God and Marriage ?!?

Question

My spouse has broken his vows by committing adultery. I am wanting to leave my marriage because I believe that my spouse has given me the right to leave. We do not share the same religious beliefs, for I am a christian, and he is himself as he would put it. He is wanting me to stay and work through this.
I can't believe that God would restore a marriage where the vows were broken. Would that be going against the Bible?

I don't want to run from my marriage but I don't have anything to hold on to. My spouse is lazy, full of excuses, and worried about himself.

Answer 1

According to the bible, if the woman leaves the man for ANY reason, she becomes an adulteress--good luck with that!

Answer 2

Craigerz is wrong the Bible does not discriminate against Women in the way he says that only the men have rights, according to the Bible you have the right to a Divorce if you can prove that he has commited adultery, or if he confesses, but you can forgive him,although if you do forgive him, you cannot Divorce him for this time anymore in the future because you forgave him. so if you decide to give him another go then you cannot Divorce him for it later unless he commits adultery again. your spouse made a commitment to you when he married you and if he broke the vows you have a Biblical right to a Divorce, and you can take it without worrying that you are doing something wrong because your spouse is the one who did wrong both Biblically against God and against you, but as I said you also have the choice to forgive him and try to rebuild your relationship with each other and with God, if you feel that you can trust him and that he will truly try to rebuild the relationship with you then do go ahead and try again after all you did marry him, but if you feel you can't trust him then you have every right to a divorce.

Answer 3

Biblically, you have the right to leave him. Adultery is a reason for divorce. But don't underestimate the power of God. If your spouse really wants to try to work it out, you should give it a try. You should realize that sometimes for guys, sex outside of marriage is just that- sex. For many of them, it is just a release, not necessarily a commitment to someone else. It may be that your spouse truly loves you, but flesh got in the way, and he made a poor judgment call. As Christians, it is best for us to try to forgive and let God bring healing. You should get some counseling together before you try to call it quits. God can do miracles in bringing broken marriages back together. I've heard many testimonies about that, so don't be too quick to give up.

Answer 4

This is not directly towards you... but this is why we are told to marry others in Christ. Then we don't have to worry about religion.

Anyways, biblically you can divorce him! But unless he is doing it all the time, i think you should work it out... somehow... Of course i don't know the details on the relationship but you gave vows too.

Through good and bad you'd be together!

Isn't your marriage anointed by the most high God?

I say pray about it! Don't act on Human feelings. Feelings can deceive!!! Talk to the elders of your church about it.

Only you can make a difference. Don't wait until he dose!

Answer 5

You're in a bad situation.
I'm going to reveal the truth about marriage and divorce, even if adultery was committed. I like you, you're very nice.
God's laws doesn't allow divorce. In the old testament God warned a man that God's laws are never made to be broken.
I'm going to reveal somethings to you that many have failed to see.
Here's some verses in the bible. "God will delusion sinners to believe a lie." "God's son will illusion people to believe a lie".
Keep those 2 verses in mind.
Jesus was asked twice about divorce and remarriage.
Once he was asked, he replied by saying. "It has been written, that you are not to divorce and remarry till death do you part except for fornification (which includes adultery).
What preachers fail to notice is the part where he said, "It has been written."
Another time Jesus was asked, he straightout said that you are not to divorce and remarry regardless of the reason.
Now think of the first time he said it. When he said "It has been written." What does the bible also say. God's son will delusion people to believe a lie. God will delusion sinners to believe a lie. All humans are people, and all humans are sinners.
Where and when was it written? In the old testament, a man told God he was going to rewrite the ten commandments to allow divorce and remarriage.
What did God tell that man? God told him he will be writing man's laws, not rewriting God's laws. God warned him that when he does God will not like it. (God will not approve)> God told him God understands, but God never said that God approves.
Also notice that God asked him to allow remarriage if adultery was committed and to put it in writing. That was a request, not a command. Why? God already told him that God's laws are not to be broken and that he'll be writing man's laws, not rewriting God's laws. God's laws doesn't allow divorce regardless of the reason. God's laws doesn't allow divorce and remarriage.
Why would God tell him to put it in writing. God knows everything, even before it happens. God knew that Jesus would be asked that question. What does the bible say, "God will delusion sinners to believe a lie" "God's son will illusion people to believe a lie.
When Jesus was asked about divorce and remarriage did he say, according to God's laws, according to my laws, it's written in God's laws? No, he simple said that it has been written. When you look to see where and when it was written how did it come about to be written? A man wrote it in who's laws? Man's laws, not God's.
When Jesus was asked again. He said that Noah wrote that it's ok to. Then he said. " But I say that if you do marry and then divorce, you are not to remarry until death do you part. And any man who puts aside his wife for another commits divorce. And if a woman who was divorced, even if adultery was committed, and beds with another man and her ex is still alive also commits adultery. And any man who beds with a woman who has been divorce and the ex is still alive also commits adultery.
Anyway. If you divorce him and sleep with another man, while your ex is still alive, you will be committing adultery.
Your husband committed adultery, so has that woman. Are you going to?
If you 2 divorce, in man's eyes you may be divorce, but in God's eyes, you're still married and not allowed to remarry, not till death do you part.
Now I suppose you understand why I mentioned that you are in a bad situation. Many divorces and remarries any way, saying well God understands. Yes he does. What he does understand is that they have disobeyed God and broke God's laws anyway.
You're stuck in a bad situation.
He thinks that God doesn't exist, like many others foolishly believes. God actually does exist.
I hope you make a wise decision. Best of luck. Take care
You're very nice. Take care.

Answer 6

God's perfect will is for a couple to stay married for life, but He does make an allowance for divorce in the case of adultery.

Matthew 19:3 And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?"

4 He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."

7 They said to him, "Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?"

8 He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery."

So God would have you to be reconciled to your husband and not run to the divorce court, but He allows you to get a divorce if reconciliation is not possible. If your husband is not a Christian then you need to pray for God to convert him and follow the guidelines that Peter gave us.

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives-- 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external--the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing-- 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.

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Answer 7

The Bible was written 2,000 years ago. Back then, women were property like cattle (see 10th commandment).

Own your own life. Empower yourself to make the right decision.

Answer 8

Dump the creep

Answer 9

if you want out, get out. Don't rely on a book to tell you what to do.

Answer 10

"Until death do you part." You really do need to forgive him for yourself not for him. We are to forgive and forget but more importantly we are to forget what we forgave.