What would you do if your daughter joined the army?

Question

From a fathers perspective.

Answer 1

I would have a giant party celebrating her responsibility and patriotism.

Answer 2

I'd support her 110% in her decision; I feel that in these troubled times, the thought of a child joining the military is terrible for some families; however, if my daughter decided that the military would be her choice, then as a parent I must support my child in any decision she takes, wherever I like it or not.

It is not my decision to force her to do what I want her to do, if she is to become a responsible adult, she must make decisions on her own following her own judgement. I will always be there for her, but she needs to make her own mind up and decide what's right. BTW, I'm 32 years old, single and have no children, if that means anything.

Answer 3

Along the way our kids make decisions on their own.. whether we like them or not. Regardless of how we feel as parents, the MOST important thing we can do for our kids is to tell them, through our words and actions, that we love them, we support them, and that we'll be here for them however it turns out.

So, if this is a decision she's making and you're afraid for her safety, or you think it's not a good career move, you need to suck it up and just tell her, "I'll worry about you, but I love you and I support you, no matter what you choose to do!" Then I'd go over her career plan with her.. see what MOS she's looking at, etc... make sure she's picking a job that will utilize and enhance her current skills, so she'll be marketable when her enlistment is over. (If you shut her down at the point of just talkilng about her enlistment, you don't get to help with the other stuff, Dad! She probably won't talk to you about it!)

If you support her enlisting, I suppose you wouldn't be asking this question.

Personally? I couldn't be more proud of my son for serving.

Answer 4

If I had a daughter, I'd tell her to not join the Army but join the good ol Marine Corps and I'd support her in ANYWAY possible.

Answer 5

My dad was incredibly proud of me when I joined, although I remember him telling me at the time that I should have joined the Air Force or Navy ("they treat their people better!") When I finished my enlistment and we talked about my experiences and what I had learned from them, he said that although he had always loved me and been proud of me, he could see that the Army made me a more mature and resourceful person...and that I carried myself differently as a result.

Answer 6

I would support her decision, but I would also be completely blunt with her when it comes to the things she could possibly experience while being in the military. I wouldn't sugarcoat anything at all. If she would still be willing to join after that, I would be very proud of her for taking that step.

Answer 7

Being a member of the military and being a female... I can tell you I don't know one father who isn't proud of their daughter for joining our military. My father himself wanted to join when he was a younger man, but he wasn't allowed to due to medical reasons. For him, it was like I got to fulfill his dream. I think of all my accomplishments in life, that has brought him the most join and pride. But I have to say... it's Air Force all the way...

Answer 8

I would be proud of the fact that she is willing to make such a mature and sobering decision, but it would make me very uneasy. I serve so that others may live... Particularly my family.
Though it would tear me up, I would support her decision.

Answer 9

I would be upset. She join the Marines and continue the family tradition.

Answer 10

If you believe that women are people you would wish her well and help her. She is serving her country, which is a lot more than a lot of Chicken hawks are doing.

Answer 11

I would prefer her to join the Marines, but I would be proud of her and support her.