and it's not my fiance's baby. ....
he is unable to make babies.
what should i do ??
2007-09-01 20:17:22 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're in bigger trouble than I am!!!!!
2007-09-01 20:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
What makes the foundation of a good marriage and good relationship is trust, loyalty, and honesty. You have broken these three things with your fiance and need to look at what will make you the most happy. First of all, make sure you are pregnant before anything else that way you know all the facts before telling your fiance what's been going on. Secondly you need to tell your fiance the truth. Realize that he is going to be very upset, and may leave you, if this is the case then you learn from your mistakes and move on. If you want to be with your fiance then you need to be 100% honest with him and stop cheating. You also will be on a thin line, and need to earn his trust and respect back. The best way to do this is to go back to your foundation, be loyal, be honest, and do things to let him know he can start trusting you again. If you don't want to be with your fiance then you need to tell him that he is not the man for you, that you've been cheating and that you've been unfair to both of you, and should not have accepted the ring. If by chance you are pregnant you need to decide what is best for the baby and for you and everyone involved. If this is just a pregnancy scare then let it be a reminder of your behavior and a wake up call to you that you shouldn't be cheating. You need to break it off with one of the men in your life and be honest with both of them or you are setting a foundation for both relationships to fail because of deception and dishonesty. Right now though as it stands you are not ready for marriage. Marriage a serious thing and should not be taken lightly, and you need to be able to be loyal, honest, and trustworthy for the marriage to work. Right now you are not these things. In time you will be ready for marriage but as it stands right now stop planning the wedding and hold off until you can be sure you are with the man that doesn't make you want to cheat whether that man is your fiance or not, you have cheated and now he is not the man that doesn't make you want to cheat. In the future who knows what will happen. Best of luck, and remember that if both men leave you, and you are pregnant there are a lot of single mom's out there that make it every day!
2007-09-02 00:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by ekbaby83 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off.. if you are cheating on your fiance' WHY the hell are you getting married??? AND second, if you are pregnant & your fiance' can not make babies, don't ya think he will know something is fishy there???
Girl.. you had better come clean with him & take whatever he throws at you cause YOU were the one that made the mistake, not him!!! Do you really think it is fair to him for you to go ahead & marry him after all that??? It'll never work!
2007-09-02 01:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by totally24fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly James30 - Not all women are like this and you guys arent that innocent either you know.
You said your cheatING which means your still having the affair so sorry I have no sympathy for you you made your bed so lie in it. You need to tell your fiance the truth & hope for the best but dont be suprised if he never wants to see you again. If you are pregnant then I hope you are responsible enough to take care of the baby & learn from this.
2007-09-01 21:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First get a test then come clean with him then if you are pregnant tell the father he has a right to know. some people would say you got what you deserved but there is always room for forgiveness if you really love your fiance why did you cheat I'd be giving that a thought also good luck !!
2007-09-01 20:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This isn't exactly a situation that has any easy ways out. You can't hide your pregnancy for long, and the longer you wait to come clean about it the harder it'll be on both of you. If you wait until after you get married and after your pregnancy becomes obvious to say "Oh by the way honey, I'm pregnant with another man's baby", then the situation becomes 100 times harder.
Your only real hope is that your fiance is so understanding and head over heels in love with you, that he forgives you and choose to raise your child as his own. But you'd be well advised to tell him NOW before the wedding. It's a lot easier to call off a wedding than it is to get divorced.
2007-09-01 20:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by ardra71 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've been married twice before, so I don't care if I don't marry again, but I won't say that I "won't" marry again...it's not a priority at all, but I would love to have someone to share my Life with... I've been single for a long time now (the better part of the past 11 yrs) so I'm comfortable with it just being me, if that's how the rest of my life goes...I have friends and family and interests, so it's never boring (but sometimes it gets lonely)...
2016-04-02 23:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should come clean and tell him he has the right to know what you have done. If you will stop cheating tell him and hope he forgives you some guys if you cry a lot will forgive you IF you mean it that you will stop cheating on him.
He might be willing to raise another guys child. Also the real father has a right to know because IT IS his kid after all.
Good Luck
2007-09-01 21:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rukia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to come clean with him and then it's up to him weather he wants to stay with you and take care of another mans baby personally i think that you made a very bad decision when you went behind his back and cheated this is not the way to start off a marriage
2007-09-01 20:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by chyna doll_2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to be a mature woman about this situation. call off the wedding and tell your fiance the truth. he deserves to know. if you are cheating on your fiance then he is not the one true love of your life. be honest with yourself. you will feel better.
2007-09-01 20:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by ktothej 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
OMG!!! Hold the wedding and tell your fiance after finding out for sure through a pregnancy test! You must tell him!
2007-09-02 02:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by Tostito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋