My niece invited herself to come stay with me and after two days I'm going bonkers. I live in a small apartment and she's taken over my living room - I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I have dropped hints that she should go stay with another friend of hers in town who has a big house and she could sleep in a bed instead of on my couch - but she seems clueless when I tell her she should go stay there. I feel like turning off the a/c and telling her it's broke to get her to leave! I didn't invite her - she invited herself. I didn't fix dinner tonight and have not offered to entertain her. She doesn't seem to be getting the hints! She just sits on my couch staring at the tv. She's not easy to talk to and doesn't seem to want to budge. Any advice?
2007-09-01 15:23:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this may not be the best answer, but its one off the top of my head.
Since its Labor Day weekend, and you may have a long weekend, tell her that you are leaving for a few days and so you need the house empty. If she tries to talk you into letting her stay while your gone, tell her that you don't feel comfortable having someone stay there in her house alone while she's gone. Offer to drive her somewhere if she needs the ride.
Go something like this "I'm going to be leaving later today until late tomorrow, so when I go, will you be needing a ride? Or are you going to have someone pick you up?"
If she asks to stay, just let out a laugh that shows that her request is beyond reason, and say, "No the house will be fine....besides, since i won't be here I'm naturally going to empty it out and lock it up."
2007-09-01 15:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your niece?
If she is under 18, you need to get her parents to take her back home... you can threaten them with calling children's protective services. Be ready to follow through with a call in to professionals.
You can try to find out what sent her to your doorstep. If she will not open up, you take the bull by the horns and have her pack her stuff to go. You can offer to drop her off some place. Offer her some money to go somewhere, but she cannot stay at your place.
Don't worry about alienating this one. She has the brass to move in on you, and won't think twice about coming back.
She isn't on the lease, she isn't helping pay the bills. Barring actual abuse issues, she should not be your problem. If there is abuse involved, you have to call in professionals anyway.
2007-09-01 16:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hinting. You can't be taken advantage of without your permission, and your niece of taking advantage of the fact that you can't seem to stand up for yourself.
Frankly, she sounds a bit troubled. Have you talked to her mom/dad to see if something is wrong at home that maybe she's trying to get away from? Is she visiting your area, or does she not have anywhere else to live?
Tell her it's been nice to have her drop in so unexpectedly, but, unfortunately, it's not really a good time because you have plans and you need her to leave by tomorrow evening. If she's homeless, it's time to get other family involved.
2007-09-01 15:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't hint... be direct. Say exactly what you feel. If that doesn't work, give her a timeline to vacate your home .... IN WRITING. In some states, you may not be able to "evict" her. If you allow someone to live with you consistently for a period of 2 weeks or more, you become a landlord and must go to court and give them 30 days notice to leave.
2007-09-01 15:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBeeFee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have advice. Quit hinting and start talking. Tell her its time to leave. If you dont you will be asking this question again in 6 months.
She is a moocher and a leech and if you dont learn to stand up for yourself you will be a doormat for everyone who wants to take advantage of you in your life.
Get rid of her by getting mad enough to say enough is enough time to leave.
Then after you get her out get a book on how to be assertive it will help you next time.
2007-09-01 15:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask her how long she intends to stay, and if its only a day or 2 more deal with it if its longer, tell her that the apartment is just too small for extended visitors. Good Luck
2007-09-01 15:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a piece out of the tv. or take it out of the house and tell her it broke on you and your trying to get it repaired but it wont be until a couple of pay checks from now when you can afford it.
2007-09-01 15:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the key in these situations is that you don't let them happen in the first place. Make any excuse necessary.
2007-09-01 15:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of her parents and suggest they do something.
2007-09-01 15:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to get out plain and simple she probably knows its bothering you and doesnt care thats how slackers are!
2007-09-01 15:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmypop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋