im 18 years old. Guys think that im preety, but for some reason after getting to know me , they all leave me. I've been dumped by more then 5 guys. My longest relationship was 3 weeks. I dont know whats wrong with me, it really lowers m self esteem and im afraid to meet new guys becaue i have a fear of getting dumped again. Guys that i date 2,3 times also leave me, and i just cant understand why. I was thinking that guys like me for my looks, but then when they get to kno me for myslef it turns them away or somethoing. Im kinda quiet sometimes, it takes me time to open up and to act like myslef, but they dont give me a chance. Sometimes i just act different so they wont see me but anyways they leave me and i dont kno whats wrong with me.
2007-09-01 17:26:05 · 10 answers · asked by victoria v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you're attracted to guys that aren't right for you.
Try to date a guy that you normally wouldn't give a second look. Try to broaden your tastes and if nothing else, just lower your standards a little. You might find something you like.
Remember not you make yourself too available. We take things for granted when we don't have to work for them.
If he has to put considerable effort into getting your attention, he'll be more likely to hold onto the relationship. Attraction should be close to mutual between you. If he thinks you're moving a lot fater than him, you'll scare him away.
We all want someone who feels the same about us as we do about them. Don't get into a hurry with commitment. Most men don't want to get locked down unless we're certain that you're the one. Patience is key if you tend to get attached too quickly. Just give him a chance to get to know you and your finer qualities. If he decides that you're not for him, you should try to find comfort in the fact that you probably wouldn't have been truely happy with him in the first place. There is a man out there for you. One that will be able to make you happy.
I believe that there are several people out there who are compatible with each one of us. Those who share the same passions and desires.
It's also important to not put too much emphasis on your looks. If you want a man to like what he sees inside of you, you should work on making it just as beautiful as you are on the outside. Men are initially attracted to looks, but it's your personality and character that will keep one.
2007-09-01 17:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Cosmodot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it may be that you're just not ready for a relationship - ie: emotionally mature enough and these guys could be picking up on that. It sounds like you need some time to grow. I hope you're not sleeping with these guys...or you will continue to blow your self esteem. There is power in knowing that you look good but don't put out for just anybody.
2007-09-01 17:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by sassy sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not in these guys, but in you.
You are clearly good looking, otherwise guys would not be starting off with you. The fact they leave shortly afterwards points to another problem: how do you chose who do you go out with? Sounds like you are (almost) ready to go with any half decent guy, but do you know these people before you start off with them? Do you know if you have anything in common with them? I would say they leave because very soon they discover they have nothing much in common with you. So, be more careful who you date in the first place, and your relationships will last longer.
Good luck!
2007-09-01 17:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by How Bizzare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find someone that will wait.
I did, I mean me and my girlfriend have been together 4 months and she is just now beginning to show some signs that she is gonna open up to me and tell me how she feels, I mean she is taking her time and that is fine with me.
Someone will wait, trust me.
2007-09-01 17:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Disney Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb they just wanna sleep with you n leave u , either u give it up n they walk away, or you don't give it up n they walk away, either way forget little boys, wait n meet some real guys in college
2007-09-01 17:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk maybe ur boring to them do they seem to ahve funw ith u?
or maybe they just want sex but since they dont get it (im assuming) they move to the next easy victim?
anyway i got dumped aftehr a 8 month relationshiop and i feel horrible if u wanna talk to me feel free to my msn is pimp00641@hotmail.com
2007-09-01 17:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it because you were too quiet or too sahy to talk that they misinterpret u as not interested in them so they called it off?
2007-09-01 17:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by miserable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps since they feel you won't "put out" (and good for you), they look for someone "easy", thus missing your good qualities
2007-09-01 18:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must be the attitude or personality change yourself
2007-09-01 17:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're probably crazy.
2007-09-01 17:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by nobudE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋