My best friend has been dating a guy for about 7 months. She is a catholic and he is a jehovah witness he told her that he could never marry outside of his religion, so if she wanted a future with him her religous beliefs would have to change. She is a very strong religious catholic and he has strong beliefs in his religion as well. but i don't think it fair for him to expect her to give up her religion to become part of his, when he has made it very clear to her that he would never give up his beliefs. is it fair to ask her to give up something for him that he wouldn't give up for her?
2007-09-01 13:21:55 · 32 answers · asked by nans85 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
that sounds like nothing but trouble to me ... if ur going to have irrational beliefs they need to be the same ...
2007-09-01 13:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Jehovah's Witnesses believe in a different God and a different Jesus than Catholics. If she seriously considers giving up her belief system for a man, then she was never committed in the first place, and chances are she will not be committed to her new religion, either.
This is one very good reason to be cautious about who you date. Once you fall in love with somebody, it's very hard to be objective about anything. Unequally yoked is the exact, correct term.
2007-09-01 13:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by RayeKaye 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is a truly devout Catholic then she would not even consider giving up her beliefs. My advice: they should break up.
What I don't understand is how they became attracted to one another to begin with since the beliefs of the two religions are completely at odds.
2007-09-01 13:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by munhasen5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair either. I think he needs to show her by example rather then to force her to change all at once.Sometimes someone might not always believe the same as you do but, this does not mean that we should stop loving them or helping them and those J.W. seem to think that they should not associate with someone who feels different then they do. But it also, tells us in the good book to associate with people who are equally yolked as we are and this means that it is wise to hang around with someone that kinda thinks like you so. For example a non drinker does not need to hang out with drunks. But I think when it comes to religion then as long as both people believe in the basic things like The Father, The Son, and The holy Spirit then maybe things can be worked out through respect and love of each other and each others beliefs. So I'm on your side I think the boyfriend is acting to hastily. God Bless You!
2007-09-01 13:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be fair for her to just walk away. There are other fish in the ocean. She should examine her faith. It may be calling her away from a life of misery. Meaning being with this guy is wrong. If it wasn't religion, it would probably be over clothes or something else.
Besides, he made the first bad move by dating someone, NOT of his faith. HE MADE THE MISTAKE!!!
2007-09-01 13:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Diver Down 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never sacrifice my eternal life for the temporary. They are not equally yoked...if neither of them are willing to give up their beliefs for the other, they should not be together because it will only cause strife in their relationship (being let down because they both think they can convince the other eventually) and it will cause confusion for their children.
When I was single, I never dated outside of my faith.
2007-09-01 13:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by higherlovetx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beliefs are about giving away and hoping love is sufficient for emotions and relationships to flourish. They are also a huge grievance to those trying to establish commitment or making a statement, it does not help there, so I am certain I am without beliefs as others with trust in their consciousness as well.
2007-09-01 13:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Manny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In cases like these, i find religion rather restrictive. It would not be fair to ask her to give up something like that. In this case, I would say, if the couple both loves each other a lot, then break the rules.
2007-09-01 13:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by Swiftwind 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No I do not think it is fair. But dating outside your own Religion causes problems. They both should have seen this coming.
2007-09-01 13:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If one's faith is strong, then that person is steadfast in holding on to their beliefs. I am a Catholic myself, and I would NEVER given up my faith just to be with another person. If that person cannot accept me for who I am and what I believe, then it is a good indicator to me that this person is NOT meant to be for me.
2007-09-01 13:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes sorry, it is absolutely fair. Many Catholics won't marry outside of their faith either. She could have easily made the same demand on him. The fact that she didn't doesn't make it unfair. It just means their standards for an acceptable life partner are different. She is willing to marry outside her faith; he isn't.
2007-09-01 13:26:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋