2007-09-01 17:28:37 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Give him specific assignments to do.
2007-09-01 17:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by tabulator32 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to him. I almost thought I was going to plan the wedding out. I know most of the music stuff I'll have to do because my fiance isn't too big on music like me lol. So I asked him about a song I wanted to use for the father/daughter dance and my dad um requested it and it was a country song that I know my fiance doesn't like country so I asked him if we could have some country and he said yes and he was like so started on the planning have you and I told him not really I want to do the planning together and he was like I'm glad. So we are going to do the planning together but not yet which is fine with me. I'm just glad we can work as a team. A marriage isn't one person it takes two. Just like to get pregnant it usually takes two.
2007-09-01 19:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rukia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you're just too naive & adorable for words. The "wedding planning" is naturally the woman's job. I sound crazy saying it & although you'd love him to get into it, most men are just not into the planning. All they want to do is have the bachelor party, sober up, get the tux & ring, show up, say I do & have the honeymoon. I'm sounding very unromantic here, but honestly they don't care about the details quite the same way we do. Do you think he's really gonna want to give input about the flowers or colors? Seriously, just give him a list of the little errands you need him to complete (men love that crap-clear picture of their role) & send him on his way. Good luck & felicitations on your match.
2007-09-01 17:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Smith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he wants for your wedding day. Most men are not detail oriented. All they want to do is show up and get married.
However, ask him what he visions the day to be like. You may have to ask certain, specific questions.
Start w/
1) What kind of reception do you want, big or small?
2) Where would you prefer to have this big/smal reception?
3) What kind of food do you want to serve?
4) What kind of cake?
5) What would you be most comfortable wearing?
6) Who do you want to invite?
Keep asking specific questions related to the wedding. Eventually, he'll answer one with interest.
If it were my guy, he'd be talking about the food. Since he loves to eat. I think most guys like to do that. Get him involved in picking out the menu or at least getting a list of his friends and family together.
2007-09-01 17:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is provide him with a list of things that you would like for him to handle. Some things might be:
Select tuxedos
Plan honeymoon travel
Arrange for bar/liquor at the reception
Select a DJ
Arrange for the transportation/limos
Select his groomsmen and groomsmens gifts
Handle the application and submission for the license
These are more guy type things, rather than having help pick colors or flowers.
2007-09-02 17:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turn off the tv and sit down in front of him alone and make sure nothing is going to distract him and tell him how important that it is to you to have him help you plan the wedding....men can get distracted easily and you need to remove those distractions while you talk about this....or goto the beach or for a walk and tell him your feelings....you deserve that much....because if you can get his attention before getting married....after your married it will get worse and much harder to do so
2007-09-01 17:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by brian35_1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!!!!!!!!!
Do NOT try to get him more involved!
My husband was very uninvolved until I had a big talk with him one night about how I felt like it had all been left up to me & I felt like he didn't care about the wedding...blah blah blah.
Anyway, after that he was more involved - to the point where I could not make a single decision without him having input & his input was not always that helpful or necessary. He became a HUGE groomzilla & I wished I had kept my big fat mouth CLOSED!
Get your bridesmaids & Mum involved. Get HIS Mum involved but be warned....if you ask him to be more involved you may live to regret it!!!!!
2007-09-01 17:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question of the universe! Don't worry about it say. I bet he's fine not being to involved. His part is to plan the honeymoon. If he really does want to be involved, just give him stuff to do like ordering the flowers or buying the cake.
2007-09-01 17:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by Vacationer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? Don't get him involved. It will only be a mess. Pretty soon is Mom will be involved and you won't be able to get her input out of the plans. Don't do it. Men don't like planning a wedding anyway. Just tell him where and when. And get the guest list for his side from his Mom. That is it.
2007-09-01 17:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You don't really. Guys just really don't care about the specifics involved they just want to get to the alter and the after the alter. Let him know that you were wondering if he were interested and if he says no then you get everything you want and all the bragging rights. Let him know that if he doesn't help though that he has no room to complain if there is anything that is too expensive or that he does not like.
2007-09-01 17:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
READ MY ANSWER!
Put him incharge of something he'll be interested in. He doesn't care about flowers or dresses. But I told my guy to get the bartender and the tuxes. Since I've heard him asking some people about the bartender! I just told him that I didn't care if we had a bartender or not so if he didn't get it we wont have one. That's just one suggestion though. You're guy may be interested in something else, either way there has to be something he's interested in. For instance the dj
2007-09-02 09:44:05 · answer #11 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋