my mom n dad are not happy 2gether now bt they hv 2 stay 2gether cuz of me as iam 17. well my dads way of life n stuff hv made me very irritated , i cant stand him now. my mum , wenever i do something wrong or say something wich she doesnt like even if it is right , says that it is cuz of my fathers blood and iam becoming like him. it really pisses me off.all the time she will find faults which are even present in her and if u wanna reason out with her all hell will break loose. all this n a lot of other thigs have led me 2 depression and self injury n ill never tell my parents about it.
2007-09-01 18:35:54 · 3 answers · asked by pikachu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hun, first, you cannot blame yourself for what they are doing to each other. Second, find someone you can talk to, someone at school, a friend, a pastor or priest, someone who will help you with what you are doing to yourself. Adults do stupid things, just like kids, only when adults do dumb stuff, it messes up their kids too. Find an anonymous person to vent at rather than taking it out on your own body. If you really want to keep this from your parents, depending on where you live, you may be protected by the doctor-patient confidentiality thing and could go to a doctor and get treatment. Maybe after a little while, you might want to tell your parents, show them what they are doing is hurting you more than they think.
In dealing with the lifestyle issues and the mom problems, I'm not sure. You might be able to get past the mom thing with "yes ma'am, I'm sorry," agree with her and move on so that she feels like she has done something and you don't have to deal with the conflict, even if you don't see what you have done or said as wrong. Sometimes it just helps to be compliant and apologize for upsetting them.
About your dad, that I don't know. Maybe you could talk to him about it. Tell him that what he is doing is hurting you and ask him to stop. If he doesn't, then that is his fault, not yours. You have to lovingly appeal to him, make sure he knows how hard it is on you to see this going on.
I hope this helps you, and I will be praying for you.
2007-09-01 18:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by HW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur Mom shoudl know better than that and not take it out on you just because him and your Dad can't see eye to eye. But she seems liek she doesn't know nothing about motherhood. But also you need to become strong and not let her words hurt you so bad. ANd so what if you are your Dad's bloodline. SHe jealous because she isn't. Well if ever you want to caht just IM me anytime. ANd don't think about nothing bad and quit hurting yourself because it doesn't solve anything it will only hurt you.
2007-09-02 01:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them not to stay together on your account. You also might want to make sure you get a dorm when you go to college so you can get out of the house.
2007-09-02 01:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋