won't have bridesmaids nor did I the last time.
I don't expect gifts. I only got a few from my siblings. No one else wanted to go to the Vegas wedding (personal family drama stuff beyond your question).
No, you don't need license. License is for those who are not currently married.
Just send out invites for the renewal. If you get gifts, great. If not, then just embrace those who do come or acknowledge it. Can't expect gives. It would be nice, I agree.
Usually renewal's you don't plan according "big event" like the original. If you didn't have the "big event" like I didn't, I know exactly how it is to want at least part of it. so, I say honestly, do what you would like to do. the Crawfish doesn't sound bad at all to do. I am wearing white again myself. Don't let anyone tell you different!
2007-09-01 22:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Hi. I must agree with Fizzystuff and CBTPrincess. You had your wedding -- deal with it. What is this about...."my child is owed photographs of his parents wedding?" So, will that be the first (legal) wedding or this second (re-enactment) wedding? I'm confused. You are not the first one to post this question...there have been lots of other questions basically the same. It is unfortunate, though, because even though the person asks, it seems that they have already made up their mind -- to have the "wedding re-do".....so why does everyone ask?
2007-09-02 17:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you need a marriage license? You are already married! A wedding redo is weird. You can't go back and get married again. People who adopt children don't go back and reenact the birth because they missed the first one. It's over. Move on. Go on a honeymoon trip or something with the money.
2007-09-02 01:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well you can have it anyway you want. Whoever's up here saying you're marrying for this reason or that is just trying to stir you up...forget them. I think it's common to renew your vows because you're already married. I dont think you need another license though. Ive never heard of people doing it because they didn't like their first one though...new....I think it's wonderful to share your special day with your friends and family though. You can have your crawfish but you may want to change into a diff. dress b/4 reception.
2007-09-02 09:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have your vow renewal any way you want to!
You do NOT need another marriage license as you can only have ONE, and it would be silly to divorce and then remarry someone, so you would have a vow renewal.
You can have EVERYTHING (Except bridal showers) for your vow renewal.
Congrats!
2007-09-02 08:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only way you can redo your wedding is to divorce and then remarry.
No, you're married so you don't need a license.
Ah, this is because you want BLING! Cheesy, but at least you admit it.
Don't bill this as your wedding, bill it as a renewal of your vows.
2007-09-02 06:56:59 · answer #11 · answered by Bill 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋