Please keep an open mind with these questions: I wonder why it is men who are Christians seem consumed by it, they will beat me over the head with their values. I'm in my mid-20s and a virgin, I want to wait until marriage for sex but can't seem to find a decent guy.... I beleive in God and beleive that all good things in life come through Him -- but I also love movies, books, and music, etc....I can't seem to find a decent men in NYC who isn't either 1. violent or untrustworthy or 2. a religious freak. I don't want someone w/ no morals but I don't someone who is so overly religious that our whole conversations revolve around this.
are there any guys out there who are single christians, who are not "extremely" religious? it not possible for me find a male who is like minded like me: I have 2 tattoos, a tongue piercing. Some Christian men hear this and reject it, I am still a good person, trying to remain virgin b/c sex is for marriage, imo. maybe I just don't understand religion...
2007-09-01 16:26:09 · 18 answers · asked by camillabrightside 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
* I enjoy watching horror movies and listening to rock music, etc. is this why I am not attracting Christian men?
2007-09-01 16:33:02 · update #1
*I pray for the right man. I know this sounds really bad, frankly, I am tired of waiting, lol.
2007-09-01 16:45:57 · update #2
You are perfect. There are a lot of good Christian men out there who would adore you. God will move heaven and earth for a beautful virgin who is saving herself for marriage - tatoos - piercings and all. NYC is HUGE.
You just need to find your purpose in life. Focus on this and God will deliver your husband too. Keep it in daily prayer. Since He's already chosen the man for you - you need to stay focused. God will definately let you know who he is when he comes. He wants you to get it right too!
2007-09-01 16:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Makes Sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , go to your nearest Kingdom Hall Of Jehovah's Witnesses and I grantee you that you will find the most loving and considerate men that will adore you and put you on top of a pedestal. Don't be bothered what other people say, most of what they know is nothing, lies, exaggerations, and absolutely no understanding. All the and they do want virgins and would never take that a way from you until marriage
meetings are public meetings. Just go up to the front door and you will see there
schedule of meetings, Those meetings are exactly the same all over the world all at the same time. If you want to make changes and do something fro yourself I would go, it doesn't cost you anything but your time. All books and literature are free. So what do you have to lose. Just say a brother from the Preston Ct. congregation told me to come. And you will be all set.
Sincerely yours,
Fred M. Hunter
PS and they aren't religious freaks like most people think they are. they go dancing, and drink, go to parties, weddings
anniversaries, watch TV ,sports swim and so on------- just in case people try to tell you some lies about us. Oh yes!! they all work full time jobs, very good ones at that.
You can E-mail me if you want to know more. fmhguitars@yahoo.com
2007-09-01 23:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by fmhguitars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're trying to walk hand n hand with the world and still follow God. Not possible. You cannot serve two masters. Either you will love the one and hate the other. As a Christian you are suppose to be IN the world but not OF the world. If one of your "religious freaks" are true believers, the conversation of God is going to come up in almost everything because, as Christians, that's who we live for. It is in Him that we "move and have our being". I love movies, books, and music too, but if none of it is glorifying God in some way, then I have no part in it. It's not about "religion", it's about RELATIONSHIP, not with a man, but with God. Focus on God then watch that right man find you!
2007-09-01 23:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gail R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lived in California I would tell you to visit the church that I attend http://www.alcf.net
As it is I can only say that you should stay the course and keep it in prayer, asking God to set up a divine appointment for you with a man of his choosing.
Philippians 4:6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus...19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Maybe you can click on the Friendship button @ http://web.express56.com/~bromar/ and find someone.
2007-09-01 23:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a christian man in you life ask God to provide him. Be very specific in your request because God does answer prayers. Note God does not answer prayers of those who have not been saved but asking Jesus into your heart to help guide your life. I have to add that tattoos and the tongue piercing don't go with the christian life. If you got them before you were saved then it is OK but if you read the Bible and you should every day it is very clear we are not to mark our bodies since they are a temple of the living God.
2007-09-01 23:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Curtis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...look for a man who can have an open mind about everything he does. I'm not saying religion shouldn't be the center of his life, there isn't anything wrong with that. He must be able to balance that with the rest of the world. Try and discuss politics with him, perhaps. If He doesn't THINK about things, then he probably isn't worth a date, in my male opinion...but, mostly, look for a man with whom you can communicate freely and love completely.
2007-09-01 23:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Chris B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may want to try a match maker. really. i did it and it was great. they make you take a test, won't work with drunks, cops, mentally ill people etc.
They give the same test pretty much as Match.com. have you ever seen the commercial about people who were not accepted by match.com
it is because they failed the psych test.
Keep looking and hold out for the best guy possible. He is out there. i found one and he's wonderful.
2007-09-01 23:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Koneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that Jesus actually hates lukewarm (wishy washy or lazy) Christians?
Rev 3:15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot.
Rev 3:16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.
Rev 3:17 Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked:
And do you know He hates piercings and tattoos?
1Cr 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
1Cr 6:20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
Grow as a Christian young lady. You will not regret it!
2007-09-01 23:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. The perfect guy will come right along. It did for me.
I am exactly like you.
Love Rock and Metal, and anything Gothic,
God gave me the perfect guy.
But it took time...He's out there..just wait for him.
You'll be much happier if you wait, and get the one God has for you..
Meows! =^-^=
2007-09-01 23:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by † God's Kitty † 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up to him. Pray tonight to find you that someone but if you are not ready he will prepare you to be. I have had that experience.
There is nothing wrong with a tattoo or earings and being a Christan.
2007-09-01 23:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋