What should I do?

Question

I'm engaged to be married but I told my fiance I need a break for awhile. We're still getting married but I just need some space right now. My ex called and asked me out for next weekend to go to this formal party on a yacht. I said yes because I didn't think it was a big deal. My cousin told my fiance about it and now he thinks I'm cheating on him but that's not true at all! I'm afraid he will call off the whole thing over something that's no big deal. What should I do?

Answer 1

what you need to do is sit him down for a nice dinner right..... then tell him the WHOLE story!!! Then let him talk and say what he has to say. AND ANSWER ALL THE QUESTIONS!! trust me.. right now trust is really important! be open and honest and sensetive. and my guess is that he will do the same if he truly loves you and he will forgive you. try your hardest not to get in an argument or that will make things worse, look into his eyes DEEPLY the whole time, and at the end say I LOVE YOU and he will know that he is yours not your ex's(and it wouldnt hurt if you mentioned that too). Then after everything is over dont ever mention it again!!! and most importantly try to forget about the whole and acted like it never happened.

Answer 2

First off you have already postponed the wedding by telling your fiance that you you want some space. That has to have him wondering if you really want to get married anyways. Is your ex a good friend. If he is a good friend then I wouldn't consider that cheating. If you told your ex that you wanted some space, did that also come with the understanding that you wanted to see other people?

Answer 3

That was a big no no! You don't have to throw daggers at an ex. you said you needed space,was it just enough space to be free enough from commitment with your current.So you could accept the invitation with your ex.
So, it would be ok if your fiancee,while you were out yachting,took a lady out to dinner?
Are you sure you are ready for an engagement?

Answer 4

You are cheating on him. You're going out with your ex and you didn't clear it with your fiance first. Plus you pretty much "dumped" your fiance to date your ex. A break is just an easy way to say "I don't like you right now."

Answer 5

It seems like cheating, obviously.
By telling him you needed a break,
maybe he thought you needed some
time to think things over about even
getting married. And if your ex called
you up and you didn't tell your fiance,
that explains why it feels like your cheating.

If it's really just no big deal, ask your ex
if his intentions were just as friends and
if so, maybe you two can talk to your fiance
about it.

Answer 6

If you are saying yes to hanging out with your ex, than there is something wrong! An ex is an ex for a reason. If you love your fiance and don't want him to call off the wedding, than don't hang out with your ex!

Answer 7

well its offending ur fiance so call ur ex back and say u cant go unless u bring ur fiance with u ik u want space but dats how it goes and u r not goin to have space anymore if ur getting married u need to figure out if u really want to do this good luck

Answer 8

Well just tell him the truth u that u dont like ur ex anymore u like him thats y why ur going to marry him....that is just a party...it doesnt mean anything

Answer 9

if you need a break from your fiance, and you are going out anywhere at all with your ex, then you need to rethink this relationship. Sorry, but I would be a bit mad about that one.

Answer 10

i would either show to your fiance that your not cheating by either not going, getting your ex to confront your fiance and them him your not cheating, or get your fiance to go to the party with you. be truthful though of course.