I'm a very shy person, especially around most of my coworkers. I really like them though because they seem like nice people with good hearts. I'm assuming that they know I'm shy because I'm pretty quiet, blush and have trouble initiating conversations. I have sent a few appreciation cards to a few of them though. I've also talked to them a little more when it's one-on-one.
Recently in small ways, they've started approaching me one by one to try to talk to me. For instance, I ran into 2 of them. Immediately started blushing when they approached me. Had a brief encounter about our summers but that was it.
I'm so worried that eventually they are going to be detracted and not want to talk to me because I still get shy when they approach me now. (They didn't use to approach me). They've characterized me as "soft-spoken" "gentle" "quiet" and "kind"
Do you think the blushing and shy attacks are going to detract them?
2007-09-01 17:28:34 · 11 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
People find shyness charming. I've noticed in the workplace, those who had those qualities are valued above all others because it causes them to lack the qualities that generally turn people off socially. They are approaching you more because they like you! Blushing, stuttering, and "gentleness" are adorable to behold, the downside being sometimes they may put you on the spot a bit, tease you you know, just to get those cute reactions!
2007-09-01 17:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by cthulhu_kisses 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people can find interacting with a shy person a challenge because they have to keep the conversation going themselves and it may seem like a shy person isn't interested at times.
However, if they're making an effort and you've had a few short conversations, it sounds like you're on the right track.
You can't just make your shyness disappear but you can take small steps to becoming more confident and comfortable speaking with others. The cards you sent were a great start, it shows you're interested and willing to talk with your coworkers. Next time someone approaches you, try giving them a short compliment or asking a few questions to keep the conversation going. If they see that you're attempting to keep it going, they won't feel so much pressure to do all the work themselves. It takes time, but you can build up to it - don't get discouraged, just keep remembering that they want to talk to you otherwise they wouldn't have initiated a conversation. :)
2007-09-02 01:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may tire of your shyness eventually but for right now its sweet and innocent and that is a rarity in the realms of corporate America. You seem like a sweet girl and this should not discourage you from trying to make new friends. They now realize you are shy so pick out a few that you associate with the most and start talking to them more often as you get to know them better and feel more comfortable with them - then expand your socializing to one more person and keep doing this until you no longer feel shy around these people. If you are going to be working with them everyday, you've got to get to know them anyway. Hope this helps.
2007-09-02 00:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....being shy wont detract anyone. Look at what they think of you......soft-spoken, gentle, quiet and kind. They are such positive lovely ways to discribe a person. They abviously do appreciate and respect you. You said they didn't use to approach you....well if they are now, things are getting better.
Dont be so hard on yourself. I would love to have a staff member like you around.
2007-09-02 02:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be that shy...until my Grandmother told me that shyness was really a form of selfishness. She said that we have to stop thinking of ourselves all the time and focus on people around us. It's very hard, because when you do finally forget yourself for a moment, you have anguished moments afterwards wondering if you made a fool of yourself. If you can find some counselling, by all means do it. People are not put off by shyness, they just grow tired of having to do all the work in the relationship.
2007-09-02 00:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tangerine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends is like that, and I was absolutely THRILLED when I finally cracked open her shell. Don't hold back forever, though. Eventually they *will* give up. Divulge little things to them that you normally wouldn't do, and ask yourself why you're so shy and soft-spoken. That may help.
2007-09-02 00:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this it will help lots...
Everyday, starting tonight, right before you go to bed go to a mirror and look deep into your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self "I love you unconditionally, and I honor who you are and what you are".
Also do the same process as soon as you wake up.
Your Life will have shifted within 30 days.
It works!
2007-09-02 00:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people could take that as something negative, but i wouldn't worry too much. its who you are and you can't change that, all you can do is try. your appreciation cards said a lot about you to your co-workers, no one does that anymore. keep it up. cheers!
2007-09-02 00:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by skeezbucket 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. If anything, it might inspire them to talk to you more to try and get you to 'open up'.
2007-09-02 00:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by KingTriage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people would find it a challenge.
2007-09-02 01:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋